Grief Is a Journey

Author: Kenneth J. Doka
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476771519
Release Date: 2017-04-18
Genre: Family & Relationships

In this “volume of rare sensitivity, penetrating understanding, and profound insights” (Rabbi Earl A. Grollman, author of Living When a Loved One Has Died), Dr. Kenneth Doka explores a new, compassionate way to grieve, explaining that grief is not an illness to get over but an individual and ongoing journey. There is no “one-size-fits-all” way to cope with loss. The vital bonds that we form with those we love in life continue long after death—in very different ways. Grief Is a Journey is the first book to overturn prevailing, often judgmental, ideas about grief and replace them with a hopeful, inclusive, personalized, and research-backed approach. New science and studies behind Dr. Doka’s teaching upend the dominant but incorrect view that grief proceeds by stages. Dr. Doka helps us realize that our experiences following a death are far more individual and much less predictable than the conventional “five stages” model would have us believe. Common patterns of experiencing and expressing grief still prevail, yet many other life changes accompany a primary loss. For example, the deaths of parents, even for adults, modify family patterns, change relationships, and alter old family rituals. Unique to this book, Dr. Doka also explains how to cope with disenfranchised grief—the types of loss that are not so readily recognized or supported by society. These include the death of ex-spouses, as well as non-fatal losses such as divorce, the end of a friendship, job loss, or infertility. In addition, Dr. Doka considers losses that might be stigmatized, including death by suicide or from disease or self-destructive behaviors such as smoking or alcoholism. And finally, Dr. Doka reminds us that, however painful, grief provides opportunities for growth.

Grief Is a Journey

Author: Kenneth J. Doka
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476771533
Release Date: 2016-04-12
Genre: Self-Help

In this “volume of rare sensitivity, penetrating understanding, and profound insights” (Rabbi Earl A. Grollman, author of Living When a Loved One Has Died), Dr. Kenneth Doka explores a new, compassionate way to grieve, explaining that grief is not an illness to get over but an individual and ongoing journey. There is no “one-size-fits-all” way to cope with loss. The vital bonds that we form with those we love in life continue long after death—in very different ways. Grief Is a Journey is the first book to overturn prevailing, often judgmental, ideas about grief and replace them with a hopeful, inclusive, personalized, and research-backed approach. New science and studies behind Dr. Doka’s teaching upend the dominant but incorrect view that grief proceeds by stages. Dr. Doka helps us realize that our experiences following a death are far more individual and much less predictable than the conventional “five stages” model would have us believe. Common patterns of experiencing and expressing grief still prevail, yet many other life changes accompany a primary loss. For example, the deaths of parents, even for adults, modify family patterns, change relationships, and alter old family rituals. Unique to this book, Dr. Doka also explains how to cope with disenfranchised grief—the types of loss that are not so readily recognized or supported by society. These include the death of ex-spouses, as well as non-fatal losses such as divorce, the end of a friendship, job loss, or infertility. In addition, Dr. Doka considers losses that might be stigmatized, including death by suicide or from disease or self-destructive behaviors such as smoking or alcoholism. And finally, Dr. Doka reminds us that, however painful, grief provides opportunities for growth.

Grief Is a Journey

Author: Kenneth J. Doka
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476771489
Release Date: 2016-04-12
Genre: Family & Relationships

"A new, compassionate way to understand grief as an individual and ongoing journey"--

Getting Grief Right

Author: Patrick O’Malley
Publisher: Sounds True
ISBN: 9781622038206
Release Date: 2017-07-01
Genre: Self-Help

When the New York Times ran Patrick O’Malley’s story about the loss of his infant son—and how his inability to “move on” challenged everything he was taught as a psychotherapist—it inspired an unprecedented flood of gratitude from readers. What he shared was a truth that many have felt but rarely acknowledged by the professionals they turn to: that our grief is not a mental illness to be cured, but part of the abiding connection with the one we’ve lost. Illuminated by O’Malley’s own story and those of many clients that he’s supported, readers learn how the familiar “stages of grief” too often mislabel our sorrow as a disorder, press us to “get over it,” and amplify our suffering with shame and guilt when we do not achieve “closure” in due course. “Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning—all the experiences of grief—are a part of the narrative of love,” reflects O’Malley. Here, with uncommon sensitivity and support, he invites us to explore grief not as a process of recovery, but as the ongoing narrative of our relationship with the one we’ve lost—to be fully felt, told, and woven into our lives. For those in bereavement and anyone supporting those who are, Getting Grief Right offers an uncommonly empathetic guide to opening to our sorrow as the full expression of our love.

The Gifts of Grief

Author: Therese Tappouni
Publisher: Hierophant Publishing
ISBN: 9781938289132
Release Date: 2013-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

At some point in our lives, we all experience grief:The death of a loved one, a financial catastrophe, a debilitating illness, or the ending of a marriage. In the dark moments that follow these losses, life can seem hopeless and unbearable. Author Therèse Tappouni knows this journey all too well. After suffering the devastating loss of her eleven-year-old son, she ultimately came to the realization that it is possible to not only heal from grief, but to find gifts from the deepest places of despair. The Gifts of Grief: Finding the Light in the Darkness of Loss explores the grieving process and examines new ways to heal from the inside out. Couched in Tappouni’s warm and comforting prose, and steeped in examples from her own experiences with deep loss, Therèse is able to walk the reader through the grieving process, while keeping in mind that the journey will be different for every person. Complete with guided audio mediations and journaling exercises, The Gifts of Grief offers a compassionate path from loss and emptiness into wholeness, teaching not only how to survive grief, but also adapt and evolve new blessings from it as well.

Disenfranchised grief

Author: Kenneth J. Doka
Publisher: Jossey-Bass
ISBN: 066917081X
Release Date: 1989-08-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

A rich and full exploration of the myriad of instances where a mourner is deprived of the catharsis shared grief brings. Provides numerous interventions designed to help patients recognize and explore their loss, and find meaningful and appropriate ways to resolve their grief.

Grieving Mindfully

Author: Sameet M. Kumar
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608824250
Release Date: 2005-07-01
Genre: Self-Help

Grief is a personal journey, never the same for any two people and as unique as your life and your relationships. Although loss is an inevitable part of life, how you approach this fact can make the difference between meaningless pain and the manifestation of understanding and wisdom. This book describes a mindful approach to dealing with grief that can help you make that difference. By walking this mindful path, you will discover that you are capable of transforming and healing the grief you carry and finding the spiritual and emotional resilience you need to move through this challenging time. These mindfulness practices, explained here in simple and practical language, will help you bear your time of grief. But they will do more than that, too. They will guide you to a life more fully lived, with more meaning. These simple practices will help you experience what richness comes from asking deeper questions about loss and about life.

Bearing the Unbearable

Author: Joanne Cacciatore
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781614292968
Release Date: 2017-06-27
Genre: Family & Relationships

If you love, you will grieve—and nothing is more mysteriously central to becoming fully human. When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable—especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, “NO!” with every fiber of our body. The process of grieving can feel wild and nonlinear—and often lasts for much longer than other people, the nonbereaved, tell us it should. Organized into fifty-two short chapters, Bearing the Unbearable is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity. Dr. Joanne Cacciatore—bereavement educator, researcher, Zen priest, and leading counselor in the field—accompanies us along the heartbreaking path of love, loss, and grief. Through moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities—as well as her own experience with loss—Cacciatore opens a space to process, integrate, and deeply honor our grief. Not just for the bereaved, Bearing the Unbearable will be required reading for grief counselors, therapists and social workers, clergy of all varieties, educators, academics, and medical professionals. Organized into fifty-two accessible and stand-alone chapters, this book is also perfect for being read aloud in support groups.

Disenfranchised Grief

Author: Kenneth J. Doka
Publisher: Research PressPub
ISBN: 0878224270
Release Date: 2002-01-01
Genre: Psychology

This book focuses on the kind of grief that is not openly acknowledged, socially validated, or publicly mourned. It addresses the unique psychological, biological, and sociological issues involved in disenfranchised grief. The contributing authors explore the concept of disenfranchised grief, help define and explain this type of grief, and offer clinical interventions to help grievers express their hidden sorrow.

Experiencing Grief

Author: H. Norman Wright
Publisher: B&H Publishing Group
ISBN: 9780805430929
Release Date: 2004
Genre: Religion

Written for the person who has just experienced loss, this brief but powerful book leads readers through the five stages of grief to a peaceful, more mature faith. Original.

Im About to Get Up

Author: Julie Hunt
Publisher:
ISBN: 1942557752
Release Date: 2017-01-01
Genre: Religion

We all experience death, loss, and brokenness, and the journey can challenge even the strong of heart. Ecclesiastes says that death is the destiny of every man and the living should take it to heart. I'm About to Get Up! is a transparent journey through loss and grief, unmasking the lies of the enemy and the missteps that can result.It's easy to get off track when your heart is broken and your mind is numb; when well-meaning people try to help but say stupid things that hurt and do not reflect the Word or the heart of God.Unable to see beyond her circumstances, the author woke up in the pit of despair morning after morning until the truth of God's love transformed her perspective on death and loss, allowing for her to hit the restart button of her life.Read this book if: * loss has a grip on you and you can't shake free. * you want to find a way out from brokenness. * you need to gain insight into what God thinks about loss and death.This book is a testimony to the faithfulness of God: that He truly is the mender of broken lives and the restorer of abounding joy.

The Five Ways We Grieve

Author: Susan A. Berger
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 083482227X
Release Date: 2011-03-08
Genre: Self-Help

In this new approach to understanding the impact of grief, Susan A. Berger goes beyond the commonly held theories of stages of grief with a new typology for self-awareness and personal growth. She offers practical advice for healing from a major loss in this presentation of five basic ways, or types, of grieving. These five types describe how different people respond to a major loss. The types are: • Nomads, who have not yet resolved their grief and don’t often understand how their loss has affected their lives • Memorialists, who are committed to preserving the memory of their loved ones by creating concrete memorials and rituals to honor them • Normalizers, who are committed to re-creating a sense of family and community • Activists, who focus on helping other people who are dealing with the same disease or issues that caused their loved one’s death • Seekers, who adopt religious, philosophical, or spiritual beliefs to create meaning in their lives Drawing on research results and anecdotes from working with the bereaved over the past ten years, Berger examines how a person’s worldview is affected after a major loss. According to her findings, people experience significant changes in their sense of mortality, their values and priorities, their perception of and orientation toward time, and the manner in which they "fit" in society. The five types of grieving, she finds, reflect the choices people make in their efforts to adapt to dramatic life changes. By identifying with one of the types, readers who have suffered a recent loss—or whose lives have been shaped by an early loss—find ways of understanding the impact of the loss and of living more fully.

Healing After Loss

Author: Martha W. Hickman
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0061925772
Release Date: 2009-06-09
Genre: Self-Help

For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.

Handbook of Social Justice in Loss and Grief

Author: Darcy L Harris, PhD, FT
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 9781317335009
Release Date: 2016-02-05
Genre: Psychology

The Handbook of Social Justice in Loss and Grief is a scholarly work of social criticism, richly grounded in personal experience, evocative case studies, and current multicultural and sociocultural theories and research. It is also consistently practical and reflective, challenging readers to think through responses to ethically complex scenarios in which social justice is undermined by radically uneven opportunity structures, hierarchies of voice and privilege, personal and professional power, and unconscious assumptions, at the very junctures when people are most vulnerable—at points of serious illness, confrontation with end-of-life decision making, and in the throes of grief and bereavement. Harris and Bordere give the reader an active and engaged take on the field, enticing readers to interrogate their own assumptions and practices while increasing, chapter after chapter, their cultural literacy regarding important groups and contexts. The Handbook of Social Justice in Loss and Grief deeply and uniquely addresses a hot topic in the helping professions and social sciences and does so with uncommon readability.

Seven Choices

Author: Elizabeth Harper Neeld
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780446555388
Release Date: 2008-12-21
Genre: Self-Help

Everyone experiences grief, but few books offer real help with the debilitating emotions of bereavement.