It s All Your Fault

Author: William A. Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 9781936268023
Release Date: 2012-02-21
Genre: Business & Economics

Explains in easy-to-understand terminology, the behaviors of people with personality disorders or with traits, particularly blaming, irrational and impulsive behaviors.

It s All Your Fault

Author: Bill Eddy LCSW Esq.
Publisher: BookBaby
ISBN: 9781936268429
Release Date: 2012-02-21
Genre: Family & Relationships

If you haven't been someone's Target of Blame, you will be soon. According to author Bill Eddy, blaming others is increasing in societies around the globe and there's a pattern in this blaming behavior, driven by people with certain personalities - perhaps 15% of our society. Though it's a growing problem he also believes it is a predictable one, and a problem that can be managed in most cases with more understanding - and doing the opposite of what you feel like doing! Bill Eddy is an author and international speaker to Mediators, Attorneys, Judges, Therapists and others. Now he has written this helpful guide that anyone can use in everyday situations. It's All Your Fault! is based on his experience working with High Conflict People for over 20 years. His "12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame You for Everything" provide invaluable answers for keeping your everyday problems in the workplace, family or neighborhood from becoming "high conflict" disputes.

It s All Your Fault at Work

Author: Bill Eddy LCSW Esq.
Publisher: BookBaby
ISBN: 9781936268672
Release Date: 2015-01-20
Genre: Business & Economics

No, it’s not just your imagination—more and more people in the workplace today have high-conflict personalities. Co-workers, clients, even bosses are behaving in narcissistic or bullying ways, choosing targets and then placing blame on them, treating them with disdain, or otherwise acting in aggressive, inappropriate ways. Some go so far as to spread damaging rumors, harass, or directly sabotage their targets, among other extreme behaviors. These are not people who are just having an occasional bad day; these are people who display a repeated pattern of high-conflict behavior. And they aren’t just difficult; they are the most difficult of people. They can make your life at work stressful, frustrating, and extremely challenging. The good news is that their behavior is not about you—it’s about them. What’s more, you can learn strategies and techniques to deal with them more effectively at work. Based on Bill Eddy’s high-conflict personality theory, he and co-author, L. Georgi DiStefano, expertly define the problem so you can recognize potential high-conflict people (HCPs) in your own work life. They describe the key characteristics of HCPs and the typical behavior patterns of five main types of high-conflict personalities. Then they walk you through their proactive approach for minimizing conflict and keeping interactions with HCPs as peaceful as possible. You’ll learn about—and see examples of—how to use a simple, proven four-step method to help calm HCPs, analyze your options, respond to hostility, and set limits on extreme behavior. While you cannot ultimately change someone else’s personality, you can adapt your own behavior and respond to the person in different ways that make things better at work for yourself, the high-conflict person, and your organization.

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: BookBaby
ISBN: 9781936268757
Release Date: 2016-09-01
Genre: Law

People with high conflict personalities (HCPs) clog our courts as plaintiffs with inappropriate claims against their personal "targets of blame," and as defendants who have harmed others and need to be stopped. Everybody knows someone with a High Conflict Personality. "How can he be so unreasonable?" "Why does she keep fighting? Can't she see how destructive she is?" "Can you believe they're going to court over ______?" Some HCPs are more difficult than others, but they tend to share a similar preoccupation with blame that drives them into one dispute after another—and keeps everyone perplexed about how to deal with them. Using case examples and an analysis of the general litigation and negotiation behaviors of HCPs, this book helps make sense of the fears that drive people to file lawsuits and complaints. It provides insight for containing their behavior while managing and/or resolving their disputes. Characteristics of the five "high-conflict" personality disorders are explored: Borderline Narcissistic Histrionic Paranoid Antisocial

Trump Bubbles

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: BookBaby
ISBN: 9781936268115
Release Date: 2016-05-02
Genre: Political Science

Trump Bubbles: The Dramatic Rise and Fall of High-Conflict Politicians is the first book to really explain the rise and fall of Donald Trump, candidate for President of the United States of America. What’s a trump bubble? It’s when emotions trump thinking in politics. When fear trumps facts. When leader love trumps logic. Donald Trump is the most recent trump bubble, but trump bubbles have occurred before and will again. Trump Bubbles explains the rise-and-fall pattern of high-conflict politicians, focusing on the case of Donald Trump and the questions people ask: • Why do people compare him to Adolf Hitler in the 1920’s? • Why do people defend him despite his outrageous statements and beliefs? • Will he become reasonable if he ever becomes President? • Does he have narcissistic personality disorder? • Will he settle on a set of policies, or will he keep changing impulsively? • Could he be a good thing for American politics? • Would he start World War III? • How do you stop trump bubbles once they start? • What happens when a trump bubble bursts? To answer these questions, the author relies on social science, psychology and history, as well as his years of training professionals in dealing with high-conflict personalities and situations. It’s a beautiful thing!

The Exchange

Author: Steven Dinkin
Publisher: CRC Press
ISBN: 9781439852996
Release Date: 2011-06-28
Genre: Business & Economics

Studies indicate that on average, managers and supervisors spend a little more than forty percent of their time resolving workplace conflicts. All this time adds up to a lot of headaches, a hit to morale, and a significant loss in productivity. The Exchange: A Bold and Proven Approach to Resolving Workplace Conflict is for every director, manager, and supervisor who is tired of using trial and error to put out fires. Supplying readers with proven tools for resolving emotionally charged disputes, this go-to-guide details a four-stage process derived from the conflict resolution model used for more than 25 years at the National Conflict Resolution Center. Designed specifically for the workplace, this highly structured process facilitates the discussion of intense emotional issues so you can learn to preempt and de-escalate disputes before they become volatile. Whether your company is restructuring, downsizing, or merging—or simply needs helpful techniques for use in meetings with angry, disruptive, and disputing employees—The Exchange is for you! Praise for: ... the authors deliver an extraordinary method for resolving disputes quickly and simply and for the greatest benefit of the organization. —Marshall Goldsmith, New York Times Best-Selling Author It could be the difference between having a so-so organization and a great one. —Ken Blanchard, co-author of The One Minute Manager® and Lead with LUV ... we finally have a professional, well-organized program to refer to when conflicts arise in our hospitals and clinics. —Evan Burkett, Chief Human Resource Officer, Sanford Health ... a way to facilitate mutual understanding and common goals in order to move to a better place. —Bill Geppert, Senior Vice President, Cox Communications, Inc.

Biff

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 9781936268351
Release Date: 2011-05-01
Genre: Business & Economics

This little book gives more than 20 examples of BIFF responses--brief, informative, friendly, and firm--for all areas of life, plus additional tips to help readers deal with high-conflict people anywhere. 158 pp.

Managing High Conflict People in Court

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 9781936268016
Release Date: 2008-05-01
Genre: Law

This book is designed for judicial officers to use in managing people with high conflict personalities in any courtroom, with an emphasis on family court litigants. This easy-to-read booklet provides judicial officers with accurate and authoritative information about the subject matters covered. It describes general principles and suggestions for judicial officers to immediately put into practice.

So What s Your Proposal

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 1936268620
Release Date: 2014
Genre: Business & Economics

An amazingly simple technique for getting high-conflict people to stop blaming others, and instead join in finding solutions to problems.

Don t Alienate the Kids

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 9781936268030
Release Date: 2010-03-30
Genre: Law

An examination of the child alienation problem from the perspective of a lawyer/therapist/mediator who trains professionals on managing high-conflict disputes.

Biff

Author: William A. Eddy
Publisher: Unhooked Books
ISBN: 1936268728
Release Date: 2014
Genre: Business & Economics

"BIFF is a unique, proven way to communicate with difficult people. Using a BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) response protects you and your reputation when responding to blame, personal attacks, and hostile email from people with high-conflict personalities. Easy to remember, but hard to do, so it takes practice. Over twenty examples of BIFF are included, plus a new chapter on coaching others to use BIFF.Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, author, and president of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "high conflict personality" theory and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders"--

New Ways for Families Parent Workbook

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: High Conflict Inst
ISBN: 1936268051
Release Date: 2009
Genre: Family & Relationships

Workbook used by family courts to teach parents the skills necessary to jointly make their parenting decisions out of court.

New Ways for Families Collaborative Parent Workbook

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: High Conflict Inst
ISBN: 193626806X
Release Date: 2009-01-01
Genre: Law

Workbook for Collaborative Divorce cases used by family courts to teach parents the skills to jointly make parenting decisions out-of-court.

New Ways for Work Workbook

Author: Bill Eddy
Publisher: High Conflict Inst
ISBN: 193626868X
Release Date: 2015-03
Genre: Business & Economics

This workbook teaches four personal self-management skills with numerous exercises for employees and managers in need of workplace behavior improvement.

New Ways for Families Professional Guidebook

Author: William A. Eddy
Publisher: High Conflict Inst
ISBN: 1936268043
Release Date: 2013-05-01
Genre: Law

Manual for family court professionals to use with high-conflict divorcing families. It focuses on strengthening skills before making long-term decisions.