Conflict Communication

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594393327
Release Date: 2016-03-01
Genre: Social Science

Your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group. Conflict happens everywhere: at work, with friends and family, among strangers, and certainly in violence. Why did your boss ignore a suggestion that could save millions of dollars? Why do you have the same argument again and again with your spouse? When someone insults you, why do you get angry? Why do bad guys beat up the weak? You have three brains. • Lizard brain (survival) • Monkey brain (emotion / social status) • Human brain (reason) Each “brain” has a different priority and evolved to deal with different kinds of conflict. They work using different scripts and have a very clear seniority system. Conflict Communication (ConCom) presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand, and manipulate the roots of life’s conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts. No going back. After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you reject everything in the program, even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations toward conflict will never again be invisible to you. As the fortune cookie says, “Your life is about to change.”

Conflict Communication Concom

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: Ymaa Publications
ISBN: 1594393311
Release Date: 2015-06-07
Genre: Psychology

This book presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand and manipulate the roots of life's conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts. You may not realize that your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group. Once recognized, you can take actions that will reduce your chances of being caught up in conflicts. After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations leading to conflict will never again be invisible to you.

Facing Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594392375
Release Date: 2014-04-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

This book stands alone as an introduction to the context of self-defense. There are seven elements that must be addressed to bring self-defense training to something approaching ‘complete.’ Training that dismisses any of these areas leaves you vulnerable: Legal and ethical implications. To learn self-defense, you must learn force law. The consequence is prison. Side by side with the legal rules, everyone must explore his or her own ethical limitations. Most people don’t really know where this ethical line lies within them. Violence dynamics. Self-defense must teach how attacks happen. You must be able to recognize an attack before it happens and know what kind you are facing. Avoidance. You need to learn and practice not-fighting. Learning includes escape and evasion, verbal de-escalation, and also pure not-be-there avoidance. Counter-ambush. If you didn’t see the precursors or couldn’t successfully avoid the encounter, you will need a handful of actions, trained to reflex level, to deal with a sudden violent attack. Breaking the freeze. Freezing is almost universal in a sudden attack. You must learn to recognize a freeze and break out of one. The fight itself. Most martial arts and self-defense instructors concentrate their time on the fight. It just needs to be in line with how violence really happens in the world. The aftermath. There are potential legal, psychological, and medical effects of engaging in violence no matter how justified. Advanced preparation is critical.

Scaling Force

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: Ymaa Publications
ISBN: 1594392501
Release Date: 2012-10-16
Genre: Social Science

Provides a range of options, from skillfully doing nothing to applying deadly force, designed to prevent violence or, if that is not possible, to defend oneself against it as effectively as possible.

Training for Sudden Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594393815
Release Date: 2016-08-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

The speed and brutality of a predatory attack can shock even an experienced martial artist. The sudden chaos, the cascade of stress hormones—you feel as though time slows down. In reality, the assault is over in an instant. How does anyone prepare for that? As a former corrections sergeant and tactical team leader, Rory Miller is a proven survivor. He instructs police and corrections professionals who, in many cases, receive only eight hours of defensive tactics training each year. They need techniques that work and they need unflinching courage. In Training for Sudden Violence: 72 Practical Drills Miller gives you the tools to prepare and prevail, both physically and psychologically. He shares hard-won lessons from a world most of us hope we never experience. • Train in fundamentals, combat drills, and dynamic fighting. • Develop situational awareness. • Condition yourself through stress inoculation. • Take a critical look at your training habits. “You don’t get to pick where fights go,” Miller writes. That’s why he has created a series of drills to train you for the worst of it. You will defend yourself on your feet, on the ground, against weapons, in a crowd, and while blindfolded. You will reevaluate your training scenarios—keeping what works, discarding what does not, and improving your chances of survival. Miller’s “internal work,” “world work,” and “plastic mind” exercises will challenge you in ways that mere physical training does not. Sections include • Stalking • Escape and evasion • The predator mind • Personal threat assessment This is a fight for your life, and it won’t happen on a nice soft mat. It will get, as Miller says, “all kinds of messy.” Training for Sudden Violence: 72 Practical Drills prepares you for that mess.

Meditations on Violence

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: YMAA Publication Center, Inc.
ISBN: 9781594391408
Release Date: 2014-08-01
Genre: Sports & Recreation

A Comparison of Martial Arts Training & Real-World Violence. Experienced martial artist and veteran correction officer Sgt. Rory Miller distills what he has learned from jailhouse brawls, tactical operations and ambushes to explore the differences between martial arts and the subject martial arts were designed to deal with: Violence. In section one, Sgt. Miller introduces the myths, metaphors and expectations that most martial artists have about what they will ultimately learn in their dojo. This is then compared with the complexity of the reality of violence. Complexity is one of the recurring themes throughout this work. Section two examines how to think critically about violence, how to evaluate sources of knowledge and clearly explains the concepts of strategy and tactics. Sections three and four focus on the dynamics of violence itself and the predators who perpetuate it. Drawing on hundreds of encounters and thousands of hours spent with criminals Sgt. Miller explains the types of violence; how, where, when and why it develops; the effects of adrenaline; how criminals think, and even the effects of drugs and altered states of consciousness in a fight. Section five centers on training for violence, and adapting your present training methods to that reality. It discusses the pros and cons of modern and ancient martial arts training and gives a unique insight into early Japanese kata as a military training method. Section six is all about how to make self-defense work. Miller examines how to look at defense in a broader context, and how to overcome some of your own subconscious resistance to meeting violence with violence. The last section deals with the aftermath—the cost of surviving sudden violence or violent environments, how it can change you for good or bad. It gives advice for supervisors and even for instructors on how to help a student/survivor. You’ll even learn a bit about enlightenment. Rory Miller has served for seventeen years in corrections as an officer and sergeant working maximum security, booking and mental health; leading a tactical team; and teaching subjects ranging from Defensive Tactics and Use of Force to First Aid and Crisis Communications with the Mentally Ill.

Verbal Judo

Author: George J. Thompson, PhD
Publisher: Zondervan
ISBN: 9780062031686
Release Date: 2010-10-12
Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines

Improve communication, resolve conflicts, and avoid the most common conversational disasters through simple, easily remembered strategies that deflect and redirect negative behaviour. Verbal Judo is the martial art of the mind and mouth that can show you how to be better prepared in every verbal encounter. Listen and speak more effectively, engage people through empathy (the most powerful word in the English language), avoid the most common conversational disasters, and use proven strategies that allow you to successfully communicate your point of view and take the upper hand in most disputes.

Chiron Training Journal

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher:
ISBN: 0615968597
Release Date: 2014-02-27
Genre:

Knowledge is power. But understanding is better. You can learn things in a class, but only by analysis, reflection and, above all, testing do you come to understand. The Chiron Training Journal is a place to think and write, to document your journey and your growth. Whether you are a martial artist, a self-defense instructor, a gardener or a writer, journaling will help you understand your past and plan your future in whatever art you study. The CTJ will walk you through setting long-term goals; deriving your own personal lists of the building block skills, principles and concepts that guide your art; and track what you do and what you learn. This is your book. This is your life. Fill it up with good stuff.

Tactical Communication

Author: James Goolsby
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 1541257022
Release Date: 2017-03-10
Genre:

Tactical Communication for Law Enforcement and Security is the ultimate guide to conflict resolution. Designed with police officers in mind, but filled with tools and techniques that anyone can use, topics include how to approach people and start a conversation, how to deal with difficult people, how to recognize the different personality types, and how to handle complaints. Plus much, much more.

When Violence Is the Answer

Author: Tim Larkin
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 9780316354639
Release Date: 2017-09-05
Genre: Social Science

In a civilized society, violence is rarely the answer. But when it is-it's the only answer. The sound of breaking glass downstairs in the middle of the night. The words, "Move and you die." The hands on your child, or the knife to your throat. In this essential book, self-protection expert and former military intelligence officer Tim Larkin changes the way we think about violence in order to save our lives. By deconstructing our assumptions about violence-its morality, its function in modern society, how it actually works-Larkin unlocks the shackles of our own taboos and arms us with what we need to know to prevent, prepare for, and survive the unthinkable event of life-or-death violence. Through a series of harrowing true-life stories, Larkin demonstrates that violence is a tool equally effective in the hands of the "bad guy" or the "good guy"; that the person who acts first, fastest and with the full force of their body is the one who survives; and that each and every one of us is capable of being that person when our lives are at stake. An indispensable resource, When Violence is the Answer will remain with you long after you've finished reading, as the bedrock of your self-protection skills and knowledge.

Principles Based Instruction for Self Defense and Maybe Life

Author: Rory Miller
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 1981178163
Release Date: 2017-11-28
Genre:

Rory Miller is one of the leaders in the modern self-defense industry. His previous books, especially Meditations on Violence, Facing Violence and Conflict Communications, have changed the dialogue on violence and conflict. His ability to clarify seemingly complex problems and develop practical solutions have made him an instructor with a world-wide following. In Principles Based Instruction Miller delves deep into teaching methodology. Why do current methods fail under pressure? What might work? With information on teaching problem students and elite teams, designing curriculum and evaluating sources, Principles is a unique and necessary book for anyone dealing with or training for, high-risk, chaotic situations. Including life.

Protect Your Family Against Terrorism

Author: Angus Weston
Publisher: Andrews UK Limited
ISBN: 9781785386640
Release Date: 2017-04-20
Genre: Reference

Today we are all living under a credible terrorist threat, yet many people remain unprepared. Would you and your family know how to react if you were caught up in a terrorist attack? Do you take the necessary steps to protect your family from potential atrocities whenever you leave home? This book delivers the advice you need to ensure you and your family stay safe. Written in an easy-to-understand format by security experts with many years of field experience in both military and civilian scenarios, it describes how best to prepare for the possibility of an attack, how to react should an incident occur close to you, and what to do in the immediate aftermath. With sections that cover a range of scenarios from an attack on the underground or on public transport to an incident at a beach hotel or even on a cruise ship, you will find straight-talking, no-nonsense advice based on real scenarios that ensures you and your loved ones can make decisions and take action that could mean the difference between life and death. In addition to the various specific scenarios, you are also provided with advice on how to enhance your situational awareness in any situation, enabling you to protect your family from the next inevitable attack. Also included is a comprehensive checklist detailing actions to take prior to travelling away from home. Terrorist atrocities are becoming more frequent. Don’t let your family find themselves in a dangerous situation without the knowledge of how best to react - Protect Your Family from Terrorism.

How to Avoid Being Killed in a War Zone

Author: Rosie Garthwaite
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
ISBN: 9781608195855
Release Date: 2011-06-21
Genre: Health & Fitness

Offers advice on surviving the extreme conditions of war zones, covering topics ranging from how to avoid land mines and amputate a limb to handling hostage situations and foraging for safe food.

Protecting the Gift

Author: Gavin De Becker
Publisher: Dell
ISBN: 9780307833693
Release Date: 2013-05-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

Safety skills for children outside the home Warning signs of sexual abuse How to screen baby-sitters and choose schools Strategies for keeping teenagers safe from violence All parents face the same challenges when it comes to their children's safety: whom to trust, whom to distrust, what to believe, what to doubt, what to fear, and what not to fear. In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the nation's leading expert on predicting violent behavior and author of the monumental bestseller The Gift of Fear, offers practical new steps to enhance children's safety at every age level, giving you the tools you need to allow your kids freedom without losing sleep yourself. With daring and compassion, he shatters the widely held myths about danger and safety and helps parents find some certainty about life's highest-stakes questions: How can I know a baby-sitter won't turn out to be someone who harms my child? (see page 103) What should I ask child-care professionals when I interview them? (see page 137) What's the best way to prepare my child for walking to school alone? (see page 91) How can my child be safer at school? (see page 175) How can I spot sexual predators? (see page 148) What should I do if my child is lost in public? (see page 86) How can I teach my child about risk without causing too much fear? (see page 98) What must my teenage daughter know in order to be safe? (see page 191) What must my teenage son know in order to be safe? (see page 218) And finally, in the face of all these questions, how can I reduce the worrying? (see page 56)