Conflict Communication

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594393327
Release Date: 2016-03-01
Genre: Social Science

Your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group. Conflict happens everywhere: at work, with friends and family, among strangers, and certainly in violence. Why did your boss ignore a suggestion that could save millions of dollars? Why do you have the same argument again and again with your spouse? When someone insults you, why do you get angry? Why do bad guys beat up the weak? You have three brains. • Lizard brain (survival) • Monkey brain (emotion / social status) • Human brain (reason) Each “brain” has a different priority and evolved to deal with different kinds of conflict. They work using different scripts and have a very clear seniority system. Conflict Communication (ConCom) presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand, and manipulate the roots of life’s conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts. No going back. After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you reject everything in the program, even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations toward conflict will never again be invisible to you. As the fortune cookie says, “Your life is about to change.”

Conflict Communication Concom

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: Ymaa Publications
ISBN: 1594393311
Release Date: 2015-06-07
Genre: Psychology

This book presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand and manipulate the roots of life's conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts. You may not realize that your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group. Once recognized, you can take actions that will reduce your chances of being caught up in conflicts. After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations leading to conflict will never again be invisible to you.

Facing Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594392375
Release Date: 2014-04-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

This book stands alone as an introduction to the context of self-defense. There are seven elements that must be addressed to bring self-defense training to something approaching ‘complete.’ Training that dismisses any of these areas leaves you vulnerable: Legal and ethical implications. To learn self-defense, you must learn force law. The consequence is prison. Side by side with the legal rules, everyone must explore his or her own ethical limitations. Most people don’t really know where this ethical line lies within them. Violence dynamics. Self-defense must teach how attacks happen. You must be able to recognize an attack before it happens and know what kind you are facing. Avoidance. You need to learn and practice not-fighting. Learning includes escape and evasion, verbal de-escalation, and also pure not-be-there avoidance. Counter-ambush. If you didn’t see the precursors or couldn’t successfully avoid the encounter, you will need a handful of actions, trained to reflex level, to deal with a sudden violent attack. Breaking the freeze. Freezing is almost universal in a sudden attack. You must learn to recognize a freeze and break out of one. The fight itself. Most martial arts and self-defense instructors concentrate their time on the fight. It just needs to be in line with how violence really happens in the world. The aftermath. There are potential legal, psychological, and medical effects of engaging in violence no matter how justified. Advanced preparation is critical.

Scaling Force

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: Ymaa Publications
ISBN: 1594392501
Release Date: 2012-10-16
Genre: Social Science

Provides a range of options, from skillfully doing nothing to applying deadly force, designed to prevent violence or, if that is not possible, to defend oneself against it as effectively as possible.

Training for Sudden Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594393815
Release Date: 2016-08-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

The speed and brutality of a predatory attack can shock even an experienced martial artist. The sudden chaos, the cascade of stress hormones—you feel as though time slows down. In reality, the assault is over in an instant. How does anyone prepare for that? As a former corrections sergeant and tactical team leader, Rory Miller is a proven survivor. He instructs police and corrections professionals who, in many cases, receive only eight hours of defensive tactics training each year. They need techniques that work and they need unflinching courage. In Training for Sudden Violence: 72 Practical Drills Miller gives you the tools to prepare and prevail, both physically and psychologically. He shares hard-won lessons from a world most of us hope we never experience. • Train in fundamentals, combat drills, and dynamic fighting. • Develop situational awareness. • Condition yourself through stress inoculation. • Take a critical look at your training habits. “You don’t get to pick where fights go,” Miller writes. That’s why he has created a series of drills to train you for the worst of it. You will defend yourself on your feet, on the ground, against weapons, in a crowd, and while blindfolded. You will reevaluate your training scenarios—keeping what works, discarding what does not, and improving your chances of survival. Miller’s “internal work,” “world work,” and “plastic mind” exercises will challenge you in ways that mere physical training does not. Sections include • Stalking • Escape and evasion • The predator mind • Personal threat assessment This is a fight for your life, and it won’t happen on a nice soft mat. It will get, as Miller says, “all kinds of messy.” Training for Sudden Violence: 72 Practical Drills prepares you for that mess.

Meditations on Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594391408
Release Date: 2014-08-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

A Comparison of Martial Arts Training & Real-World Violence. Experienced martial artist and veteran correction officer Sgt. Rory Miller distills what he has learned from jailhouse brawls, tactical operations and ambushes to explore the differences between martial arts and the subject martial arts were designed to deal with: Violence. In section one, Sgt. Miller introduces the myths, metaphors and expectations that most martial artists have about what they will ultimately learn in their dojo. This is then compared with the complexity of the reality of violence. Complexity is one of the recurring themes throughout this work. Section two examines how to think critically about violence, how to evaluate sources of knowledge and clearly explains the concepts of strategy and tactics. Sections three and four focus on the dynamics of violence itself and the predators who perpetuate it. Drawing on hundreds of encounters and thousands of hours spent with criminals Sgt. Miller explains the types of violence; how, where, when and why it develops; the effects of adrenaline; how criminals think, and even the effects of drugs and altered states of consciousness in a fight. Section five centers on training for violence, and adapting your present training methods to that reality. It discusses the pros and cons of modern and ancient martial arts training and gives a unique insight into early Japanese kata as a military training method. Section six is all about how to make self-defense work. Miller examines how to look at defense in a broader context, and how to overcome some of your own subconscious resistance to meeting violence with violence. The last section deals with the aftermath—the cost of surviving sudden violence or violent environments, how it can change you for good or bad. It gives advice for supervisors and even for instructors on how to help a student/survivor. You’ll even learn a bit about enlightenment. Rory Miller has served for seventeen years in corrections as an officer and sergeant working maximum security, booking and mental health; leading a tactical team; and teaching subjects ranging from Defensive Tactics and Use of Force to First Aid and Crisis Communications with the Mentally Ill.

How to Avoid Being Killed in a War Zone

Author: Rosie Garthwaite
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
ISBN: 9781608196968
Release Date: 2011-06-21
Genre: Transportation

Whether you're a war correspondent or an aid worker, a tourist worried about an increasingly hostile world or an armchair traveler concerned that your own backyard is fast becoming a war zone, How to Avoid Being Killed in a War Zone will help you survive some of the world's most volatile environments. Well-traveled journalist Rosie Garthwaite offers practical advice drawn from her own personal experience and that of others, including many seasoned colleagues, who have worked in some of the world's most hostile regions. Topics covered include everything from avoiding land mines and hostage situations to amputating a limb and foraging for safe food. The book is a true survival manual (all medical advice has been vetted by doctors from Doctors Without Borders), but it is also a transporting read, filled with vicarious thrills and written with brio and humor by a woman who has seen it all. Perfect for those planning short trips or extended stays in dangerous destinations, or-much like the popular Worst-Case Scenario handbooks-for readers who simply prefer to be thoroughly prepared, wherever life may take them.

Verbal Judo

Author: George J. Thompson, PhD
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0060577657
Release Date: 2004-03-02
Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines

Improve communication, resolve conflicts, and avoid the most common conversational disasters through simple, easily remembered strategies that deflect and redirect negative behaviour. Verbal Judo is the martial art of the mind and mouth that can show you how to be better prepared in every verbal encounter. Listen and speak more effectively, engage people through empathy (the most powerful word in the English language), avoid the most common conversational disasters, and use proven strategies that allow you to successfully communicate your point of view and take the upper hand in most disputes.

First Defense

Author: David Hopkins, PhD
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594393433
Release Date: 2015-11-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

Anxiety is your built-in self-defense system. Use it. Anxiety happens whether you like it or not. It’s your body’s way of telling you “something is wrong here.” Learning how to use anxiety as a personal weapon for self-defense is the best way you can achieve awareness and avoidance, which are the first two steps learned in self-defense preparedness training. Everyone is born with an instinctual survival mechanism. In fact, it has kept humankind safe for millennia. Unfortunately, most of us have been conditioned to ignore it. That’s dangerous. • Understand why your instincts are the key to making the right decisions. • Recognize how anxiety is the link between decision-making and instinct. • Learn how to be completely in the moment, so you can coordinate anxiety and instinct into a highly effective decision-making process. You will learn how to develop personal safety skills by doing thought exercises, both in your home and in public spaces. These important exercises will help you become more aware of your surroundings and empower you to make the right decision on what or who to avoid. First Defense should be read by most people, including • Parents • Seniors • College students • Martial artists (especially females) • Employees of midsize to large companies • Teachers “This book belongs in the library of any martial artist, law enforcement and military professional, close protection agent, and anyone interested in augmenting their warrior skills.” —Tomer Israel, chief of Israeli Tactical School

When Violence Is the Answer

Author: Tim Larkin
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 9780316354639
Release Date: 2017-09-05
Genre: Social Science

In a civilized society, violence is rarely the answer. But when it is-it's the only answer. The sound of breaking glass downstairs in the middle of the night. The words, "Move and you die." The hands on your child, or the knife to your throat. In this essential book, self-protection expert and former military intelligence officer Tim Larkin changes the way we think about violence in order to save our lives. By deconstructing our assumptions about violence-its morality, its function in modern society, how it actually works-Larkin unlocks the shackles of our own taboos and arms us with what we need to know to prevent, prepare for, and survive the unthinkable event of life-or-death violence. Through a series of harrowing true-life stories, Larkin demonstrates that violence is a tool equally effective in the hands of the "bad guy" or the "good guy"; that the person who acts first, fastest and with the full force of their body is the one who survives; and that each and every one of us is capable of being that person when our lives are at stake. An indispensable resource, When Violence is the Answer will remain with you long after you've finished reading, as the bedrock of your self-protection skills and knowledge.

Sharpening the Warrior s Edge

Author: Bruce K. Siddle
Publisher: Human Factor Research Group Incorporated
ISBN: 0964920506
Release Date: 1995
Genre: Psychology

Sharpening The Warrior's Edge is the first text which examines survival and combat performance from a scientific perspective. Author Bruce K. Siddle methodically brings together one hundred years of research which identifies the relationship between survuval stress, the heart rate and combat performance. Beyond mere theory, the test explains ... why combat performance and reaction time deteriorates under the effects of survival stress, why and how perceptual and visual narrowing occurs during combat, an insight into Survival Stress Management techniques designed for combat, how to develop a training methodology which combines educational psychology, neurobiology, principles of learning and motor learning research. Most importantly, Siddle explores the psychological and spiritual components which establish the warrior mindset. This pioneering text is a must read for present -day warriors, or anyone involved in use of force, combat or martial arts training.

Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher:
ISBN: 1481921460
Release Date: 2013-03-30
Genre: Fiction

Violence: A Writer's Guide (Second Edition) introduces writers to a world of terror, pain and blood. A world where lives are changed forever in a few desperate seconds. A world where innocent people, heroes, and the most depraved criminals live, thrive, suffer and die in a constant struggle for survival. This is your world. It's the real world. Bad things happen in the real world. This book is for writers who write about assault, fighting, war, and other conflict. For writers who write about violence.

Real Fighting

Author: Peyton Quinn
Publisher: Paladin Press
ISBN: 0873648935
Release Date: 1996-07-01
Genre: Self-Help

Techniques learned in the dojo rarely work in a real fight. Here the author of A Bouncer's Guide to Barroom Brawling offers a practical solution. Learn how to control the rush of adrenaline into your system and harness it effectively to shut down the bully's antics or pound him into the pavement when all else fails.