Insecure in Love

Author: Leslie Becker-Phelps
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608828173
Release Date: 2014-06-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up. You’ll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness. If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can successfully explore old anxiety-perpetuating perceptions and habits without being overwhelmed or paralyzed by them. By understanding the psychological factors at the root of your attachment anxiety, you will learn to cultivate secure, healthy relationships to last a lifetime. If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same hurtful relationship patterns and finally break the cycle of heartache, this book can show you how to get the love you deserve—and keep it!

Attached

Author: Amir Levine
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101475161
Release Date: 2010-12-30
Genre: Family & Relationships

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes. In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: *ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. *AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. *SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers readers a wealth of advice on how to navigate their relationships more wisely given their attachment style and that of their partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Anxious in Love

Author: Carolyn Daitch
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608822331
Release Date: 2012-12-01
Genre: Self-Help

Healthy relationships require trust, intimacy, effective communication, and understanding. However, if you suffer from chronic anxiety you may have trouble dealing with everyday conflicts and tensions that can arise in relationships. No matter how committed you are, anxiety can leave you feeling distanced from your partner. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to overcome the anxiety-fueled reactions that keep you from achieving true closeness in your relationship. Written by two experts on anxiety disorders, Anxious in Love offers easy-to-use techniques for calming anxieties and strengthening communication in your relationship. With this book, you will learn to stay centered when faced with conflict, understand your partner’s perspective, and become more independent. By changing the way you react to triggers and stress, you will be able to focus on enjoying time with the one you love, without anxiety getting in the way.

Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness

Author: Paul A. Hauck
Publisher: Westminster John Knox Press
ISBN: 9781611644791
Release Date: 1981-01-01
Genre: Religion

Psychotherapist Paul Hauck, whose popular books have brought help and advice to countless readers, now shows how jealousy and possessiveness--often the most tragic emotions--can be overcome. Applying the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), Hauck demonstrates how jealousy is a learned emotion and can be unlearned once you understand why you are jealous and begin to think in new ways about yourself and others.

Wired for Love

Author: Stan Tatkin
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608820597
Release Date: 2012-01-02
Genre: Family & Relationships

"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts. Wired for Love is a complete insider's guide to understanding a partner's brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners' emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain's threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a ""warring brain"" mentality and toward a more cooperative ""loving brain"" understanding of the relationship. Based in the sound science of neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, this book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

The Jealousy Cure

Author: Robert L. Leahy
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781626259775
Release Date: 2018-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships." —Foreword Reviews "Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets." —Library Journal starred review​ Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships. We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy. But what if jealousy isn’t just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose? In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you’ll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it’s served to help us as a species. You’ll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection. We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you’ll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place.

Love Me Don t Leave Me

Author: Michelle Skeen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608829545
Release Date: 2014-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.

Life Without Jealousy

Author: Lynda Bevan
Publisher: Loving Healing Press
ISBN: 9781932690859
Release Date: 2009-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Ask yourself... Do you feel the need to be frequently checking up on your partner? Are you suspicious when you meet new people? Do you often question your partner about where they are going and who they are seeing? Do you withdraw from your partner without giving an explanation as to why you doing this? Do you make all of the social arrangements for your partner's life? Have you ever feigned illness to keep your partner at home? Are you frightened of being unable to survive without your partner? Do you examine on your partner's phone records, emails, or text messages "just in case"? Do you put your partner down over small details or infractions of agreements? If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you. This is the book to help you overcome this unwanted emotion. You will embark on a journey to discover the many types of jealousy. You can use this book as a manual to overcome emotional insecurity issues and to give you a clearer perspective on the emotion of jealousy. By engaging with the exercises with this book, you'll be able to see yourself as you really are and further exercises will assist you in eliminating your jealous thoughts and behavior. "It is hard to believe how much useful information the author has packed into this slender tome." --Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited" Learn more at www.LyndaBevan.com Book #4 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series from Loving Healing Press www.LovingHealing.com FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Love & Romance

Avoidant

Author: Jeb Kinnison
Publisher:
ISBN: 0991663667
Release Date: 2014-10-02
Genre:

Jeb Kinnison's previous book on finding a good partner by understanding attachment types ("Bad Boyfriends: Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and Make You a Better Partner") brought lots of readers to JebKinnison.com, where the most asked-about topic was how to deal with avoidant lovers and spouses. There are many readers in troubled marriages now who are looking for help, as well as people already invested in a relationship short of marriage who'd like help deciding if they should stick with it. People in relationships with Avoidants struggle with their lack of responsiveness and inability to tolerate real intimacy. Relationships between an Avoidant and a partner of another attachment type are the largest group of unhappy relationships, and people who love their partners and who may have started families and had children with an Avoidant will work very hard to try to make their relationships work better, out of love for their partner and children as well as their own happiness. The Avoidants in these relationships are more than likely unhappy with the situation as well-retreating into their shells and feeling harassed for being asked to respond with positive feeling when they have little to give. The other reason why so many people are looking for help on this topic is that it is an almost impossible problem. Couples counsellors rarely have the time or knowledge to work with an Avoidant and will often advise the spouse to give up on a Dismissive, especially, whose lack of responsiveness looks like cruelty or contempt (and sometimes it is!) Yet there is some hope-though it may take years and require educating the Avoidant on the patterns of good couples communication, if both partners want to change their patterns toward more secure and satisfying models, it can be done. How can you tell if your partner is avoidant? Does your partner: Seem not to care how you feel? Frequently fail to respond to direct questions or text messages? Accuse you of being too needy or codependent? Talk of some past lover as ideal and compare you to them? Act coldly toward your children and the needy? Remind you that he or she would be fine without you? Withhold sex or affection as punishment? If that sounds familiar, then your partner is likely avoidant. At about 25% of the population, Avoidants have shorter, more troubled relationships, and tend to divorce more frequently and divorce again if remarried. What can be done? Individual therapy for the motivated Avoidant can move their default attachment style toward security, and to the extent that problems have been made worse by an overly clingy and demanding anxious-preoccupied partner, therapy can help there, as well. Partners who read and absorb the lessons of these books will have a head start on noticing and restraining themselves when they are slipping into an unsatisfying communications pattern, and an intellectual understanding of the bad patterns is a step toward unlearning them. Not all difficult Avoidants can be reformed; that depends on both partners, the depth of their problems, and their motivation and ability to change over time. But many troubled marriages and relationships can be greatly improved, and the people in them can learn to be happier, with even modest improvements in understanding how they can best communicate support for each other. For those reading who have not read Bad Boyfriends or are less familiar with attachment types, a beefed-up section on attachment theory and attachment types from "Bad Boyfriends" is included. Regular readers of JebKinnison.com will find edited versions of some relevant material previously posted there."

Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

Author: Zachary Stockill
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 1502891921
Release Date: 2014-10-18
Genre:

ARE YOU TIRED OF CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER'S PAST RELATIONSHIPS? Are you interested in letting go of obsessive jealous thoughts, anxiety, and curiosity about your partner's past? Wouldn't it feel great to be completely free from retroactive jealousy, and be able to move forward in your relationship without worry about the past? What if I told you that you already have the "cure" for overcoming retroactive jealousy? You do-all you need is the proper guidance. And that's where "Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy" comes in. Written from the perspective of one who has struggled with, and eventually overcome, obsessive jealousy surrounding a partner's past, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy is the only guidebook you will ever need to let go of jealous thoughts, curiosity, and anxiety about your partner's past relationships/sexual history. AFTER READING YOU WILL: have access to a multi-step program that will help you to let go of your jealousy and anxiety begin incorporating coping exercises into your daily routine which will eliminate your jealous thoughts as soon as they appear feel a new sense of optimism and confidence in your ability to grow and overcome retroactive jealousy understand what your jealousy is really about, and have a concrete plan of action for overcoming it, and moving forward You might currently feel hopeless; like retroactive jealousy is something that you'll just be forced to "live with" until you die. You might even be severely depressed, mired in obsessive jealous thoughts and confusion. Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy will show you that you are suffering needlessly-and show you the way forward. In nineteen chapters, author Zachary Stockill outlines a series of time-tested effective strategies, practices, and exercises for confronting, and eventually overcoming, jealousy regarding your partner's past as painlessly, efficiently, and quickly as possible. A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR: Several years ago, I experienced "crippling" retroactive jealousy. It disrupted my career, destroyed my relationship, and provoked months of anguish and depression. But thankfully, through a process of self-exploration, hard work, growth, and discovery, I overcame it. Based on my experience, and several years of research and talking to fellow sufferers about their condition, I wrote this book to give you a step-by-step program to help you do the same, and overcome retroactive jealousy as quickly and easily as possible. I know that this step-by-step program is effective because since 2013 my book has helped "thousands" of readers get over retroactive jealousy, save their relationships, and regain control. In retrospect, my jealousy was a blessing in disguise. As I write to you today, I am undoubtedly a stronger, more confident, more loving, and overall better man for having gone through it. It might not seem like it now, but you too can use your jealousy to your advantage. Seriously--as you overcome retroactive jealousy, you will emerge a stronger, more confident, more attractive, and more loving person and partner. And it's my pleasure to guide you every step of the way. So whether you're struggling with your girlfriend's past, wife's past, husband's past, or your boyfriend's past, you need to know that you have the power to move forward, and kiss jealous thoughts goodbye. You can get a hold on your brain, and patterns of constant curiosity and obsessive thinking. You can move forward in your relationship without the burden and strain of retroactive jealousy. You can be the partner you want to be-you just have to understand where retroactive jealousy comes from, and how to deal with it. SO LET'S GET STARTED! Get your copy of the most popular guidebook on the market for overcoming retroactive jealousy, and join thousands of readers who have regained control, and found peace."

Women Who Think Too Much

Author: Susan Nolen-Hoeksema
Publisher: Henry Holt and Company
ISBN: 1429948639
Release Date: 2004-02-01
Genre: Psychology

From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more productive It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people-especially women-to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women-more than half of those in her extensive study-are doing it too much and too often, hindering their ability to lead a satisfying life. Overthinking can be anything from fretting about the big questions such as "What am I doing with my life?" to losing sleep over a friend's innocent comment. It is causing many women to end up sad, anxious, or seriously depressed, and Nolen-Hoeksema challenges the assumption-heralded by so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades-that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing. In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think Too Much will change lives and is destined to become a self-help classic.

Jealousy

Author: Sofia Price
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 1514272326
Release Date: 2015-06-08
Genre:

ARE YOU TRAPPED IN A VICIOUS CYCLE OF BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS? DO YOU WANT TO BE ABLE TO FREE YOURSELF FROM THE NEGATIVITY THAT IS SEEMINGLY HOLDING YOU BACK? I bet you do. It is never easy having to live with negative emotions, and jealousy is one of those feelings that can only eat away at your peace of mind if you let it. There must have been a time when you considered jealousy to be something minor, but the truth is that letting the green-eyed monster run free would take a serious toll on your life and the quality of your relationships. So now that you know what the culprit is, how can you begin to win the battle against it? This book will guide you through the process of defeating jealousy and gaining back your confidence and your life! Overcoming jealousy will help you nip insecurities in the bud and remove your reliance on material things and even other people for your own happiness. You can then begin to build loving and trusting relationships with the people important to you. Here is what this book could teach you: Causes of your jealousy Dealing with jealousy from within Making meaningful connections Learning to love yourself Altering your view of reality Nurturing relationships Overcoming your fears With all this knowledge in your arsenal, you can surely start living your best life. SO ACT NOW - SCROLL UP AND DOWNLOAD NOW FOR INSTANT READING You'll be happy you did!

How to Stop Being Jealous and Insecure

Author: Michele Gilbert
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 1516970349
Release Date: 2015-01-25
Genre:

Wouldn't You Like To Know How To Overcome Relationship Jealousy And Deal With Anxiety And Insecurity? Relationships have a way of making us feel amazing while also carrying the potential to wreck us emotionally, physically, and even financially! Are you always wondering if and when your relationship will end? Do you obsess over your partner's behaviors? Do you feel that this is the most difficult emotional pain you've ever felt in your life and do you also feel no matter how hard you try, overcoming the jealousy and insecurity you feel is impossible? Learn how to stop the emotional turmoil that makes you feel "out of it." Below see tips for both men and women to help you overcome and control personal insecurity and jealousy issues.. Tips To Overcome Being Jealous and Insecure Tip 1: You are good enough. Self-esteem issues must be addressed. There is no one like you and you have everything you need to be happy and secure. Love yourself first! Tip 2: Do not compare yourself with others. Everyone has their own path to follow and anxiety and jealousy are handled in different ways by different people. Follow your own path After Reading This Book You Will Learn... Why are you really insecure and jealous How to Identify the Problem The Importance of Open Communication Why you must replace negative emotions with positive ones How you can replace Jealousy with respect How to learn to be more trusting Would You Like To Know More? Scroll back up to the top and click the Buy button Download: "How To Stop Being Jealous And Insecure Overcome Insecurity And Relationship Jealousy" Information contained in the book .. how to overcome insecurity, overcoming emotional and relationship insecurities that men and women have, low self-esteem, self-confidence, how to stop being jealous, boyfriend, girlfriend, stop feeling insecure

Bad Boyfriends

Author: Jeb Kinnison
Publisher:
ISBN: 0991663616
Release Date: 2014-03
Genre: Family & Relationships

This book is a practical guide to using the science of attachment and relationships to find the right life partner. If you were brought up in the Western world, you've been trained on fairy tales of love and relationships that are misleading at best, and at worst have you making mistake after mistake in starting relationships with the wrong kinds of people who will waste your time and keep you from finding a loyal partner. Science has the answer! Or at least a guide to save you the time and effort of discovering for yourself how many wrong types of romantic partners there are. Reading this book will help you recognize the signs of some of the syndromes that prevent people from being good partners. We'll go through those syndromes and point out some of the signs. Those little red flags you sometimes notice when you are getting to know someone? Often they speak loud and clear once you understand the types, and you can decide immediately to run away or approach with caution those who show them. This book outlines the basics (which might be all you need), and points you toward more resources if you want to understand more about your problem partner. If you're wondering if the guy or girl you've been hanging out with might not be quite right, this is the place to match those little red flags you've noticed with known bad types. And by getting out fast, you can avoid emotional damage and wasted time, and get going on finding someone who's really right for you. Study all of the bad types and you'll detect them before even getting involved. Or you could be one of the few people who recognizes their own problems in one of these types. There are study materials and plans of action for you, too. If you've had lots of relationships and they all seem to go wrong, the common factor is you! Your task is to make yourself into a better partner - a goal that even the most evolved of us can always work toward.

The Tender Heart

Author: Joseph Nowinski
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743214846
Release Date: 2001-05-13
Genre: Self-Help

Insight, explanations, and practical solutions for overcoming insecurity and sensitivity -- from a top psychologist In simple language, Joseph Nowinski explains that insecurity is not a flaw or shortcoming, but rather a personality trait that reflects both temperament and life experiences. And, most important, he shows how insecurity can be conquered so that one can thrive -- especially in work and love. The first book to investigate insecurity, The Tender Heart sheds light on its common causes and provides guidelines for overcoming the self-doubt, debilitating self-consciousness, and chronic lack of confidence that prevent many people from enjoying life to its fullest. Combining personality quizzes and case histories of people who have conquered their insecurities, The Tender Heart offers expert advice on: Healing insecurity Avoiding emotional predators who seek out sensitive people Coping with a tough-hearted partner or colleague Finding your emotional mate Raising children who are self-confident The Tender Heart is for anyone who has experienced times when their own insecurity or the insecurity of others has interfered with valued relationships or prevented them from realizing their potential.