Hold Me Tight

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780748126323
Release Date: 2011-02-03
Genre: Self-Help

Developed over 20 years ago and practiced all over the world, Emotionally Focused Therapy has been heralded by Time magazine and the New York Times as one of the only types of therapy to actually work. Couples who practice EFT see a 75% success rate (compared to 30% for other forms of relationship therapy). EFT focuses on the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners. Now in paperback, HOLD ME TIGHT introduces readers to EFT and illustrates a program they can use in their own relationships. Part I introduces the view of love as an attachment bond and applies this view to relationship problems. Part II offers seven 'conversations' that focus on key moments. Readers can use these to understand their responses and relationships better. Included are exercises to help couples work through the process.

Created for Connection

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 9780316307406
Release Date: 2016-10-04
Genre: Family & Relationships

"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."--1 John 4:8 Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God. The message of CREATED FOR CONNECTION is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection. Filled with Bible verses, inspiring real-life stories, and guidance, CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.

Hold Me Tight

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 0316031992
Release Date: 2008-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships

Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" -- and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Created for Connection

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780316307406
Release Date: 2016-10-04
Genre: Family & Relationships

"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."--1 John 4:8 Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God. The message of CREATED FOR CONNECTION is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection. Filled with Bible verses, inspiring real-life stories, and guidance, CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.

Love Sense

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 9780316251082
Release Date: 2013-12-31
Genre: Family & Relationships

The bestselling author of Hold Me Tight presents a revolutionary new understanding of why and how we love, based on cutting-edge research. Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. LOVE SENSE presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense"--our ability to develop long-lasting relationships. Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival. LOVE SENSE covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, LOVE SENSE will change the way we think about love.

Hold Me Tight

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Piatkus Books
ISBN: 0749955481
Release Date: 2011
Genre: Family & Relationships

Developed by Dr Sue Johnson over 20 years ago and practised all over the world, EFT has been heralded by Time magazine and the New York Times as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success. Couples who use EFT see a 75 per cent success rate. The therapy programme focuses on the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners. In HOLD ME TIGHT, EFT pioneer Dr Sue Johnson presents her highly effective therapy model to the general public for the first time. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors

Author: Susan M. Johnson
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781462504350
Release Date: 2011-11-03
Genre: Psychology

This book provides a theoretical framework and an innovative model of intervention for distressed couples whose relationships are affected by the echoes of trauma. Combining attachment theory, trauma research, and emotionally focused therapeutic techniques, Susan M. Johnson guides the clinician in modifying the interactional patterns that maintain traumatic stress and fostering positive, healing relationships among survivors and their partners. In-depth case material brings to life the process of assessment and treatment with couples coping with the impact of different kinds of trauma, including childhood abuse, serious illness, and combat experiences. The concluding chapter features valuable advice on therapist self-care.

An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples

Author: Veronica Kallos-Lilly
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 9781317804871
Release Date: 2014-08-13
Genre: Psychology

This workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It is recommended for use with couples pursuing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It closely follows the course of treatment and is designed so that clinicians can easily integrate guided reading and reflections into the therapeutic process. The material is presented in a recurring format: Read, Reflect, and Discuss. Readings help couples look at their relationship through an attachment lens, walking them through the step-by-step process of creating a secure relationship bond. 33 Reflections invite readers to engage with the material personally, expanding their own awareness and ability to tune into their partner. Discussion sections suggest relationship-building exercises and a framework for conversations that promote safety, disclosure, and engagement. Case examples, along with informative illustrations, are scattered throughout the book to validate, illustrate, and inspire couples along their journey. Clinicians conversant with EFT can use this workbook to extend the effectiveness of their work with couples by giving them structured tasks to work on between sessions. For clinicians training in EFT, the book can guide them in staying focused on the EFT roadmap and illuminate how important change events unfold.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies

Author: Brent Bradley
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
ISBN: 9781118512401
Release Date: 2013-07-08
Genre: Self-Help

A practical, down-to-earth guide to using the world's most successful approach to couple therapy One of the most successful therapeutic approaches to healing dysfunctional relationships, emotionally focused couple therapy provides clients with powerful insights into how and why they may be suppressing their emotions and teaches them practical ways to deal with those feelings more constructively for improved relationships. Unlike cognitive-behavioural therapy, which provides effective short-term coping skills, emotionally focused therapy often is prescribed as a second-stage treatment for couples with lingering emotional difficulties. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies introduces readers to this ground-breaking therapy, offering simple, proven strategies and tools for dealing with problems with bonding, attachment and emotions, the universal cornerstones of healthy relationships. An indispensable resource for readers who would like to manage their relationship problems independently through home study Delivers powerful techniques for dealing with unpleasant emotions, rather than repressing them and for responding constructively to complex relationship issues The perfect introduction to EFT basics for therapists considering expanding their practices to include emotionally focused therapy methods Packed with fascinating and instructive case studies and examples of EFT in action, from the authors' case files Provides valuable guidance on finding, selecting and working with the right EFT certified therapist

Getting the Love You Want

Author: Harville Hendrix
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 0805068953
Release Date: 2001-07-31
Genre: Family & Relationships

A marriage therapist and pastoral counselor explains that most of the feelings of receiving inadequate love come from unresolved childhood conflicts and describes how adults can learn to flourish as loving and loved people, in a new edition of the best-selling handbook. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.

Attachment Processes in Couple and Family Therapy

Author: Susan M. Johnson
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 1572308737
Release Date: 2003
Genre: Psychology

Offering fresh and provocative insights on the practice of couple and family therapy, this unique volume shows how attachment theory can inform, enhance, and guide interventions for a wide range of relationship problems and clinical issues. Chapters from leading attachment researchers and family therapists integrate the literature from both fields to provide a multifaceted perspective on the role of attachment in distressed and satisfying relationships. Illustrated with evocative clinical material, the book presents research-based therapy models for embattled couples, families struggling with parent-child conflict and adolescent problems, and adoptive and foster families. Also discussed are ways to support stronger mother-infant attachment attachment-oriented interventions for couples facing specific clinical problems, including depression, PTSD, and chronic pain applications for same-sex couples and much more.

Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist

Author: Susan M. Johnson
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
ISBN: 9781136659683
Release Date: 2013-05-13
Genre: Psychology

An invaluable tool for clinicians and students, Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist: The Workbook takes the reader on an adventure – the quest to become a competent, confident, and passionate couple and family therapist. In an accessible resource for training and supervision, seven expert therapists lead the reader through the nine essential steps of EFT with explicit intervention strategies. Suitable as a companion volume to The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, 2nd Ed. or as a stand-alone learning tool, the workbook provides an easy road-map to mastering the art of EFT with exercises, review sheets and practice models. Unprecedented in its novel and interactive approach, this is a must-have for all therapists searching for lasting and efficient results in couple therapy.

The Love Secret

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780748126330
Release Date: 2014-01-16
Genre: Psychology

We are in danger of being swept away on a tide of pessimism about love and relationships. Endless cynical stories of affairs by politicians, athletes and celebrities fill the media. The dominant message is that creating a rewarding and enduring romantic relationship is impossible. In The Love Secret Dr Sue Johnson draws on the very latest scientific studies on attachment theory, including her own research, to show that this just isn't the case. The Big News is that we are naturally monogamous, bonding animals. A lasting, loving relationship is completely within our reach. In The Love Secret you will discover how the brain works when you are in a stable, caring relationship and how you can use this groundbreaking knowledge to achieve such positive results in your own life.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9781101902912
Release Date: 2015-05-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

Happy Together

Author: Suzann Pileggi Pawelski
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9780143130598
Release Date: 2018
Genre: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

Nearly 60% of today's marriages end in divorce, and of the 40% that stay intact, many languish. What is the secret to relationships that not only survive, but thrive? In Happy Together, positive psychology experts and husband-and-wife team Suzann Pileggi Pawelski and James Pawelski reveal for the first time how to apply the principles of positive psychology to create and enjoy healthy, successful, and satisfying relationships that last. Combining their deep knowledge in this field with extensive scientific research, real-life examples, advice from relationship scientists, and fun exercises and quizzes for couples, they identify four key areas that are crucial for building and sustaining love over the long run- passion, positive emotions, savoring, and strengths. Their easy-to-follow, step-by-step method shows how to cultivate these elements successfully at any stage of a partnership or marriage. Inspiring, encouraging and accessible,Happy Togetheris the essential roadmap to rewarding, long-lasting romance for any couple, whether they're looking to start off a relationship on the right foot, weather difficult times, reignite passion, or transform a good marriage into a great one.