How to Say It to Seniors

Author: David Solie
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9781101097885
Release Date: 2004-09-07
Genre: Self-Help

A practical guide to bridging the generation gap. In How to Say It to Seniors, geriatric psychology expert David Solie offers help in removing the typical communication blocks many experience with the elderly. By sharing his insights into the later stages of life, Solie helps in understanding the unique perspective of seniors, and provides the tools to relate to them.

How to Say it to Seniors

Author: David Solie
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0735203806
Release Date: 2004
Genre: Family & Relationships

Sheds new light on the best ways to communicate with the elderly, explaining how to understand the perspective of seniors, offering the tools for relating to them, and discussing the best ways to establish an effective dialogue.

Elder Rage

Author: Jacqueline Marcell
Publisher:
ISBN: 0967970318
Release Date: 2001-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

The author chronicles her experiences caring for her frail mother and difficult father and offers advice for caregivers on how to handle elderly parents who refuse to cooperate or demonstrate aggressive behavior.

Stages of Senior Care Your Step by Step Guide to Making the Best Decisions

Author: Paul Hogan
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
ISBN: 0071625437
Release Date: 2009-12-06
Genre: Family & Relationships

A USA Today BESTSELLER! "Informative. Complete. And practical. This book will guide family caregivers through the surprisingly complex world of senior care." —MEHMET OZ, M.D., New York Times bestselling coauthor of YOU: The Owner's Manual: The Complete All-in-One Care Guide Choosing the best care for your aging parents and other seniors in your life is not only complex, with multiple options available, it's also highly personal and often emotional. This essential resource—written by the founders of Home Instead Senior Care, the world's largest provider of nonmedical care for seniors—guides you through a comprehensive range of things to consider, step by step, so you can make better informed decisions and be confident that the senior in your life is receiving the best care possible. Checklists and diagnostics will help you: Decide if at-home care is the right choice for you and your loved ones Evaluate the pros and cons of retirement communities, adult care centers, nonmedical caregivers, assisted living facilities, nursing homes, and hospice Determine the costs of senior care options and find helpful support networks "This is not just another book about caring for aging parents. It's a great reference you'll use again and again. Stages doesn't shy away from the hard questions. Rather, it shows you how to confront them."—SUZANNE MINTZ, President/CEO, National Family Caregivers Association "Recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all solution, this salient volume compassionately addresses a full range of hard-to-discuss subjects."--PUBLISHERS WEEKLY All of the authors' profits from the sale of this book will be donated to the Home Instead Senior Care Foundation. Paul and Lori Hogan founded Home Instead Senior Care in 1994. Now with 850 offices in 15 countries, Home Instead is recognized as a global leader and authority on senior care. Visit them at www.stagesofseniorcare.com.

When Roles Reverse

Author: Jim Comer
Publisher: Hampton Roads Publishing
ISBN: 161283082X
Release Date: 2006-08-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

The answers you need—the personal, "been there" advice you can trust. After his father suffered a massive stroke and his mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, Jim Comer found himself an overnight "parent" at the age of 51. When he walked into his father's hospital room everyone looked to him as the “man who knew all the answers.” He soon realized he didn't even know the questions. In ten years of caregiving, Comer has not only learned the questions he has lived them, and with When Roles Reverse he shares his hard-won answers. He learned to deal with hospitals, insurance companies, rehab centers, his father's deafness and his mother’s dementia. Through it all Jim has kept his sanity and sense of humor, in the process forging a deeper, more intimate relationship with his parents. With laugh-out-loud humor, Jim deals with improvisational moments for which there is no preparation:You find three gallons of Scotch in your dad’s retirement home closet;Your Mother refuses to leave her home of 34 years and can only be coaxed into the car with promises of ice cream;At a crowded Sunday dinner table, your father announces that he wants you to give him an enema after lunch… And offers personal experience and expert insight on the many issues it’s absolutely essential to plan for such as:Wills, powers of attorney, and other legal documents every family needsWhich siblings will be there when your parents need them?Selecting a first-rate care facility and getting long-term care insuranceNew Medicaid guidelines and how to qualifyHospice care and end-of-life decisions When Roles Reverse even includes "Fifty Questions that will save you Time, Money, and Tears," a special section designed to help families initiate vital communication and prepare for the crises, confusion and unexpected joys of caregiving.

Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent

Author: Grace Lebow
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062111968
Release Date: 2011-08-02
Genre: Self-Help

Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.

Moving in the Right Direction

Author: Bruce Nemovitz
Publisher: Danforth Book Distribution
ISBN: 1887542450
Release Date: 2006-11-09
Genre: Business & Economics

"Moving in the Right Direction" shares Bruce's experience and expertise on the many issues involved when seniors consider moving from their long-term home. Now seniors all across the country -- as well as the friends and family who care for them -- can turn to this simple, direct, and comprehensive guide as they make this important transition.

When the Time Comes

Author: Paula Span
Publisher: Grand Central Life & Style
ISBN: 9780446552226
Release Date: 2009-06-10
Genre: Family & Relationships

What will you do when you get the call that a loved one has had a heart attack or a stroke? Or when you realize that a family member is too frail to live alone, but too healthy for a nursing home? Journalist Paula Span shares the resonant narratives of several families who faced these questions. Each family contemplates the alternatives in elder care (from assisted living to multigenerational living to home care, nursing care, and at the end, hospice care) and chooses the right path for its needs. Span writes about the families' emotional challenges, their practical discoveries, and the good news that some of them find a situation that has worked for them and their loved ones. And many find joy in the duty of caring for an older loved one. There are 45 million Americans caring for family members currently, and as the 77 million boomers continue to age, this number will only go up. Paula Span's stories are revealing and informative. They give a sense of all the emotional and practical factors that go into the major decisions about caregiving, so that readers will be better able to figure out what to do when the time comes for them and their loved ones.

The Encyclopedia of Elder Care

Author: Eugenia L. Siegler, MD, FACP
Publisher: Springer Publishing Company
ISBN: 0826103537
Release Date: 2007-10-25
Genre: Social Science

Focusing on the broad but practical notions of how to care for the patient, The Encyclopedia of Elder Care, a state-of-the-art resource features nearly 300 articles, written by experts in the field. Multidisciplinary by nature, all aspects of clinical care of the elderly are addressed. Coverage includes acute and chronic disease, home care including family-based care provisions, nursing home care, rehabilitation, health promotion, disease prevention, education, case management, social services, assisted living, advance directives, palliative care, and much more! Each article concludes with specialty web site listings to help direct the reader to further resources. Features new to this second edition: More extensive use of on-line resources for further information on topics Thoroughly updated entries and references Inclusion of current research in geriatrics reflecting evidence-based practice New topics, including Assisted Living, Nursing Home Managed Care, Self-Neglect, Environmental Modifications (Home & Institution), Technology, Neuropsychological Assessment, Psychoactive Medications, Pain--Acute and Chronic Still the only reference of it kind, The Encyclopedia of Elder Care will prove to be an indispensable tool for all professionals in the field of aging, such as nurses, physicians, social workers, counselors, health administrators, and more.

How to Care for Aging Parents

Author: Virginia Morris
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 9780761134268
Release Date: 2004
Genre: Family & Relationships

Thoroughly updated and expanded, a compassionate, single-volume reference to the many emotional, legal, financial, medical, and logistical issues associated with caring for aging parents covers such areas as nursing homes, finances, finding a good doctor, legal arrangements, redefining parental relationships, and handling emotional challenges. Original.

A Bittersweet Season

Author: Jane Gross
Publisher: Knopf
ISBN: 9780307596680
Release Date: 2011-04-26
Genre: Family & Relationships

Just a few of the vitally important lessons in caring for your aging parent—and yourself—from Jane Gross in A Bittersweet Season As painful as the role reversal between parent and child may be for you, assume it is worse for your mother or father, so take care not to demean or humiliate them. Avoid hospitals and emergency rooms, as well as multiple relocations from home to assisted living facility to nursing home, since all can cause dramatic declines in physical and cognitive well-being among the aged. Do not accept the canard that no decent child sends a parent to a nursing home. Good nursing home care, which supports the entire family, can be vastly superior to the pretty trappings but thin staffing of assisted living or the solitude of being at home, even with round-the-clock help. Important Facts Every state has its own laws, eligibility standards, and licensing requirements for financial, legal, residential, and other matters that affect the elderly, including qualification for Medicare. Assume anything you understand in the state where your parents once lived no longer applies if they move. Many doctors will not accept new Medicare patients, nor are they legally required to do so, especially significant if a parent is moving a long distance to be near family in old age. An adult child with power of attorney can use a parent’s money for legitimate expenses and thus hasten the spend-down to Medicaid eligibility. In other words, you are doing your parent no favor—assuming he or she is likely to exhaust personal financial resources—by paying rent, stocking the refrigerator, buying clothes, or taking him or her to the hairdresser or barber. From the Hardcover edition.

My Mother Your Mother

Author: Dennis McCullough
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780061863530
Release Date: 2009-10-13
Genre: Health & Fitness

What's the right thing to do for mom and dad as they get older? Thanks to advances in science and medicine, more of our parents are living longer than ever before. And though we are rewarded with more time with the people we love, we are also faced with new sets of complications—more diseases, more disability, more need for support and careful judgments. Yet while our health care system may help people live to an older age, it doesn't perform so well when decline eventually sets in. We want to do the best thing but are overwhelmed with the staggering choices we face. Geriatrician Dennis McCullough has spent his life helping families to cope with their parents' aging and eventual final passage, experiences he faced with his own mother. In this comforting and much-needed book, he recommends a new approach, which he terms "Slow Medicine." Shaped by common sense and kindness, grounded in traditional medicine yet receptive to alternative therapies, Slow Medicine advocates for careful anticipatory "attending" to an elder's changing needs rather than waiting for crises that force acute medical interventions—an approach that improves the quality of elders' extended late lives without bankrupting their families financially or emotionally. As Dr. McCullough argues, we need to learn that time and kindness are sometimes more important and humane at these late stages than state-of-the-art medical interventions. My Mother, Your Mother will help you learn how to: —form an early and strong partnership with your parents and siblings; —strategize on connecting with doctors and other care providers; —navigate medical crises; —create a committed Advocacy Team; —reach out with greater empathy and awareness; and —face the end-of-life time with confidence and skill. Although taking care of those who have always cared for us is not an easily navigated time of life, My Mother, Your Mother will help you and your family to prepare for this complex journey. This is not a plan for getting ready to die; it is a plan for understanding, for caring, and for helping those you love live well during their final years. And the time to start is now.

Tips for Helping Your Aging Parents

Author: Kira Reginato
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 1530441110
Release Date: 2016-04-15
Genre:

In Tips for Helping Your Aging Parents (without losing your mind) Reginato creates a compassionate and straightforward guide filled with expert tips for adult children of aging parents. Easily accomplish important tasks: � Assist with tracking medications to avoid errors. � Create a safer home environment to prevent falls and accidents. � Keep yourself in a good frame of mind to avoid burning out. � Select the best caregiving products. � Manage emergency room visits and avoid hospital readmissions. � Have important conversations about medical wishes. � Deal with a parent who resists paid help at home. "This is a superb book-amazingly insightful and helpful. Reginato provides step-by-step instructions to help you care for seniors while also caring for yourself. As a gerontologist with years of experience, and as a daughter, she offers practical suggestions and she gives them from the heart." -Bob Goldman, Bob Goldman Financial Planning "Kira Reginato has compiled a short, but comprehensive guide to covering all the bases of complex family caregiving!" -Dennis McCullough, MD, Dartmouth Centers for Health and Aging and author of My Mother, Your Mother: Embracing "Slow Medicine," the Compassionate Approach to Caring for Your Aging Loved Ones