Speaking of Boys

Author: Michael Thompson, Ph.D.
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780307491206
Release Date: 2009-04-23
Genre: Family & Relationships

My eight-year-old son is the only boy in his class who doesn't have a Gameboy. I don't want him to be ostracized for not having one, but I worry that it's addictive. What do you think? Our two sons are eleven and fourteen, and they are fiercely competitive. The tension around our house is awful. How can we help them get along better? We've worked very hard to keep our ten-year-old son in touch with his feelings. Sometimes it seems as if we've put him at a disadvantage, surrounded by tougher boys who can be pretty cruel with teasing. How can we help him protect himself when other boys start to tease? With his bestselling book Raising Cain, Michael Thompson, Ph.D., at last broke the silence surrounding the emotional life of boys and spearheaded an important national debate. His warmth and humor quickly made him a popular and respected international speaker and consultant. Now he directs his authority, insight, and eloquence to answering your questions about raising a son. With candid questions and thoughtful, detailed responses, Speaking of Boys covers hot-button topics such as peer pressure, ADHD/ADD, and body image as well as traditional issues such as friendship, divorce, and college and career development. This perceptive, informative, and passionate book will leave you not only with useful, practical advice but also with the comforting knowledge that other parents share the same concerns you do when it comes to raising our boys into well-adjusted, responsible men. From the Trade Paperback edition.

It s a Boy

Author: Michael Thompson, PhD
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0345512804
Release Date: 2008-08-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

From the New York Times bestselling co-author of Raising Cain, It’s a Boy! is the first major parenting book to chart every stage of a boy’s life. This upbeat, authoritative, and reassuring guide–written by psychologist Michael Thompson, Ph.D., a leading international expert on boys’ development, and journalist Teresa H. Barker–shows how a boy’s inner life progresses through infancy, childhood, and adolescence. What do boys actually need? How exactly does a healthy boy look and act? It’s a Boy! has the answers, providing expert advice on the developmental, psychological, social, and academic life of boys from infancy through the teen years. Exploring the many ways in which boys strive for masculinity and attempt to define themselves, Dr. Thompson identifies the key developmental transitions that mark a boy’s psychological growth and emotional health, and the challenges both boys and parents face at each age. • Expecting a Boy: how our deeply held hopes, fears, and family histories shape our expectations of boys and our parenting techniques • Baby Boys (birth to 18 months): falling in love with your son, healthy attachment, trust, and temperament • Toddler Years (18 months to 3 years): boys on the go, bold steps, blankies, budding language, and rambunctious physicality • Powerful Little Boys (ages 3 and 4): superhero ambitions, penis play and potty talk, learning to manage the force of his anger, and celebrating the power of the boy group • Starting School (ages 5 through 7): developmental cues for school readiness, transitional challenges, girl cooties and boys-only play, tough talk, tender hearts, and first friends • Boys on a Mission (ages 8 through 10): striving for mastery in sports, screen games, and boy society, organizing the boy brain for school success, and glaring academic gender gaps • The Preteen (ages 11 through 13): puberty, posturing and popularity, the culture of cruelty, hidden sensitivity, and stoic silence in the middle school years • Early High School (ages 14 and 15): the secret life of boys, powerful peer groups, sexuality, school strategies, the shift away from Mom (she knows too much), and yearning for Dad’s respect and attention • On the Brink of Manhood (ages 16 through 18): the quest for independence, sex, love, driving, drinking, and other choices and challenges of life Practical, insightful, wonderfully engaging, and filled with instructive true stories any parent of a son will recognize, It’s a Boy! is the definitive guide to raising boys in today’s world, revealing with humor, compassion, and joy all the infinite varieties of boys and the deep and profound ways in which we love them. From the Hardcover edition.

Mentoring Children and Adolescents

Author: Maureen A. Buckley
Publisher: Greenwood Publishing Group
ISBN: 027597975X
Release Date: 2003
Genre: Education

The concept of mentoring and information on the role of caring adult-youth relationships in fostering positive development for young people are presented and explored.

The Parents Guide to Boys

Author: Abigail James
Publisher: Greenleaf Book Group
ISBN: 9781936909599
Release Date: 2012-11-28
Genre: Family & Relationships

Raising a boy poses unique challenges. This entertaining and informative user’s manual will help you work with your son to prepare him for school. Abigail James’s experiences as a teacher, mother of a son, and lifelong learner confirm her belief that parents want to give their children the best preparation for life they possibly can. If you have a son—or know someone who’s raising a boy—here’s the book you’ve been looking for. Its clear, practical advice will guide you through preparing your child for school and for life. Packed with activities you can implement immediately, humorous examples you’ll remember forever, and wisdom Abigail has acquired in the trenches, The Parents’ Guide to Boys is a book you’ll quote often and go back to again and again. No matter whether your son is eight months or eighteen years old, Abigail has tips for giving him a great head start, keeping him engaged in the classroom, and creating a happy, self-sufficient young man.

Raising Cain

Author: Dan Kindlon, Ph.D.
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0307569225
Release Date: 2009-08-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

The stunning success of Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher's landmark book, showed a true and pressing need to address the emotional lives of girls. Now, finally, here is the book that answers our equally timely and critical need to understand our boys. In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D., two of the country's leading child psychologists, share what they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined experience working with boys and their families. They reveal a nation of boys who are hurting--sad, afraid, angry, and silent. Statistics point to an alarming number of young boys at high risk for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness. Kindlon and Thompson set out to answer this basic, crucial question: What do boys need that they're not getting? They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys, teaching them to believe that "cool" equals macho strength and stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother blame," "boy biology," and "testosterone," Kindlon and Thompson shed light on the destructive emotional training our boys receive--the emotional miseducation of boys. Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, Raising Cain paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer "culture of cruelty"--boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. The good news is that this doesn't have to happen. There is much we can do to prevent it. Kindlon and Thompson make a compelling case that emotional literacy is the most valuable gift we can offer our sons, urging parents to recognize the price boys pay when we hold them to an impossible standard of manhood. They identify the social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and empathy--giving them the vital connections and support they need to navigate the social pressures of youth. Powerfully written and deeply felt, Raising Cain will forever change the way we see our sons and will transform the way we help them to become happy and fulfilled young men. From the Hardcover edition.

The Pressured Child

Author: Michael Thompson, Ph.D.
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780307489791
Release Date: 2011-08-17
Genre: Family & Relationships

The push for students to excel at school and get into the best colleges has never been more intense. In this invaluable new book, the bestselling co-author of Raising Cain addresses America’s performance-driven obsession with the accomplishments of its kids–and provides a deeply humane response. “How was school?” These three words contain a world of desire on the part of parents to know what their children are learning and experiencing in school each day. Children may not divulge much, but psychologist Michael Thompson suggests that the answers are there if we know how to read the clues and–equally important–if we remember our own school days. School, Thompson reminds us, occupies more waking hours than kids spend at home; and school is full not just of studies but of human emotion–excitement, fear, envy, love, anger, sexuality, boredom, competitiveness. Through richly detailed interviews, case histories, and student e-mail journals, including those of his own children, Thompson illuminates the deeper psychological journey that school demands, a journey that all children must take in order to grow and develop, whether they are academic aces or borderline dropouts. Most of us remember this journey, if we are honest with ourselves, but our children must experience it in their own way, for better or worse. In stories that are by turns poignant, shocking, uplifting, and inspiring, we see students grapple with the textured reality of their lives, devising their own unique strategies to survive and thrive in school. For parents, this book reveals the hidden emotional landscape of the school day and points toward the answers we both desire and dread as we seek to help our children find success in school and beyond. Bridging the worlds of the growing and the grown-up, and told in Thompson’s compassionate voice as both psychologist and father, The Pressured Child shows us how to listen for the truth of our children’s experience–and how to trust, love, and ultimately let go of a child. It is a crucial book for our stressful age–and an ideal resource for families struggling to survive it. From the Hardcover edition.

Right From Wrong

Author: Michael Riera
Publisher: Da Capo Press
ISBN: 9780786745685
Release Date: 2009-02-23
Genre: Psychology

Integrity is not simply something that happens as a result of family stability, unconditional love, healthy genes, or good luck; it emerges, if it does, because parents make it important and because they choose to exercise influence in this arena. Combining stories of children in their natural settings with compassionate, in-depth analysis and pragmatic counsel, Right from Wrong makes the promotion of integrity possible, feasible, indispensable. It shows parents how their use of praise and discipline, honesty, listening, and consequences will help foster integrity in young children, making them people whom we admire as well as people who are proud of themselves.

How to Say it to Boys

Author: Richard Heyman
Publisher: Prentice Hall
ISBN: 0735203687
Release Date: 2003
Genre: Self-Help

Organized by age, this helpful parenting manual offers practical advice on the art of communicating with boys, with tips on how to discuss such topics as bullying, discipline, substance abuse, and sex; suggestions on how to help boys sort out their emotions; ways to get boys to listen and remember; and more. Original.

Boys of Few Words

Author: Adam J. Cox
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 1606237594
Release Date: 2005-12-23
Genre: Psychology

When your son responds to personal questions with a blank stare, or quickly changes the topic, you might chalk it up to “boys will be boys”--but still worry that something is missing in your relationship or troubling your child. You could be right on both counts. Whether your son needs to talk more, or just more effectively, this practical book will help you raise him to communicate and connect. Psychologist Adam Cox helps boys of all ages and their parents work together to overcome the innate brain differences, social pressures, guardedness, and learning and attention problems that often leave males at a communication disadvantage. With Dr. Cox's expert guidance, you can identify the camouflage boys use to deflect attention and learn useful ways to foster self-expression--from engaging preschoolers in imaginative wordplay to using creative conversation starters with sullen teenagers.

Loose leaf Version for Real Writing with Readings

Author: Susan Anker
Publisher: Macmillan Higher Education
ISBN: 9781457634611
Release Date: 2012-12-19
Genre: Language Arts & Disciplines

With efficient and engaging instruction and a consistent focus on why writing matters in the real world, Real Writing delivers a powerful message to students: Good writing skills are both achievable and essential. Concise Four Basics boxes and engaging paragraph- and essay-writing chapters present writing instruction in clear, manageable increments. The Four Most Serious Errors and other sentence-level chapters cover grammar in a lively and supportive way, with abundant opportunities for practice and application. As always, Susan Anker encourages students to connect what they learn with their own goals and with the needs and expectations of the larger world. In Profiles of Success, former students, now employed in a variety of professions, speak frankly about their experiences in school and after graduation, with examples of the types of writing their current jobs require. In this edition, Anker does far more to build students' critical thinking, critical reading, and argument skills and adds innovative new assignments, readings, and visuals. Real Writing with Readings is now integrated with LearningCurve — online, adaptive quizzing activities that reinforce what students learn in the book.

The War Against Boys

Author: Christina Hoff Sommers
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781501125423
Release Date: 2015-09-01
Genre: Education

An updated and revised edition of the controversial classic--now more relevant than ever--argues that boys are the ones languishing socially and academically, resulting in staggering social and economic costs. Girls and women were once second-class citizens in the nation's schools. Americans responded w ith concerted efforts to give girls and women the attention and assistance that was long overdue. Now, after two major waves of feminism and decades of policy reform, women have made massive strides in education. Today they outperform men in nearly every measure of social, academic, and vocational well-being. Christina Hoff Sommers contends that it's time to take a hard look at present-day realities and recognize that boys need help. Called "provocative and controversial . . . impassioned and articulate" ("The Christian Science M"onitor), this edition of "The War Against Boys" offers a new preface and six radically revised chapters, plus updates on the current status of boys throughout the book. Sommers argues that the problem of male underachievement is persistent and worsening. Among the new topics Sommers tackles: how the war against boys is harming our economic future, and how boy-averse trends such as the decline of recess and zero-tolerance disciplinary policies have turned our schools into hostile environments for boys. As our schools become more feelings-centered, risk-averse, competition-free, and sedentary, they move further and further from the characteristic needs of boys. She offers realistic, achievable solutions to these problems that include boy-friendly pedagogy, character and vocational education, and the choice of single-sex classrooms. "The War Against Boys" is an incisive, rigorous, and heartfelt argument in favor of recognizing and confronting a new reality: boys are languishing in education and the price of continued neglect is economically and socially prohibitive.

The Politics of Policy in Boys Education

Author: Marcus B. Weaver-Hightower
Publisher: Palgrave Macmillan
ISBN: 0230608396
Release Date: 2008-10-15
Genre: Education

This book explores boy-focused education policy and how different educators struggle to implement or resist it in their schools. Weaver-Hightower examines masculinity politics in Australia and the United States, mapping how these politics create panic over raising and educating boys the “Right” way. Contextualizing this policy with movements for boys’ education around the world, this book offers progressive strategies for resisting conservative, regressive, anti-feminist programs for boys.

Best friends worst enemies

Author: Michael Thompson
Publisher: Random House, Inc.
ISBN: 034544289X
Release Date: 2001
Genre: Family & Relationships

Details the complex nature of children's friendships by providing thought-provoking discussions and heartwarming stories on the difference between friendship and popularity, how boys and girls deal with intimacy and commitments, and more. Reprint.

Growing Up Too Fast

Author: Sylvia Rimm
Publisher: Rodale Books
ISBN: 1579547095
Release Date: 2005-09-17
Genre: Family & Relationships

A leading child psychologist reveals the results of an unprecedented survey of America's pre-teens-and helps parents deal with the troubling findings Through instant messaging, cell phones, and email, today's middle schoolers hide their real lives from their parents. To find out what these youngsters are really up to, Dr. Sylvia Rimm, author of the New York Times bestseller See Jane Win, conducted a survey of over 5,400 middle school kids and talked with over 300 students in focus groups. In Growing Up Too Fast, Dr. Rimm reveals the startling results of her research. While parents remember high school as the time when they encountered sex, drugs, body image issues, and other "teenage" problems, today's kids face these pressures in middle school. In fact, some are confronting "teen" issues by age 9 or 10. A 7th-grader told Dr. Rimm about "a friend who brags that she can chug a Bloody Mary in less than 10 seconds." In Growing Up Too Fast, Dr. Rimm shows parents exactly what they can do to help their kids with these modern pressures. Katie Couric, host of NBC's Today show, has called her "a welcome voice of calm and reason-someone who offers practical advice, with almost immediate results." Growing Up Too Fast will show parents how to lead today's new breed of adolescents to a bright and promising future.