The Couple s Survival Workbook

Author: David Olsen
Publisher:
ISBN: 0963878417
Release Date: 2011-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

With more than 55 years of experience between them, master couple s therapists David Olsen and Douglas Stephens know where most relationships go awry. Based on their knowledge of those danger zones, they have created targeted, practical exercises that help you successfully navigate those areas. The goal is to turn problems or potential problems into opportunities for greater communication and intimacy. Olsen and Stephens also know that often only one half of a couple is ready to make real changes. "The Couple s Survival Workbook" is designed to work even if your partner isn t committed to the process. By skillfully changing yourself, you re likely to find your whole relationship improving. Whether you re a therapist seeking practical, effective exercises for the couples you work with clients or you are part of a struggling couple looking to make your relationship work, "The Couple s Survival Workbook" can help.

The Couple s Survival Workbook

Author: David C. Olsen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
ISBN: 157224254X
Release Date: 2001
Genre: Family & Relationships

In The Couple's Survival Workbook, two veteran psychologists show that the secret to marital longevity is deep, abiding friendship. Partners will learn to stop blaming and start focusing on their own contribution to the problem.

Couples Therapy Workbook

Author: Kathleen Mates-Youngman, LMFT
Publisher: PESI Publishing & Media
ISBN: 9781937661465
Release Date: 2014-10-01
Genre: Psychology

Couples Therapy Workbook is a series of guided questions to promote meaningful couple conversations and build ongoing, connected communication. The core of this unique guide is 30 guided conversations of the most critical relationship struggles. For each of the 30 topics, there is an introduction, goal-setting strategies and 10 scripted questions to ask each other - all presented in an easy-to-use mindful style. Set in a weekly format over 30 days but can be tailored to any timeframe. Designed to be used to couples, and also by therapists working with couples (bonus clinician prep included with each conversation). Week 1- Who Are We? Falling in Love, Friendship, Caring, Acceptance, Empathy, Emotional Intimacy, Rituals Week 2 - Who Am I? Childhood, Family Origin, Temperament, Influences, Spirituality, Values, How I Think Week 3- How do we work? Communication, Conflict, Defensiveness, Intimacy, Trust, Fidelity and Boundaries, Parenting, Staying in Sync Week 4 - What do we want? Romance, Joy and Gratitude, respect, Apologies and Forgiveness, Challenges, Relationship Savings Account, Past, Present & Future, Keeping Connected Reviews: “What a unique resource! A treasure-trove of guided conversations to increase intimacy and friendship. Therapists often ask me for good homework assignments. This book does the thinking for you. Keep it on hand and whether its values, sex, conflict or other challenging issues, you'll have a ready-made way to help your clients make immediate progress.” -- Ellyn Bader, Ph.D, Founder/Director The Couples Institute "This is a valuable resource for anyone working with couples. Any couple can profit greatly if they are willing to take Kathleen Youngman's challenge to explore these important topics and discuss these wonderful questions." -- Milan and Kay Yerkovich, Authors of best-selling How We Love series “Instead of offering analysis, advice or theory, The Couples Therapy Workbook offers just that, a set of questions to stimulate conversations that help couples deepen their engagement with each other and reconnect. All couples will find this an exceptional guide, and all therapists will find it an effective instrument to supplement the therapeutic process. I highly recommend it and complement the author on her creativity and attention to the core details of a connected relationship.” --Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D.; Authors of Making Marriage Simple and Getting the Love You Want.

When Two Become Three

Author: Mark E. Crawford
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1441202617
Release Date: 2007-06-01
Genre: Religion

Raising children is one of life's greatest joys, but the impact of introducing a child into a marriage is staggering. Many couples don't realize the relational stress that parenting can cause. Most parents experience decreased intimacy and increased conflict. They may even find themselves asking, "Am I still in love?" When Two Become Three helps couples recognize the inevitable challenges to their relationship that occur during the childrearing years. It provides practical advice designed to help couples nurture their marital relationship in order to ensure it remains strong during this phase of life and beyond.

Boundaries in Marriage

Author: Henry Cloud
Publisher: Zondervan
ISBN: 9780310319245
Release Date: 2009-05-18
Genre: Religion

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries in Marriage gives you the tools you need. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show you how to apply the principles of boundaries to your marriage. This book helps you understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in your marriage -- and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you both long for.

Healing Together

Author: Suzanne B. Phillips
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781572245440
Release Date: 2009-01-01
Genre: Psychology

After a traumatic experience, we are told time and time again to take care of ourselves and reach out to the people we love. But what happens when you reach out and your partner can't reach back? This book is for people in relationships where either partner has faced trauma in any of its forms: violence, natural disasters, war, life-threatening accidents, crime, health problems, or loss of a loved one. One or both partners can use Healing Together to recover from trauma or help their partner recover by understanding the impact of trauma, learning to communicate their needs, managing anger, dealing with traumatic memories, recapturing lost intimacy, and recognizing their resiliency as a couple. The practical, step-by-step program presented in this guide is inspired and informed by the authors' clinical experiences with patients suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder and their work with firefighters and their partners in the aftermath of 9/11. In the wake of tragedy, this book can help you build a resilient relationship and move forward with compassion, hope, and love. Healing Together is a beautiful book… an invaluable resource that will help couples face their traumas together. -Sue Johnson, Ph.D., professor of psychology at University of Ottawa and author of Hold Me Tight

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9781101902912
Release Date: 2015-05-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

Relationship Rescue

Author: Phillip C. McGraw
Publisher: Hachette Books
ISBN: 9780786871124
Release Date: 2001-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

As a follow-up to his bestselling book Life Strategies, Oprah acolyte Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D., moves from aiding the aimless individual to coaching the disconnected couple. McGraw has distilled his more than two decades of counseling experience into a seven-step strategy he calls "Relationship Rescue." "I'm prepared to kick a hole in the wall of the pain-ridden, unhappy maze you've gotten yourself into, and provide you clear access to action-oriented answers and instructions on what you must do to have what you want," says Dr. Phil. His aim is to expose and eliminate the saboteurs that cause senseless damage to already-fragile marriages, and, like an emotional root canal, to replace them with values he says provide positive results. If you follow Dr. Phil's strategy, he will lead you on a precise journey to uncover your heart and then share it with your partner as part of taking the "risk of intimacy." Dr. Phil leads you to "reconnect with your core" in the first five steps of his seven-step strategy. By no means a quick fix, there are in-depth and rigorous questionnaires, surveys, tests, and profiles that require a "brutally candid" mindset, with such fill-in-the-blanks as "List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner." With this internal work accomplished, you'll then move on to reconnecting with your partner during a two-week, half-hour-a-day short course. As a "dyad," you and your loved one take turns giving monologues on topics such as "The most positive thing I took away from my mother and father's relationship was..." Once the "reconnection" has been established, Dr. Phil says the work shifts to a management role, as relationships are always a work in progress. Dr. Phil humorously refers to his own marriage throughout the book, sharing his mishaps and victories in learning to accept and enjoy what he sees as fundamental but complementary differences between men and women. --John Youngs

The Relationship Skills Workbook

Author: Julia B. Colwell
Publisher: Sounds True
ISBN: 9781622033874
Release Date: 2014-10-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Course objectives: Recognize relationship as an emotional healer; identify triggers, move through them, and come back into ease and aliveness Discover how intimacy in relationship requires curiosity, wonder, and the ability to find the truth of one's experience deep in one's body Discuss how to speak the "unarguable truth"; utilizing the eight step moving emotions process—moving from stuckness into emotional flow Define three toxic habits within relationships and their antidotes—transforming our own behavior, as well as those around us through positive attention Summarize how to move out of power struggles within relationships and into agreements which allow everyone to get everything they want Discuss how to live within the relationship you really want moving between contractiona and expansiveness—welcoming appreciations, creativity, play, aliveness, as well as love for self and other Utilize checklists, tools, and journaling exercises as a way to engage, reflect and explore relationship skills and self-growth What are the ingredients of a successful and enduring relationship? Love, passion, and commitment are all vital—yet without certain basic skills, even the most devoted partners can find themselves descending into arguments, power struggles, and disillusionment. With The Relationship Skills Workbook, Dr. Julia Colwell presents a practical guide for building a conscious partnership based on cooperation and trust—offering relationship-saving techniques and on-the-spot conflict resolution tools for disarming the explosive clashes that most commonly break couples apart. In this friendly and easy-to-use resource, Dr. Colwell teaches you essential tools for: Crisis and conflict first aid—communication strategies and emotional mastery techniques to stop arguing and start connecting Getting unstuck from power struggles—how to shift from deadlock to mutual responsibility and support Ending the blame game—letting go of accusation and resentment to create win-win agreements Supporting each other's growth and success—how to retain your personal autonomy while fully committing to your partner's happiness Moving from reactivity to creative solutions—techniques to keep your brain's flight-or-fight instinct from undermining your heart's desires Sustaining love, passion, and romance—how you can choose to create a magnificent relationship together "Relationships, while seemingly complicated, don't have to be so mysterious," Dr. Colwell says. "What I've learned from my decades of personal and professional experiences is that a few elegantly simple concepts and skills can help any couple through the most difficult spots—and help us transform conflict into intimacy, passion, and ever-deepening love."

A Guide to Self Help Workbooks for Mental Health Clinicians and Researchers

Author: Luciano L'Abate
Publisher: Psychology Press
ISBN: 0789022621
Release Date: 2004
Genre: Psychology

Never has the need for a compendium of self-help workbooks been so great! From the founder of the world's first PhD program in Family Psychology comes an extensive guide to nearly all of the mental health workbooks published through 2002. Placed together in one volume for the first time, A Guide to Self-Help Workbooks for Mental Health Clinicians and Researchers includes reviews and evaluates the complexity of each workbook in regards to its form, content, and usability by the client. From abuse to women's issues, this annotated bibliography is alphabetized by author, but can also be researched by subject. While self-help workbooks are currently not as popular or as mainstream as self-help books and video, that could soon change. Self-help workbooks are versatile, cost-effective, and can be mass-produced. The workbook user is active rather than passive, and the mental healthcare worker can analyze a more personal response from the user, whether in the office or via the Internet. A Guide to Self-Help Workbooks for Mental Health Clinicians and Researchers brings these workbooks together into one sourcebook to suit anyone's needs. Each self-help workbook is reviewed according to specific criteria: contents structure specificity goal level of abstraction a subjective evaluation usually concludes the review of the workbook A Guide to Self-Help Workbooks for Mental Health Clinicians and Researchers also includes: an in-depth introduction discussing the need for workbooks in mental health practices indices for subject as well as author an address list of the publishing houses for the workbooks annotated in the bibliography an Informed Consent Form to verify compliance with ethical and professional regulations before administering a workbook to a client A Guide to Self-Help Workbooks for Mental Health Clinicians and Researchers offers you a complete resource to self-help workbooks for all mental health subjects. Dr. L'Abate's highly selective review process helps you find exactly what you need. This unique sourcebook is vital for mental health clinicians, counselors, schoolteachers, and college and graduate students.

Renewing Your Relationship

Author: David Olsen
Publisher: Outskirts Press
ISBN: 1478787368
Release Date: 2017-05-30
Genre: Family & Relationships

Renewing Your Relationship: 5 Necessary Steps Renewing Your Relationship: 5 Necessary Steps is a practical, easy-to-read workbook for couples interested in working together on their relationship as well as individuals attempting to understand their most intimate connections. In fact, couples therapists David Olsen and Erin Belanger-Freeh base Renewing Your Relationship in the most fundamental component of relationships: the self. Step one is changing oneself and one's role in a relationship. This guide is a summary of the techniques and principles Olsen and Belanger-Freeh use in their sessions with couples and individuals seeking to increase intimacy and break counterproductive patterns. Drawing heavily on the principles of Bowen Family systems theory, the therapists encourage readers to identify and change interactional patterns that block intimacy and satisfaction, such as pursue-distance or over/under-responsible patterns. By the end of the book, readers are able to use the powerful concept of differentiation to see real change in their love lives.

How You Can Survive When They re Depressed

Author: Anne Sheffield
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9780307556912
Release Date: 2009-02-04
Genre: Self-Help

Each year more than 17 million Americans suffer from a depressive illness, yet few suffer in solitude. How You Can Survive When They're Depressed explores depression from the perspective of those who are closest to the sufferers of this prevalent disorder--spouses, parents, children, and lovers--and gives the successful coping strategies of many people who live with a clinical depressive or manic-depressive and often suffer in silence, believing their own problems have no claim to attention. Depression fallout is the emotional toll on the depressive's family and close friends who are unaware of their own stressful reactions and needs. Sheffield outlines the five stages of depression fallout: confusion, self-doubt, demoralization, anger, and finally, the desire to escape. Many people will find relief in the knowledge that their self-blame, guilt, sadness, and resentment are a natural result of living with a depressed person. Sheffield brings together many real-life examples from the pioneering support group she attends at Beth Israel Medical Center of how people with depression fallout have learned to cope. From setting boundaries to maintaining an outside social life, she gives practical tactics for handling the challenges and emotional stresses on a day-to-day basis.

The Normal Bar

Author: Chrisanna Northrup
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9780307951649
Release Date: 2014
Genre: Family & Relationships

Draws on an extensive survey of more than 100,000 people to identify norms in positive relationships while providing strategies for improvement, sharing insights into a range of areas from communication and sex to affection and financial cooperation. 75,000 first printing.

Witness to Love

Author: Mary-Rose Verret
Publisher: Saint Benedict Press
ISBN: 9781618907240
Release Date: 2015-07-21
Genre: Family & Relationships

Extraordinary marriages don't just happen. They flow from grace-filled, faithful, and fruitful covenants of love. Every marriage, and even preparation for marriage, has its ups and downs. In a world and culture that seems to isolate and criticize, authors Ryan and Mary-Rose Verret proclaim: you are not alone! In these pages the Verrets offer the married and soon-to-be married a program for profound and transformative discipleship. Witness to Love gives married couples the tools and encouragement to share the grace, struggles, joys, and blessings of their marriage with young couples in desperate need of mentors. In Witness to Love, the Verrets issue a challenge to us all. Share your lives, share your heart, share your love. Make disciples!

The High conflict Couple

Author: Alan E. Fruzzetti Ph. D.
Publisher: ReadHowYouWant.com
ISBN: 9781458746122
Release Date: 2009-12
Genre: Family & Relationships

You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples-pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame-need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a 'high-conflict' couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.