How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 0834821036
Release Date: 2002-06-18
Genre: Self-Help

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: 1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships. 2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are. 3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament. 4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways. 5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control. When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts—what Richo calls the five A's—form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

How to Be an Adult

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Paulist Press
ISBN: 9781616433550
Release Date: 2014-05-14
Genre: Adulthood

Using the metaphor of the heroic journeydeparture, struggle and returnthe author shows readers the way to psychological and spiritual health.

Right Here with You

Author: Andrea Miller
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 9781590309049
Release Date: 2011
Genre: Psychology

Draws on the expertise of leading psychologists, meditation teachers and authors to explain how to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships through mindful awareness, in a volume that features such writings as Thich Nhat Hanh's introduction to the role of mindfulness in real love and Harold Kushner's advice on giving love rather than expecting it. Original.

Daring to Trust

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 9781590309247
Release Date: 2011
Genre: Family & Relationships

Explores the human ability to trust, and argues that people must develop trust in four directions, including toward themselves, toward others, toward life as it is, and toward a higher power or spiritual path in order to maintain healthy relationships and experience emotional well-being.

Mindful Loving

Author: Henry Grayson
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1592400612
Release Date: 2004-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Invites readers to examine their relationships from a non-traditional perspective, drawing on western and eastern philosophy and a range of spiritual traditions to demonstrate how to heal oneself and a relationship, break unhealthy cycles, create a spiritual marriage, and establish healthier beliefs. Reprint. 15,000 first printing.

When Love Meets Fear

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Paulist Press
ISBN: 9781616430665
Release Date: 2014-05-14
Genre: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

The author of the bestselling "How to Be an Adult" explains in his characteristic popular style how fear can cripple our ability to take risks in life and how it can be overcome by love. He looks at the deepest roots of fear and suggests practical ways to escape from fear.

You Are Not What You Think

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 9780834803237
Release Date: 2015-12-29
Genre: Self-Help

A healthy ego is necessary to achieving our goals, to building healthy relationships, and to leading a satisfying and meaningful life. But an ego that gets too big—that becomes egotism—can actually inhibit all those wonderful possibilities. In this luminous guide, David Richo offers wisdom from psychology, myth, and spiritual traditions to show us how to let go of the kind of ego that causes suffering for ourselves and others. As a wonderful result, we gain self-confidence and find new ways to love too. It’s not a matter of getting rid of ego but of seeing through it. When we learn to do that, Dave says, we’ll discover the core of indestructible goodness in our enlightened nature. Then, when we see "big ego" expressed in ourselves or others, we begin to regard it with compassion rather than disdain. We are truly, Dave shows, not what we think but much, much more.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo

Author: David Richo
Publisher:
ISBN: 1717025668
Release Date: 2018-04-13
Genre:

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships-- one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.4. Affection is shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts-- what Richo calls the five A's-- form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

How to Be an Adult in Love

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 9780834828490
Release Date: 2014-01-07
Genre: Self-Help

We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. It’s nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but knowing that doesn’t make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. We’re often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to share love with those around us—and love that isn't shared leaves us feeling flat and unfulfilled. David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others. He provides wisdom from Buddhism, psychology, and a range of spiritual traditions, along with a wealth of practices both for avoiding the pitfalls that can occur in love relationships and for enhancing the way love shows up in our lives. He then leads us on to love’s inevitable outcome: developing a heart that loves universally and indiscriminately. This transcendent and unconditional love isn’t just for a heroic few, Dave shows, it’s everyone’s magnificent calling.

Shadow Dance

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 0834822911
Release Date: 1999-05-11
Genre: Self-Help

Our "shadow" is the collection of negative or undesirable traits we keep hidden—the things we don't like about ourselves or are afraid to admit: egotist, non-"PC" proclivities, forbidden sexual desires. But it also includes our positive, untapped potential—qualities we may admire in others but disavow in ourselves. Befriending the shadow makes fear an ally and enables us to live more authentically. It also automatically improves our interpersonal relationships, because we are freed from the need to project our own negativity onto others, and we become more acutely aware when theirs is projected onto us. David Richo looks for where the shadow manifests in personal life, family interaction, religion, relationship, and the world around is. He shows how to use the gentle practice of mindfulness to work with our shadow side, and he provides numerous exercises for going deeper. He is remarkably skillful at making the shadow concept not only easy to understand, but supremely practical for enhancing the quality of our lives.

The Five Things We Cannot Change

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 0834822261
Release Date: 2006-06-13
Genre: Psychology

Why is it that despite our best efforts, many of us remain fundamentally unhappy and unfulfilled in our lives? In this provocative and inspiring book, David Richo distills thirty years of experience as a therapist to explain the underlying roots of unhappiness—and the surprising secret to finding freedom and fulfillment. There are certain facts of life that we cannot change—the unavoidable "givens" of human existence: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, (4) pain is a part of life, and (5) people are not loving and loyal all the time. Richo shows us that by dropping our deep-seated resistance to these givens, we can find liberation and discover the true richness that life has to offer. Blending Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, including practical exercises, Richo shows us how to open up to our lives—including to what is frightening, painful, or disappointing—and discover our greatest gifts.

Coming Home to Who You Are

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 9780834827745
Release Date: 2011-12-27
Genre: Self-Help

We already possess everything we need to have satisfying relationships and a happy, fulfilling life; all we need to do is learn how to bring forth our natural wisdom—which includes our innate kindness, understanding, and courage. Psychotherapist David Richo draws on four decades of his counseling experience to create this manual on how to nurture the best in ourselves and our relationships. He teaches how to access our natural abilities to: • Care for ourselves as the basis of caring for others • Find freedom from fear • Maintain healthy boundaries in relationships • Develop greater honesty with ourselves and others • Let go of regret The book also includes practical exercises—including journaling, contemplation, and guided meditations—to foster inward growth and lasting positive change. This book is a completely revised and updated edition of Everyday Commitments.

When the Past Is Present

Author: David Richo
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 0834823179
Release Date: 2008-07-22
Genre: Self-Help

In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to: • Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships—and why this is a gift • Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships • Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business • Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy

Relationship Saboteurs

Author: Randi Gunther
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608820432
Release Date: 2010-06-03
Genre: Family & Relationships

Do you seek a healthy romantic relationship, but continue to find yourself repeating the same negative behaviors that may have ended your relationships in the past? Have you already identified destructive patterns, yet continue to repeat them despite your desire for a strong and lasting romantic relationship? If so, you are not alone. Relationship Saboteurs is an easy-to-follow guide that will help you identify and end your relationship-destroying tendencies once and for all. The book explores the ten most common relationship-undermining behaviors and shows you how to overcome them. By understanding and addressing the patterns that erode romance, you can learn to stop sabotaging your love life and prepare yourself for the healthy romantic relationship you deserve. Learn to overcome these toxic emotions and behaviors: •Insecurity•Needing to control •Fear of intimacy •Needing to win •Pessimism •Needing to be center stage •Addictions •Martyrdom •Defensiveness •Breaking trust

Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist

Author: Margalis Fjelstad
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 9781442220188
Release Date: 2013
Genre: Family & Relationships

People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist.