How Can I Ever Trust You Again

Author: Andrew G. Marshall
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 9780992971861
Release Date: 2016-03-01
Genre: Self-Help

There are few things in life more traumatic than discovering that your partner is having an affair. You are not only coping with the pain and anger but also the sense that your partner is a stranger. How could someone you love, and thought that you knew, treat you like this? How can you ever trust your partner again? Don't panic. Millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains: The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery. What makes people more vulnerable to affairs. The eight types of infidelity and how understanding your partner's affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go. How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown. Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process. With over thirty years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies and provides practical, compassionate and sensible advice to keep your relationship alive. As he says, "It might sound strange, but you can turn this crisis from the worst thing that has happened to your relationship into one of the best.

How Can I Ever Trust You Again

Author: Andrew Marshall
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 9780992971854
Release Date: 2016-03
Genre: Family & Relationships

There are few things in life more traumatic than discovering that your partner is having an affair. You are not only coping with the pain and anger but also the sense that your partner is a stranger. How could someone you love, and thought that you knew, treat you like this? How can you ever trust your partner again? Don't panic. Millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains: The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery. What makes people more vulnerable to affairs. The eight types of infidelity and how understanding your partner's affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go. How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown. Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process. With over thirty years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies and provides practical, compassionate and sensible advice to keep your relationship alive. As he says, "It might sound strange, but you can turn this crisis from the worst thing that has happened to your relationship into one of the best.

How Can I Ever Trust You Again

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: A&C Black
ISBN: 9781408810965
Release Date: 2012-03-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

There are few things in life more traumatic than discovering that your partner is having an affair. You are not only coping with the pain and anger but also the sense that your partner is a stranger. How could someone you love, and thought that you knew, treat you in this way? How can you ever trust your partner again? Don't panic. Millions upon millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains: - The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery. - What makes people more vulnerable to affairs. - The eight types of affairs and how understanding your partner's affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go. - How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown. - Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process. With over 25 years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies, and provides sensible, compassionate and practical advice.

Resolve Your Differences

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN: 9781408802595
Release Date: 2011-02-07
Genre: Family & Relationships

Coping with conflict in your relationship - how to argue productively and come out stronger

I Love You but I m Not in Love with You

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: A&C Black
ISBN: 9781408810989
Release Date: 2010-02-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: 'I love you but I'm not in love with you'. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough? From his research Andrew has devised his own unique programme. By looking at how a couple communicate, argue, share love, take responsibility, give and learn he offers in seven steps a reassuring and empowering map for how two individuals can better understand themselves, strengthen their bond and recover that lost magic.

NOT Just Friends

Author: Shirley Glass
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781416586401
Release Date: 2007-11-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Learn to Love Yourself Enough

Author: Andrew G. Marshall
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 9780957429789
Release Date: 2014-09-09
Genre: Self-Help

Create a wealth of self-worth. In a black-and-white world, there are two types of people—those who love themselves too much (and walk over everybody else) or hate themselves for failing to achieve goals (and probably end up being taken advantage of by others). But, according to British marital therapist, Andrew G. Marshall, neither has a healthy perception of oneself. This is because the secret to self-esteem does not lie in the extremes of love and hate, but in the middle, in the gray area that teaches us to love ourselves just enough: enough to have love to offer others; enough to be open to receive love from others. Only when this kind of balance is created, can self-love exist. Like no other book on self-esteem ever written, Learn to Love Yourself Enough helps readers walk through life on middle ground by revealing the seven factors that, together, add up to a wealth of self-worth. Examine your relationship with your parents: Discover the six types of child-parent relationships and how to accept the legacy of your past. Find Forgiveness: Debunk the two myths about forgiveness and discover what can be gained from negative experiences. Don't let other people put you down: Recognize the five phases of projection and how understanding our own projections lead to better and happy relationships. Re-program your inner voice: Identify the three kinds of negative thinking that work together to undermine self-confidence and whether they are based on fact or just opinion. Set realistic goals: Learn how perfectionism undermines self-esteem. Re-balance yourself: Understand that problems lurk in the extremes and why the middle way is the most successful way. Conquer Fears and Setbacks: Overcome the day-to-day problems that life and other people throw at us.

When Good People Have Affairs

Author: Mira Kirshenbaum
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 1429944706
Release Date: 2008-05-27
Genre: Family & Relationships

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a: --"See-if" affair? --Ejector-seat affair? --Distraction affair? --Unmet-needs affair? --Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: --What am I missing in my marriage? --How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? --How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Are You Right For Me

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN: 9781408802625
Release Date: 2011-02-07
Genre: Family & Relationships

Is this the real thing? A pragmatic guide to the natural rhythm of relationships, and how to listen to your heart

Learning How to Trust Again

Author: Ed Delph
Publisher: Destiny Image Publishers
ISBN: 9780768424195
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Religion

Maybe your wall is only a single brick because of a hurt you experienced as a teenager. Or maybe your wall is a thick concrete slab because of the pain of a divorce or broken promise. Either way, you have decided not to trust anyone-even God. This book speaks to the heart of your relationships and provides the tools to demolish the wall. Deep down you know that the wall you've built also keeps out the One who can restore you.

Wake Up and Change Your Life

Author: Andrew G. Marshall
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 9780992971830
Release Date: 2015-10-06
Genre: Self-Help

Your old life has been turned upside down. Perhaps your partner has threatened to leave, you've discovered infidelity or your relationship has completely broken down and you're determined not to make the same mistakes again. Maybe, you've simply taken stock and decided your life doesn't work any more. Whatever the background, deciding to change is a really positive move. However, willpower alone isn't enough—nor sweeping declarations of how 'this time it will be different'. To combat bad habits, procrastination, a partner who is sceptical or parents, friends and family who can't see anything but the 'old you', you'll need to make changes that are both deep down (to tackle the hidden factors that are trapping you) and long-lasting (so you don't slide back into the old ways). Marital Therapist Andrew G. Marshall has brought thirty years' experience helping couples and individuals to create a proven plan for change. In this compassionate book he explains: Why real change is harder than you think. The six unhelpful myths about change that are holding you back. How to take control of your past. The importance of developing everyday calmness. How to discover your true life path. Nine simple maxims to lock in the change.

I Can t Get Over My Partner s Affair

Author: Andrew G. Marshall
Publisher: Marshall Method Publishing
ISBN: 9781783018215
Release Date: 2015-10-22
Genre: Family & Relationships

You'd think if someone was caught having an affair that they'd make a full confession. You'd think they would know if they wanted to stay or leave. You'd think they would be able to explain why they were unfaithful. You'd think if they promised to 'fight' for their marriage that their actions would match their words. But for lots of people recovery is not so straightforward and takes far longer than they would have imagined on discovery day. Sometimes the person who has been unfaithful vows to do 'anything' to make it better but the next day sabotages everything. Sometimes the discoverer of the infidelity is constantly besieged by horrible images or overcome with anxiety – even though they want to move forward. Sometimes the betrayal has been so great – several affairs, hook-up sites, prostitutes or cheating with a friend – that recovery is much harder. Alternatively, the couple's marriage was so close or they were childhood sweethearts that the pain is doubled and quadrupled. If you can't get over your partner's affair, it is easy to think that the pain is too great and you need to split up. However, Andrew G. Marshall has spent thirty years working with couples in crisis and has a message of hope. 'It's not that there's something fundamentally wrong with your marriage but you have been so profoundly hurt that you need extra help and to learn special skills to find a way round blockages.' In this compassionate book, he shares: • 50 case histories so you don't feel so alone in your struggle. • How to diagnose why you're feeling stuck. • The common myths about infidelity that make recovery harder. • How to communicate better with your partner and stop arguments going round in circles. • How to turn the pain of infidelity into something positive.

Getting Past the Affair

Author: Douglas K. Snyder
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781606237991
Release Date: 2007-01-06
Genre: Psychology

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that’s been tested--and proven--to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you’ll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you’ll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future. Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Book of Merit

Surviving an Affair

Author: Willard F. Jr. Harley
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 9781441242945
Release Date: 2013-07-01
Genre: Religion

Infidelity is common, occurring in over half of all marriages. And it is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and wayward spouse. With all that sadness, why do people have affairs? And once trust is broken, how can a couple reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers describe the most common types of affairs, the reasons they begin and end, the best way to end them, and the best way to restore a marriage after an affair. But most importantly, they help readers survive the ordeal by providing them with step-by-step guidance that minimizes suffering and offers hope for rebuilding a loving and trusting marital relationship.

Heal and Move On

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: A&C Black
ISBN: 9781408802601
Release Date: 2011-02-07
Genre: Family & Relationships

A positive and practical guide to dealing with break-ups, understanding what went wrong and learning to move on