When it comes to a child's sense of family, what divorce breaks apart, solid co-parenting rebuilds. With a tested "here's how" approach, The Co-Parents' Handbook helps parents confidently take on the challenges of raising children in two homes. Addressing parents' questions about the emotional impact of separation, conflict, grief and recovery, the authors skillfully provide a road map for all members of the family to safely navigate through separation/divorce and beyond. Parents discover through practical guidance how to move from angry/hurt partners to constructive, successful co-parents. The pages are chock-full of helpful strategies to resolve day-to-day issues in an easy-to use format.
Author: Deesha Philyaw
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Release Date: 2013-05-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
A successful co-parenting relationship is as vital to your child's well-being and health as nutritious food or proper exercise. Research, anecdotal evidence, and plain common sense all point to the fact that children are happier, healthier, and better adjusted when both of their parents play an active role in their lives. Studies also show that the trauma children experience in the wake of a divorce or separation can be lessened when they see their parents getting along. Kids whose parents successfully co-parent feel more secure than those who have limited or no connection to one of their parents post divorce. Co-Parenting 101 is based on the premise that co-parenting is a must, not an option. The involvement of both parents—not just the primary guardian—is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting. This is the first book written by a formerly married couple for whom co parenting is central to their day to day lives, and it offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse. Authors Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas, the creators of the popular co-parenting website, co-parenting101.org, share their own experiences raising their children together, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book a great resource for divorced parents with children. For parents, less time stressed out about legal wrangling means more time to be fully present and engaged with the children. By learning to put their animosity aside, parents can focus on putting their kids first.
Author: Isolina Ricci
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Release Date: 2013-04-16
Internationally renowned therapist, family expert and mediator Isolina Ricci, Ph.D. presents this definitive and newly updated guide to divorce and making shared custody work for parents and children. The ground-breaking classic, Mom’s House, Dad’s House, has become the standard for two generations of divorcing parents, and includes examples, self-tests, checklists, tools, and guidelines to help separated moms and dads with the legal, emotional, and financial issues they will encounter as they work to create happy and stable homes. This comprehensive guide looks anew at the needs of all family members with creative options and common-sense advice, including: * The map to a “decent divorce” and two happy homes * Helping children of divorce with age-specific advice * Negotiating Parental Agreements and custody arrangements * Breaking away from “negative intimacy” with a difficult ex-husband or ex-wife * Sidestepping destructive myths about divorce (and marriage) * Handling long-distance parenting and parenting alone With Mom’s House, Dad’s House, parents will learn how to help their children heal and find a sense of continuity, security, and stability throughout the divorce process and in any custody situation.
Author: Steven Walfish
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Release Date: 2017-03-13
Handbook of Private Practice is the premier resource for mental health clinicians, covering all aspects of developing and maintaining a successful private practice. Written for graduate students considering the career path of private practice, professionals wanting to transition into private practice, and current private practitioners who want to improve their practice, this book combines the overarching concepts needed to take a mental health practice (whether solo or in a group) from inception, through its lifespan. From envisioning your practice, to accounting and bookkeeping, hiring staff, managing the practice, and running the business of the practice, a diverse group of expert authors describe the practical considerations and steps to take to enhance your success. Chapters cover marketing, dealing with insurance and managed care, and how to choose your advisors. Ethics and risk management are integrated throughout the text with a special section also devoted to these issues and strategies. The last section features 26 niche practices in which expert practitioners describe their special area of practice and discuss important issues and aspects of their specialty practice. These areas include assessment and evaluation, specialized psychotherapy services, working with unique populations of clients, and more. Whether read cover-to-cover or used as a reference to repeatedly come back to when a question or challenge arises, this book is full of practical guidance directly geared to psychologists, counselors, social workers, and marriage and family therapists in independent practice.
Author: Isolina Ricci
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Release Date: 2007-11-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
From the author of the classic Mom’s House, Dad’s House, the essential guide for kids on how to stay strong and succeed in life when parents separate, divorce, or get married again. Isolina Ricci’s Mom’s House, Dad’s House has been the gold standard for inspiring and supporting divorcing and remarrying parents for more than twenty-five years. With her new book, Dr. Isa adapts her time-tested advice on maneuvering the emotional, logistical, and legal realities of separation, divorce, and stepfamilies to speak directly to children. Alongside practical ways to cope with big changes she offers older children and their families key resiliency tools that kids can use now and the rest of their lives. Kids and families are encouraged to believe in themselves, to take heart, and to plan for their lives ahead. Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids is packed with practical tips, frank answers, easy-to-use lists, “train your brain” ideas, reproducible worksheets, and things to try when words just won’t come out right. Kids will learn how to: · Deal with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rules · Settle comfortably in one home or two · Stay out of the “miserable middle” when parents fight · Manage stress, guilt, change, fear, and other feelings · Stay connected with parents, relatives, and the “right” friends · Appreciate the gifts (and deal with the gripes) of their new version of family · Feel better FAST! Kids can’t get their parents back together, but they can help themselves get stronger and go on to succeed in life. This book shows them how.
An internationally renowned authority on children and divorce reveals the latest research-based strategies for helping children survive and thrive before, during, and long after their parents divorce. The breakup of a family can have an enduring impact on children. But as Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll explains with clarity and compassion in this powerful book, parents can positively alter the immediate and long-term effects of divorce on their children. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives. Over the past three decades, Pedro-Carroll has worked with families in transition, conducted research, and developed and directed award- winning, court-endorsed programs that have helped thousands of families navigate divorce and its aftermath. Now she shares practical, research- based advice that helps parents: ?gain a deeper understanding of what their children are experiencing ?develop emotionally intelligent parenting strategies with the critical combination of boundless love and appropriate limits on behavior ?reduce conflict with a former spouse and protect children from conflict's damaging effects ?learn what recent brain research reveals about stress and children's developing capabilities Filled with the voices and drawings of children and the stories of families, Putting Children First delivers a positive vision for a future of hope and healing.
We know kids do best when parents understand their children's deep desire to stay connected to and be cared for by both of them. A skillful parenting plan describes the structure, predictability and rhythm that ensure both parents can emerge from the uncertainty of separation/divorce into stable two-home family life. The agreements and guidelines set-out in your parenting plan establish clarity about your responsibilities to one another, specify essential co-parenting tasks, and minimize unnecessary conflict.Children thrive when confidence and security are present and parents think through parenting plan decisions, come to agreements, and implement changes to their family in a mature, non-adversarial manner. Come learn with us. We'll share with you our 25 plus years of experience working with families facing transitions as they emerge into bright futures with well-adjusted children.The "C-Words" of a strong, child-centered parenting plan:* Collaboration* Communication* Conflict-management* Child-centered* Co-Parenting
Author: Jeremy Kossen
Release Date: 2016-04-17
Going through a divorce is never easy. Tension can be high, and too often, the adversarial family court system only escalates the conflict. Sadly, children can become collateral damage. Fortunately - as in life - in divorce, you have choices. You don't need to go down the traditional path of hiring a divorce attorney and battling it out in court. Instead, you can choose cooperation over conflict, and put your children first! Putting Kids First in Divorce, brings together eleven leading divorce, co-parenting, and relationship professionals, who share their insights and perspectives on communication, conflict resolution, and supporting children through a transition. You'll learn about alternatives to litigation such as collaborative law, mediation and divorce coaching - which are far less adversarial and more economical than family court. In an easy-to-read interview-style format, Putting Kids First in Divorce, will enlighten, empower and inspire you. Filled with wisdom from leading experts, you'll learn everything from creating a cooperative child-centric separation to resolving conflict; approaching divorce with mindfulness to raising resilient children; communicating with your ex to co-parenting with compassion. Equipped with the knowledge you will acquire in this book, our hope is that you see divorce does not have to be a battlefield, but an opportunity for growth where you can create an environment to ensure your children thrive! As Karen Bonnell, a co-contributor to the book is fond of saying, "When it comes to a child's sense of family, what divorce breaks apart, solid co-parenting rebuilds." Putting Kids First in Divorce is comprised of ten value-packed chapters featuring content and interviews with high-integrity divorce professionals, unified by a common theme: putting the needs of children first through cooperative processes. The topics covered include: � Choose Cooperation Over Combat by Jeremy S. Kossen & Mark B. Baer, Esq. � Stay Out of Court! Choose Mediation or Collaborative Divorce Over Litigation by Mark B. Baer & Jeremy S. Kossen � For Kids, What Divorce Breaks Apart, Strong Co-Parenting Rebuilds by Karen Bonnell, ARNP, MS � Using Mediation to Build a Happy Blended Family by Amanda D. Singer, Esq., MDR, CDFA(tm) & Jennifer M. Segura, JD, CDFA(tm) � Approaching Divorce With Mindfulness And Compassion by Belinda N. Zylberman � How to Establish Boundaries and Promote Healthy Communication by Maida V. Farrar, Esq., CDC � The Road to Resiliency: How to Raise Resilient Children Through a Family Transition by Kristine Clay, MA � How to Work on Your Marriage When It No Longer Works by Sara Freed � How to Help Your Teen Survive and Thrive After Divorce by Nicola Beer � Guilt-Free Parenting in Divorce by Cherie D. Morris
Author: Karen L. Kristjanson
Release Date: 2017-12-02
Genre: Family & Relationships
Karen L. Kristjanson shares the stories of a variety of divorced and separated couples who co-parent. Effective co-parenting, or sharing significant parenting time with an ex-spouse, is one of the best gifts separated parents can give to their children. The interviews in Co-Parenting from the Inside Out are with real moms and dads in diverse circumstances, showing them making choices, sometimes struggling, and often growing. Their stories offer insights into wise decision-making, as well as practical strategies that strengthen families. Parents can see that they are not alone as they navigate their feelings and build a future. While pain exists in most stories, there is also hope. Co-parents often feel that they have become more confident and compassionate, and parent better than before. The effects of their personal growth and their children’s are the silver lining in the dark pain of divorce. Karen L. Kristjanson has brought together real life co-parenting stories that inspire separated parents and help them understand co-parenting better, offering practical tips and tools that directly benefit families.
Author: Bradley Craig
Publisher: Bth Publications, a Division of Between Two Homes
Release Date: 2014-07-21
You may be divorcing, divorced, never married, a grandparent, or other relative of a child growing up between two homes. For whatever reason you find yourself in the situation of helping a child grow up between two homes, it's normal to wonder how to do so now that you're no longer (or maybe never were) a single-home family. Between Two Homes has the answers. In this book, you'll learn how to remain or become coparents (instead of opponents) and how to help your child grow and thrive while living between two homes. Between Two Homes helps you:* Build a successful coparenting relationship so you can stop fighting and start communicating* Recognize obstacles to the coparenting relationship* Take advantage of alternatives to litigation-you don't have to fight it out in court* Talk to your child about the changes using language he or she can understand* Learn the special needs of your child at various stages, from newborn to teenager* Create a coparenting plan* Learn what behaviors, and even what words, can help or hurt your childThis book is also a helpful resource for mental health professionals and family law professionals. Not only does it provide helpful tools to help families, but it is a valuable text to provide to your clients. "Bradley S. Craig brings practical advice to emotionally driven situations involving one of life's most precious gifts, children. Between Two Homes is a concise, informative, and well-written guide to help parents learn to effectively coparent. I enthusiastically recommend Between Two Homes and Bradley's philosophy on how to effectively coparent."- Lauren Gaydos Duffer, Attorney and President of The Law Office of Lauren Gaydos Duffer, PC"A great tool for helping families raise children between their two homes." - Jennifer Leister, LPC, Author of Meet Max: Learning about Divorce from a Basset Hound's Perspective"Brad is one of the premier mental-health professionals dealing with families of divorce in the state of Texas. I, as well as the others Brad comes across, always learn something from him." - Patrick A. Savage, MA, LPC, FAPA, BCPC
Author: Jeremy S. Gaies
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Release Date: 2014-11-06
Genre: Family & Relationships
Being good parents is hard even when you're happily married, but for separated or divorced couples, parenting can be particularly daunting. There is hope. Mindful Co-Parenting provides divorced parents a practical way through the process that protects their children. In this compact, step-by-step guide, written in a supportive yet direct style, clinical psychologists Jeremy S. Gaies, Psy.D., and James B. Morris Jr., Ph.D., identify what matters most to kids and describe the importance of parents being mindful of their children's needs and wants. Starting with the question of whether or not divorce is the best option for your family, the book walks you through the process, from choosing the most child-friendly divorce proceedings, to navigating co-parenting after the papers are signed, to handling the future challenges of stepparenting and other issues that may arise. By simply paying attention and planning ahead, you and your ex can reduce the potential negative effects of divorce on your family. Learn how to create a comprehensive parenting plan that can begin to establish a new norm for the benefit of your family's new future.
Author: Chris Bobel
Publisher: Temple University Press
Release Date: 2010-06-10
Single or married, working mothers are, if not the norm, no longer exceptional. These days, women who stay at home to raise their children seem to be making a radical lifestyle choice. Indeed, the women at the center of The Paradox of Natural Mothering have renounced consumerism and careerism in order to reclaim home and family. These natural mothers favor parenting practices that set them apart from the mainstream: home birth, extended breast feeding, home schooling and natural health care. Regarding themselves as part of a movement, natural mothers believe they are changing society one child, one family at a time. Author Chris Bobel profiles some thirty natural mothers, probing into their choices and asking whether they are reforming or conforming to women's traditional role. Bobel's subjects say that they have chosen to follow their nature rather than social imperatives. Embracing such lifestyle alternatives as voluntary simplicity and attachment parenting, they place family above status and personal achievement. Bobel illuminates the paradoxes of natural mothering, the ways in which these women resist the trappings of upward mobility but acquiesce to a kind of biological determinism and conventional gender scripts.
Author: Amy J. L. Baker
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Release Date: 2014-05-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
You aren’t what you think! For teens with negative thinking habits, a licensed psychologist and a health journalist offer cognitive restructuring—a simple and effective cognitive behavioral approach to help you break free from the nine most common negative thinking habits that typically result in feeling sad, worried, angry, and stressed. This workbook offers a powerful technique called cognitive restructuring to help you reframe your thoughts, regulate your emotions, become a more flexible thinker, and stop letting your thoughts define who you are and how you feel. You’ll learn to target the nine specific kinds of negative thinking habits that can cause you to worry or feel bad, such as the I can’t habit, the doom and gloom habit, the all or nothing habit, the jumping to conclusions habit, and more! Each chapter will walk you through simple explanations of each kind of negative thought, and offers real-life examples—as well as the sorts of behaviors, emotions, and bodily sensations that might be expected. You'll also gain an understanding of unhelpful or unrealistic thoughts, how to challenge them, how to replace them with more realistic and helpful thoughts, and an action plan for moving forward. By recognizing these negative thinking habits, you’ll feel more in control and less anxious and sad. Most importantly, you’ll be able to see yourself and the world more clearly. Your thoughts don’t have to define who you are and how you experience life. The transdiagnostic approach in this book will show you how to kick negative thinking habits to the curb for good!
Eight essential keys to resolving conflict and rebuilding your life. This unique and empowering guide gives divorcing couples the skills to manage their divorce successfully, handle the legal and emotional issues harmoniously, and redefine and preserve the positive elements of their relationship. Informed by eight mediation concepts developed and used by the authors in their practice, the process outlined in this book will allow divorcing couples to deal rationally with the issues rather than allowing fear, anger, and grief to dictate their actions. Making Divorce Work leads couples to experience divorce as a celebration of the end of a relationship that served them well and provides the tools to deal with virtually every aspect of divorce-from money and custody to grieving and pain-to be proud of the way they handled their divorce and to start their new lives from a better place. Watch a Video