The Drama of the Gifted Child

Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780786743612
Release Date: 2008-12-15
Genre: Psychology

Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This profound book has provided thousands of readers with an answer-and has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents' expectations and win their "love." Alice Miller writes, "When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Basic Books
ISBN: 0465016944
Release Date: 1994
Genre: Psychology

A psychological study by a Swiss psychoanalyst examines the upbringing of talented children by their often narcissistic and unwittingly hurtful parents

Die Revolte des K rpers

Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Suhrkamp Verlag
ISBN: 9783518795903
Release Date: 2012-09-17
Genre: Psychology

Das vierte Gebot, getragen von der herkömmlichen Moral, verlangt von uns, unsere Eltern zu ehren und zu lieben, auf daß wir – so die versteckte Drohung – lange leben. Dieses Gebot der Ehr-Furcht beansprucht universelle Gültigkeit. Wer es befolgen will, obwohl er von seinen Eltern einst mißachtet, mißhandelt, mißbraucht wurde, kann dies nur, wenn er seine wahren Emotionen verdrängt. Gegen diese Verleugnung und das Ignorieren von unbewältigten Kindheitstraumata revoltiert indes der Körper häufig mit schweren Erkrankungen. Wie diese entstehen, zeigt Alice Miller, die Autorin des Welterfolgs Das Drama des begabten Kindes, in ihrem neuen Werk. In all ihren Büchern hat sich Alice Miller mit der Verleugnung des Leidens in der Kindheit auseinandergesetzt. In Die Revolte des Körpers schildert sie nun die Konsequenzen, die die Abspaltung starker und wahrer Emotionen für den Körper hat. Das Buch handelt von dem Konflikt zwischen dem, was wir fühlen und was unser Körper registriert hat, und dem, was wir fühlen möchten, um den moralischen Normen zu entsprechen, die wir seit jeher verinnerlicht haben. Diese psychobiologische Gesetzmäßigkeit enthüllt Alice Miller im ersten Teil des Buches anhand der Lebensläufe zahlreicher Schriftsteller wie Schiller, Joyce, Proust oder Mishima. Die beiden folgenden Teile weisen Wege auf, die aus dem Teufelskreis des Selbstbetrugs hinausführen und auch eine Befreiung von Krankheitssymptomen, den Appellen des Körpers, ermöglichen können.

Du sollst nicht merken

Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Suhrkamp Verlag
ISBN: 9783518750575
Release Date: 2017-08-07
Genre: Psychology

»Du sollst nicht merken« - nämlich: was dir in deiner Kindheit angetan wurde und was du in Wahrheit selbst tust - ist ein niemals ausgesprochenes, aber sehr früh verinnerlichtes Gebot, dessen Wirksamkeit im Unbewußten des einzelnen und der Gesellschaft Alice Miller zu beschreiben versucht. Ihre Analyse dieses Gebots führt sie zu einer grundsätzlichen Kritik an der Triebtheorie Sigmund Freuds. Die Wirksamkeit des Gebots »Du sollst nicht merken« zeigt sie anhand ihrer Analysen von Träumen, Märchen und literarischen Werken auf, wobei aus ihrer Auseinandersetzung mit dem Œuvre Franz Kafkas ein neues Kafka-Bild hervorgeht und implizit eine Theorie menschlicher Kreativität.

Das Drama des begabten Kindes und die Suche nach dem wahren Selbst

Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Suhrkamp Verlag
ISBN: 9783518739259
Release Date: 2013-02-18
Genre: Psychology

Gemeinsame Leitthemen der in diesem Band enthaltenen drei Studien sind die Ursprünge des Selbstverlustes und Wege der Selbstfindung. Das Drama des begabten, das heißt sensiblen, wachen Kindes besteht darin, daß es schon früh Bedürfnisse seiner Eltern spürt und sich ihnen anpaßt, indem es lernt, seine intensivsten, aber unerwünschten Gefühle nicht zu fühlen. Obwohl diese "verpönten" Gefühle später nicht immer vermieden werden können, bleiben sie doch abgespalten, das heißt: Der vitalste Teil des wahren Selbst wird nicht in die Persönlichkeit integriert. Das führt zu emotionaler Verunsicherung und Verarmung (Selbstverlust), die sich in der Depression ausdrücken oder aber in der Grandiosität abgewehrt werden. Die angeführten Beispiele sensibilisieren für das nicht artikulierte, hinter Idealisierungen verborgene Leiden des Kindes wie auch für die Tragik der nicht verfügbaren Eltern, die einst selbst verfügbare Kinder gewesen sind.

Hell Bent

Author: Benjamin Lorr
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN: 9781408836408
Release Date: 2012-11-01
Genre: Health & Fitness

Benjamin Lorr walks into his first yoga studio on a whim, overweight and curious. A run-in with a competitive yoga champion means his simple desire to tone up soon transforms into obsessive training for a national championship. But this is Bikram Yoga, distinguished from more 'conventional' forms by extreme heat, an overt, almost masochistic focus on pain, and the rabid materialism of its founder, the enigmatic Bikram Choudhury. Hell-Bent is a look at the science behind a controversial practice, a story of greed and corruption, and a mind-bending tale of personal transformation that will change the way you view both yoga and the inspirational potential of the human body.

Hell Bent Obsession Pain and the Search for Something Like Transcendence in Competitive Yoga

Author: Benjamin Lorr
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 9781250017529
Release Date: 2012-10-30
Genre: Health & Fitness

Author Benjamin Lorr wandered into a yoga studio—and fell down a rabbit hole Hell-Bent explores a fascinating, often surreal world at the extremes of American yoga. Benjamin Lorr walked into his first yoga studio on a whim, overweight and curious, and quickly found the yoga reinventing his life. He was studying Bikram Yoga (or "hot yoga") when a run-in with a master and competitive yoga champion led him into an obsessive subculture—a group of yogis for whom eight hours of practice a day in 110- degree heat was just the beginning. So begins a journey. Populated by athletic prodigies, wide-eyed celebrities, legitimate medical miracles, and predatory hucksters, it's a nation-spanning trip—from the jam-packed studios of New York to the athletic performance labs of the University of Oregon to the stage at the National Yoga Asana Championship, where Lorr competes for glory. The culmination of two years of research, and featuring hundreds of interviews with yogis, scientists, doctors, and scholars, Hell-Bent is a wild exploration. A look at the science behind a controversial practice, a story of greed, narcissism, and corruption, and a mind-bending tale of personal transformation, it is a book that will not only challenge your conception of yoga, but will change the way you view the fragile, inspirational limits of the human body itself.

Sind Sie hochsensibel

Author: Elaine N. Aron
Publisher: MVG Verlag
ISBN: 9783864153297
Release Date: 2011-10-27
Genre: Self-Help

Intensiver sehen, hören, fühlen – wenn Ihre Empfindungen Sie zu überwältigen drohen Wie nehmen Sie Ihre Welt wahr? Beeinträchtigen Lärm, Gerüche oder Stress Ihr Wohlbefinden? Haben Sie eine reiche Vorstellungskraft und lebendige Träume? Spüren Sie Feinheiten in Ihrer Umgebung auf und können Sie sich auf Ihre Intuition verlassen? Wenn Sie diese Fragen mit "ja" beantworten, dann sind Sie wahrscheinlich hochsensibel und äußerst feinfühlig in der Wahrnehmung äußerer Eindrücke. Hochsensible Menschen stoßen im Alltag jedoch auf viele Schwierigkeiten und werden oft fälschlicherweise als schüchtern stigmatisiert. Elaine N. Aron ist selbst hochsensibel. Einfühlsam und fundiert, basierend auf wissenschaftlichen Untersuchungen und Hunderten von Gesprächen, gibt sie einen umfassenden Einblick in das Phänomen Hochsensibilität. Sie gibt Ratschläge im Umgang mit Hürden im Alltag und erläutert, wie hochsensible Menschen zu einem ganz neuen Selbstbewusstsein finden.

Letting Go and Taking the Chance to be Real

Author: Sherron Lewis, LMFT
Publisher: Page Publishing Inc
ISBN: 9781635687088
Release Date: 2017-06-12
Genre: Psychology

Who are we really? The image we have of our “self” is derived largely from our experiences of who we are, from who we would like to be, and from who we are told we are by others. It is a sense that changes over the years that begins to develop in early childhood and grows (or is stunted) through experimenting and testing in early relationships and later relationships in life, composed of various images which we strive to integrate over time. It is that core “someone” who we often may suppress for fear of ridicule, or loss of support, or fear of failure. Lack of active support for us to express our “real-self”, especially in our early years, often leads us, as adults, to feeling unsatisfied, frustrated, and neglected--trying “so hard to be all things to all people,” “doing what is expected or required”—and no longer being sure of what is personally meaningful. And we fail to realize that expressing our real feelings and needs is not the same as being narcissistically entitled. Thus, expressing the real self takes courage and requires a healthy sense of self-esteem, self-efficacy, and agency, and involves capacities for closeness, intimacy, creativity, self-soothing, and repair. Many of us are afraid to take the chance. That is why this book was written. Letting Go and Taking the Chance to be Real is about the processes involved in becoming real again or perhaps for the first time. Sherron Lewis, LMFT and Shelley Stokes, Ph.D. “Sherron Lewis LMFT and Shelley Stokes Ph.D. have accomplished what few other authors have, namely, they have written a book that is at once both profoundly practical and, at the same time, firmly anchored in rigorous psychoanalytic theory regarding disorders of the self. Their work is replete not only with insightful clinical anecdotes, but also with courageous and deeply illuminating revelations of their own emotional lives, by which they model for their readers that authenticity which is an antidote to the toxic shame both which keeps our patients’ false selves perched precariously in place and which makes us less effective as therapists. This product of their collaboration, a combination of many years of experience and clinical wisdom by two master clinicians, is a superb gift to the psychotherapy community and is essential reading for every therapist.” Avak Howsepian, MD, Ph.D., Psychiatry and Neurology, Veterans Affairs Central California, Assistant Professor of Psychiatry, Univ. of California, San Francisco “This new book by Sherron Lewis and Shelley Stokes represents the latest synthesis of James Masterson’s work, integrating it with other contemporary writers in a way that results in a practical guide for both the lay person interested in personal growth or the clinician on the critical subject of becoming your real self. It’s a very engaging and meaningful book, a must read!” Joseph P. Farley, MFT, Director of the Masterson Institute

Running on Ritalin

Author: Lawrence H. Diller
Publisher: Bantam
ISBN: 9780307423283
Release Date: 2009-09-23
Genre: Family & Relationships

In a book as provocative and newsworthy as Listening to Prozac and Driven to Distraction, a physician speaks out on America's epidemic level of diagnoses for attention deficit disorder, and on the drug that has become almost a symbol of our times: Ritalin. In 1997 alone, nearly five million people in the United States were prescribed Ritalin--most of them young children diagnosed with attention deficit disorder. Use of this drug, which is a stimulant related to amphetamine, has increased by 700 percent since 1990. And this phenomenon appears to be uniquely American: 90 percent of the world's Ritalin is used here. Is this a cause for alarm--or simply the case of an effective treatment meeting a newly discovered need? Important medical advance--or drug of abuse, as some critics claim? Lawrence Diller has written the definitive book about this crucial debate--evenhanded, wide-ranging, and intimate in its knowledge of families, schools, and the pressures of our speeded-up society. As a pediatrician and family therapist, he has evaluated hundreds of children, adolescents, and adults for ADD, and he offers crucial information and treatment options for anyone struggling with this problem. Running on Ritalin also throws a spotlight on some of our most fundamental values and goals. What does Ritalin say about the old conundrums of nature vs. nurture, free will vs. responsibility? Is ADD a disability that entitles us to special treatment? If our best is not good enough, can we find motivation and success in a pill? Is there still a place for childhood in the performance-driven America of the late nineties? From the Hardcover edition.

Understanding and Treating the Aggression of Children

Author: David A. Crenshaw
Publisher: Jason Aronson
ISBN: 0765700344
Release Date: 2005
Genre: Psychology

Understanding and Treating the Aggression of Children: Fawns in Gorilla Suits provides a thorough review of the theoretical and research basis of the techniques and interventions in the treatment of aggressive and sometimes violent children. This is not a dry and sterile academic review but rather one that comes from work directly in the therapy room with thousands of hurting and in many cases traumatized children. One cannot read this book without being deeply moved and touched by the pain of these children and yet also be buoyed by their courage and willingness to persevere against formidable barriers. The metaphor of the fawn in a gorilla suit is introduced, followed by chapters covering developmental failures and invisible wounds, profound and unacknowledged losses, the implication of new findings from neuroscience, psychodynamics of aggressive children, risk factors when treating the traumatized child, special considerations when treating children in foster care, strengthening relationships with parents and helping them be more effective, enhancing relationships with direct care and instructional staff, developing mature defenses, and coping skills, creating a therapeutic milieu for traumatized children, and fostering hope and resilience.

Ideologies of Experience

Author: Matthew H. Bowker
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 9781317294481
Release Date: 2016-03-22
Genre: Political Science

Matthew H. Bowker offers a novel analysis of "experience": the vast and influential concept that has shaped Western social theory and political practice for the past half-millennium. While it is difficult to find a branch of modern thought, science, industry, or art that has not relied in some way on the notion of "experience" in defining its assumptions or aims, no study has yet applied a politically-conscious and psychologically-sensitive critique to the construct of experience. Doing so reveals that most of the qualities that have been attributed to experience over the centuries — particularly its unthinkability, its correspondence with suffering, and its occlusion of the self — are part of unlikely fantasies or ideologies. By analyzing a series of related cases, including the experiential education movement, the ascendency of trauma theory, the philosophy of the social contract, and the psychological study of social isolation, the book builds a convincing case that ideologies of experience are invoked not to keep us close to lived realities and ‘things-in-themselves,’ but, rather, to distort and destroy true knowledge of ourselves and others. In spite of enduring admiration for those who may be called champions of experience, such as Michel de Montaigne, Ralph Waldo Emerson, and others treated throughout the work, the ideologies of experience ultimately discourage individuals and groups from creating, resisting, and changing our experience, urging us instead to embrace trauma, failure, deprivation, and self-abandonment.

Overcoming Childhood Sexual Trauma

Author: Sheri Oz
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 9781136258329
Release Date: 2014-09-25
Genre: Family & Relationships

Go beyond the pain and fear of sexual abuse to heal the trauma Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) can be a physically and emotionally painful soul-shattering experience that can traumatize a person for a lifetime. The Wall of Fear: Crossing the Wall from Trauma to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse is a unique exploration of the subjective experiences of both client and therapist as they together travel the path to recovery. Therapists get a clear illustration of the therapy process while CSA survivors are offered a gauge with which to judge their own progress toward recovery. New therapeutic concepts are clearly presented and extensively discussed while sensitively charting the experiences of clients on the journey toward healing. As Winston Churchill once said, “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” The Wall of Fear charts the arduous progress of a survivor from the initial understanding that they need help and guidance, to choosing the correct therapist, to the emotional roadblocks most clients face on their own personal recovery from the hell of CSA. The authors team up to courageously provide readers with a comprehensive and candid portrait of their experiences of CSA therapy while demonstrating the approaches which effectively enhance healing. Features include schematic drawings of the stages of therapy, the client’s own diary from her youth through her therapy in adulthood, client drawings illustrating progress in therapy, and effective art exercises that can be used at the beginning of therapy. The text includes extensive references, useful appendixes, and a helpful glossary of terms for the layperson. Topics in The Wall of Fear include: the nature of sexual trauma (the new concept of the World of Trauma) growing up traumatized—and its effect on friendships, sexual development, dating, and mate selection couples’ relationships and sexuality selecting a therapist the new concept of The Wall of Fear closure coping with the therapy process parenting by CSA survivors and the impact on the next generation the subjective experiences of both therapist and CSA survivor The Wall of Fear stands as a testament that no matter what sexual trauma a person may endure, there is hope for recovery. This is insightful, crucial reading for survivors of CSA and therapists at all levels of expertise.

Paradigms in Psychoanalysis

Author: Marco Bacciagaluppi
Publisher: Karnac Books
ISBN: 9781780490243
Release Date: 2012
Genre: Psychology

This book makes explicit the scientific theories, termed paradigms, that the author has found useful in psychoanalysis. It lists nine paradigms: genetics, neurobiology, attachment theory, infant research, trauma, their relational model, the family system, the socio-cultural level, and prehistory. These nine paradigms are presented in as many chapters. Special attention is devoted to attachment theory, which the author considers to be the most powerful conceptual tool at the disposal of the psychoanalyst. He also covers trauma, the relational model - with special reference to Ferenczi, Bowlby and Fromm. He explores the effect of cultural evolution, with the advent of agriculture, on family and character structures and the resulting discontinuity with the individual, or group's inborn needs, giving rise to an unnatural environment, and thus to psychopathology and pathology at a social level, such as war. The consequence of these combined factors gives rise to the need for psychotherapy, this is explored, together with the role of the therapist and the therapy of psychoses, The author believes that, at a social level, psychotherapy may contribute the re-emergence of society's innate cooperative and care-giving maternal culture. This title will be found to be of great interest to the psychoanalyst and psychotherapist alike.