Come as You Are

Author: Emily Nagoski
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476762111
Release Date: 2015-03-03
Genre: Health & Fitness

***A NEW YORK TIMES BESTELLER*** An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all. The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal. Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm. Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible. And Emily Nagoski can prove it.

Come as You Are

Author: Emily Nagoski
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476762098
Release Date: 2015-03-03
Genre: Health & Fitness

Drawing upon multiple research disciplines, a counselor at the Kinsey Institute describes the factors that affect a woman's sexual wellbeing, including stress, mood, trust and body image and explains how the complications of daily life can affect arousal and desire. Original.

Come as You Are

Author: Emily Nagoski
Publisher: Scribe Publications
ISBN: 9781925113839
Release Date: 2015-04-09
Genre: Health & Fitness

An essential exploration of women’s sexuality that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. After all the books that have been written about sex, all the blogs and TV shows and radio Q&As, how can it be that we all still have so many questions? The frustrating reality is that we’ve been lied to — not deliberately, it’s no one’s fault, but still. We were told the wrong story. Come as You Are reveals the true story behind female sexuality, uncovering the little-known science of what makes us tick and, more importantly, how and why. Sex educator Dr Emily Nagoski debunks the common sexual myths that are making women (and some men!) feel inadequate between the sheets. Underlying almost all of the questions we still have about sex is the common worry: ‘Am I normal?’ This book answers with a resounding Yes! We are all different, but we are all normal — and once we learn this, we can create for ourselves better sex and more profound pleasure than we ever thought possible. PRAISE FOR EMILY NAGOSKI ‘As a literary work, Nagoski’s book deserves plaudits for the rare achievement of merging pop science and the sexual self-help genre in prose that’s not insufferably twee … “You are normal!” doesn’t sound much like a battlecry, but in a world keen to sexually homogenise women from the gap of their thighs to the shape of their mons pubis, the sentiment lands like a bomb.’ The Guardian ‘Come As You Are screams female empowerment loud and proud.’ The Independent

Better Sex Through Mindfulness

Author: Lori A. Brotto, PhD
Publisher: Greystone Books Ltd
ISBN: 9781771642439
Release Date: 2018-04-21
Genre: Health & Fitness

A groundbreaking look at improving desire, arousal, and sexual satisfaction through mindfulness. Studies show that approximately half of all women experience some kind of sexual difficulty at one point in their lives, with lack of interest in sex being by far the most common—and the most distressing. And when sex suffers, so do all other areas of life. But it doesn’t have to be that way. In Better Sex through Mindfulness, acclaimed psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto, offers a groundbreaking approach to improving desire, arousal, and satisfaction inside—and outside of—the bedroom. A pioneer in the use of mindfulness for treating sexual difficulties, Brotto has helped hundreds of women cultivate more exciting, fulfilling sexual experiences. In this accessible, relatable book, she explores the various reasons for sexual problems, such as stress and incessant multitasking, and tells the stories of many of the women she has treated over the years. She also provides easy, effective exercises that readers can do on their own to increase desire and sexual enjoyment, whether their goal is to overcome a sexual difficulty or simply givetheir love life a boost.

Girls Sex

Author: Peggy Orenstein
Publisher: Oneworld Publications
ISBN: 9781786070500
Release Date: 2016-10-06
Genre: Social Science

A generation gap has emerged between parents and their daughters. Mothers and fathers have little idea about the pressures and expectations they face or how they feel about them. Drawing on in-depth interviews with young women and a wide range of psychologists and experts, renowned journalist and bestselling author Peggy Orenstein goes where most others fear to tread, pulling back the curtain on the hidden truths and hard lessons of girls’ sex lives in the modern world.

The Sex Myth

Author: Rachel Hills
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781451685800
Release Date: 2015-08-04
Genre: Social Science

From a bold new feminist voice, a book that will change the way you think about your sex life. Fifty years after the sexual revolution, we are told that we live in a time of unprecedented sexual freedom; that if anything, we are too free now. But beneath the veneer of glossy hedonism, millennial journalist Rachel Hills argues that we are controlled by a new brand of sexual convention: one which influences all of us—woman or man, straight or gay, liberal or conservative. At the root of this silent code lies the Sex Myth—the defining significance we invest in sexuality that once meant we were dirty if we did have sex, and now means we are defective if we don’t do it enough. Equal parts social commentary, pop culture, and powerful personal anecdotes from people across the English-speaking world, The Sex Myth exposes the invisible norms and unspoken assumptions that shape the way we think about sex today.

Arousal

Author: Michael J. Bader
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 0312302428
Release Date: 2003-01-18
Genre: Health & Fitness

Based on his twenty-five years of experience as a psychotherapist, a renowned doctor furnishes a new theory of sexual desire that allows readers to comprehend their own sexual preferences and fantasises, and those of their partners. Reprint.

What You Really Really Want

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580054300
Release Date: 2011-10-25
Genre: Health & Fitness

In this empowering, accessible guide, Jaclyn Friedman—co-editor of Yes Means Yes—gives young women the tools to decipher the modern world’s confusing, hypersexualized, sometimes dangerous landscape so they can define their own sexual identity. Friedman decries the hypocrisy and mixed messages of our culture (we’re failures if we don’t act sexy, but we’re sluts if we actually pursue sex; we need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve “whatever we get” if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt), and encourages readers to separate fear from fact, decode the damaging messages all around them, and discover a healthy personal sexuality. Educational and interactive, What You Really Really Want includes revealing quizzes, creative exercises, and reality-based advice about sex and sexuality today. With Friedman’s informed advice to guide them, readers will build new skills for safely expressing their sexuality with lovers and explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friends—and learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone else’s sexuality along the way.

Sexual Fluidity

Author: Lisa M Diamond
Publisher: Harvard University Press
ISBN: 0674026241
Release Date: 2008
Genre: Psychology

Calls for new categories in sexual identity for women based on research that concludes that they tend to be attracted to the individual rather than gender and their sexuality fluctuates more than men, which stays fixed once established.

She Comes First

Author: Ian Kerner
Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
ISBN: 0060538260
Release Date: 2010-01-05
Genre: Health & Fitness

As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. But in the world of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to sex therapist (and evangelist of the female orgasm) Ian Kerner, oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay: simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again. Can you say "viva la vulva"? Fun and informative, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring that sexual fulfillment is mutual.

Closer

Author: Sarah Barmak
Publisher:
ISBN: 1552453235
Release Date: 2016-06-22
Genre: Health & Fitness

A provocative look at why our current understanding of female sexuality isn't getting us off.

Reclaiming Desire

Author: Andrew Goldstein
Publisher: Rodale Books
ISBN: 9781605294933
Release Date: 2009-06-09
Genre: Health & Fitness

- I'm so busy and tired, how can I find time for sex? - How can I go from mommy one minute to passionate lover the next? - What medicines or natural herbs can I take to improve my libido? At some point in their lives, most women experience a decline in their sexual desire. Yet despite the vast number of books devoted to sex, surprisingly few focus on the problem of low libido. Fewer still offer any practical advice to the woman who has lost her sex drive and longs to find it again. Reclaiming Desire presents the holistic approach that gynecologist Andrew Goldstein and clinical psychologist Marianne Brandon--co-founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland--use to successfully treat women with low libido. Capitalizing on their combined medical and psychological expertise, they reveal how a complex set of physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual factors--as well as specific life-changing events such as marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, divorce, and menopause--can affect female sex drive. Reading this book, women will come to understand that low libido isn't "all in their heads"--or all in their bodies, for that matter. The problem is real and it's diverse--but it's curable.

Sex Matters for Women

Author: Sallie Foley
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781609184698
Release Date: 2011-12-13
Genre: Self-Help

A guide to help women understand how their bodies work and to take charge of their sexuality, discussing anatomy, body image, trauma, overcoming difficulties, and related topics.

Real Sex

Author: Mike Lousada
Publisher: Hay House, Inc
ISBN: 9781781808993
Release Date: 2017-05-30
Genre: Self-Help

The more modern culture shines its light on sex, the longer the shadow it casts. This shadow is commercialism, pornography and shame. This approach to sexuality distorts it to create performance pressure, increasing numbers of sexual 'dysfunctions' and a fundamental disconnect from ourselves and others.

Yet sexuality is one of the most important paths to happiness, simply because it requires us to engage all the other aspects of ourselves. To have deeply satisfying sex we must engage the mind, the body and our feelings. Real Sex will show you how almost everything that our society has tried to teach you about your sexuality is misleading or simply wrong. Real Sex is a journey into the heart of your sexual self; a way of creating meaningful and fulfilling intimacy. It sets out seven keys that will teach you how to love and accept your mind, body, feelings, desires and sexuality at a deeper level, leaving behind feelings of guilt, insecurity and shame.

Real Sex offers a new, integrated idea of sexuality that holds a positive perspective of the sexual beings that we are; longing for intimacy and aliveness that we know deep down makes our lives meaningful.