The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: Berkley Publishing Group
ISBN: 0425172287
Release Date: 2000
Genre: Psychology

Discusses the five stages of abandonment individuals experience after a breakup or the loss of a loved one, and provides strategies for building a new life and new relationships.

The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher:
ISBN: 0732268982
Release Date: 2000
Genre: Interpersonal relations

Designed to help all victims of emotional breakups - whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or lingering wound. In this book, Susan Anderson, a therapist, who has specialised in helping people with loss, heartbreak and abandonment for more than twenty-five years, helps you put that pain in perspective.

The Journey from Abandonment to Healing Revised and Updated

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: Berkley Publishing Group
ISBN: 0425273539
Release Date: 2014-09-02
Genre: Psychology

The fear of abandonment is one of our most primal fears, and deservedly so. Its pain is often overwhelming, and can leave its mark on the rest of your life. In the midst of the hurt, it’s hard to see an end to your feelings of rejection, shame, and betrayal. In this updated edition of the groundbreaking book, Susan Anderson, a therapist who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than thirty years, shares recent discoveries in neuroscience that help put your pain in perspective. It is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups—whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether you are caught up in patterns that sabotage your own relationships, or you’re in a relationship in which you no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery. Going beyond comforting words to promote real change, this healing process will help you work through the five universal stages of abandonment—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting—by understanding their biochemical and behavioral origins and implications. New hands-on exercises for improving your life will teach you how to manage the inevitable pain, then go on to build a whole new concept of self, increase your capacity for love, and find new love on a deeper and richer level than ever before.

The Abandonment Recovery Workbook

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: New World Library
ISBN: 9781608684281
Release Date: 2016-07-20
Genre: Self-Help

A powerful workshop-in-a-book for healing from loss One day everything is fine. The next, you find yourself without everything you took for granted. Love has turned sour. The people you depended on have let you down. You feel you’ll never love again. But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, the only book of its kind, psychotherapist and abandonment expert Susan Anderson explores the seemingly endless pain of heartbreak and shows readers how to break free—whether the heartbreak comes from a divorce, a breakup, a death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream. From the first shock of despair through the waves of hopelessness to the tentative efforts to make new connections, The Abandonment Recovery Workbook provides an itinerary for recovery. A manual for individuals or support groups, it includes exercises that the author has tested and developed through her decades of expertise in abandonment recovery. Anderson provides concrete recovery tools and exercises to discover and heal underlying issues, identify self-defeating behaviors of mistrust and insecurity, and build self-esteem. Guiding you through the five stages of your journey—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, and lifting—this book (a new edition of Anderson’s Journey from Heartbreak to Connection) serves as a source of strength. You will come away with a new sense of self—a self with an increased capacity to love. Praise for Susan Anderson’s The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: “If there can be a pill to cure the heartbreak of rejection, this book may be it.” — Rabbi Harold Kushner, bestselling author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Taming Your Outer Child

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: New World Library
ISBN: 9781608683147
Release Date: 2015-01-09
Genre: Self-Help

Take Control of Your Life Chances are, you’ve already had run-ins with your Outer Child — the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. Your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans. Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist Susan Anderson offers a three-step program to tame your Outer Child’s destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies — action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain — calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self, releases you from the self-blame and shame at the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. The result is happiness, fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.

Healing Emotional Wounds

Author: Nancy M. Welch
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 9781614488729
Release Date: 2014-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships

Russia banned the United States from adopting from their country, and subsequently a flurry of media stories brought attention to the prevalence of severe behavioral and emotional disorders in children adopted from Eastern European orphanages. Schoolchildren and moviegoers are shot and killed in the United States by persons described as mentally ill since childhood, and we as a nation question our recognition and treatment of emotionally disturbed children. Healing Emotional Wounds-A Story of Overcoming the Long Hard Road to Recovery from Abuse and Abandonment brings the reader face-to-face with the challenges of healing the wounds of abuse, neglect, and abandonment of two six-year-olds adopted from Ukraine. It is often not a very pretty sight, but literally through blood, sweat, and tears the family emerges as a healthy, bonded unit. This story affirms the hope of healing through commitment, hard work, extensive family and friend support, a “never quit” attitude, and an unyielding resilience and focus. The intent of this book is to inspire endurance, professional and community support, intervention, and hope. The intent is to save these children.

Love Me Don t Leave Me

Author: Michelle Skeen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608829545
Release Date: 2014-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.

Secret Pains

Author: Judith G. Arndell Psy D.
Publisher:
ISBN: 1434392384
Release Date: 2008-08-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Secret Pains gives hope for persons who were left behind by migrating parents or just simply abandoned by a parent. This book focuses on how the unresolved hurts and emotional pains resulting from abandonment affect your personality, your relationships, and your adult life. It offers tools, strategies, and insights for letting go of past anger and emotional pains and recommendations for embracing a happier and more fulfilled life.

Taming Your Outer Child

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: New World Library
ISBN: 9781608683154
Release Date: 2015-01-05
Genre: Self-Help

Take Control of Your Life Chances are, you’ve already had run-ins with your Outer Child — the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. Your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans. Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist Susan Anderson offers a three-step program to tame your Outer Child’s destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies — action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain — calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self, releases you from the self-blame and shame at the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. The result is happiness, fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.

The Journey from Heartbreak to Connection

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: Berkley Publishing Group
ISBN: 042519020X
Release Date: 2003
Genre: Family & Relationships

A follow-up volume to The Journey from Abandonment to Healing offers an effective, supportive abandonment recovery program to designed to help readers build new relationships and learn to love and trust once more, presenting a series of accessible guidelines, techniques, exercises, and signposts for healing. Original.

Journey to Heal

Author: Sutherland, Crystal
Publisher: Kregel Publications
ISBN: 9780825444012
Release Date: 2016-04-27
Genre: Self-Help

A path of hope and healing for survivors of childhood sexual abuse A woman who was sexually abused as a child is confronted with many internal questions: Am I worthless? Will I get past the pain? Do I matter to God? These and similar questions can carve a deep hole in an already wounded soul. Too often, the lies of worthlessness are believed, the pain becomes too much to handle, and survivors find themselves making choices that lead to more heartbreak. With over 42 million survivors (both male and female) in the United States alone, the need for a clear path to healing is great. Crystal Sutherland—herself a survivor of CSA—knows that while the recovery process is complex, healing is possible with God’s help. For women who want to progress from simply coping to living abundantly, Journey to Heal guides readers through seven essential steps to recovery found in Scripture. Candid and open about her personal journey of healing, Crystal comes alongside her reader as a friend who understands. Infused with biblical truths, stories of hope from other survivors, and practical wisdom, this book leads women to discover the life of wholeness God has for them.

Black Swan

Author: Susan Anderson
Publisher: Partners Publishing Group
ISBN: 0967375517
Release Date: 1999-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Black Swan: The Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery is a self help tool, a supplement for personal growth. "Black Swan is a symbol for healing, a spirit guide for overcoming the woundedness of adandonment." Twelve lessons for healing from the loss of love, presented in an allegorical tale of a child who meets a magical black swan after she is abandoned in the forest by her father. This story within a story includes the author s own experience with loss. The book provides emotional and spiritual healing to those going through heartbreak, loss, and abandonment."

Sudden Endings

Author: Madeline Bennett
Publisher: Pinnacle Books
ISBN: 1558176691
Release Date: 1992
Genre: Divorce

A woman draws from her own painful experience with abandonment to help others cope when faced with the sudden, unexpected breakup of a supposedly happy relationship. Reprint.

Obsessive Love

Author: Susan Forward
Publisher: Bantam
ISBN: 9780553381429
Release Date: 2002
Genre: Family & Relationships

A guide to overcoming obsessive love presents case histories of men and woman caught in the grip of obsessive passion and describes a step-by-step program that shows readers how to have healthy, lasting, pain-free relationships. Reprint.

How to Fix a Broken Heart

Author: Guy Winch
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781501120138
Release Date: 2018-02-13
Genre: Psychology

Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted. Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it. Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant. Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to healing. Winch offers a toolkit on how to handle and cope with a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.