Torn Asunder Workbook

Author: David Carder
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 1575674181
Release Date: 2010-04-01
Genre: Religion

Based on the principles in the bestselling Torn Asunder—a book that has helped thousands of people survive infidelity—this revised and expanded workbook offers five crucial services for hurting couples: Stabilizes the marriage in the initial crisis Provides structure for the emotionally volatile environment Brings closure to the "old" marriage—the marriage prior to the affair Establishes skills necessary for the "new" marriage pattern Answers the questions: How could you do this to me? Why did you do it? The Torn Asunder workbook is built around daily twenty-minute homework exercises, initiated by each spouse on alternating days for ten to fifteen weeks. Working with your spouse might be the last thing you want to do right now, but it’s essential to your long-term recovery, whether or not your marriage survives. Healing won’t be easy. But the Torn Asunder workbook provides hope, encouragement, and practical advice for the journey. Take the first step today.

Torn Asunder

Author: Dave M. Carder
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 0802479553
Release Date: 2007-05-01
Genre: Religion

A resource on marital infedlity for all involved, even onlookers Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples. Along the way Carder also answers questions like: Why did this happen? We didn’t actually sleep together, so is it still an affair? Can I trust my spouse again? Should I reveal a secret affair? What if my spouse doesn’t want me back? What do we tell the kids? This refreshed and updated edition is an excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people. Pair this with the Torn Asunder Workbook to for extra guidance in applying the book's advice to your marriage.

Close Calls

Author: David Carder
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 0802479812
Release Date: 2008-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Never say never; because just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. Dave Carder, counselor, author of the bestselling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), and a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Now, with eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, he reveals what adulterers learned the hard way- and want the rest of us to know. For example, every spouse has a "Dangerous Partner Profile" of the kind of person who tempts them. Close Calls should be on every church leader's and marriage counselor's required reading list. Includes charts and assessments.

Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart

Author: Stephen M. Judah
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
ISBN: 0830833994
Release Date: 2006-06-09
Genre: Family & Relationships

Steve Judah explores the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage.

Anatomy of an Affair

Author: Dave Carder
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 9780802496317
Release Date: 2017-09-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

When it comes to adultery, never say, “It won’t happen to me.” Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way—and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain. Dave Carder, counselor and author of the bestselling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), is a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Here he helps you make your marriage adultery-proof by showing you: How attractions can lead to affairs Ways you may be vulnerable to affairs The common ingredients of adultery How to restore intimacy to your marriage How to make wise, protective decisions Marriage is too sacred to be taken casually. Affairs are a very real threat, and they can destroy lives and families. For this reason, Anatomy of an Affair should be on every church leader’s and marriage counselor’s required reading list, and in the home of every married couple. Includes charts and assessments to understand and guard against affairs. This book is the revised edition of Close Calls (2008)

Unfaithful

Author: Gary Shriver
Publisher: David C Cook
ISBN: 0781404401
Release Date: 2009-11-01
Genre: Religion

Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

Getting Past the Affair

Author: Douglas K. Snyder
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781606237991
Release Date: 2007-01-06
Genre: Psychology

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that’s been tested--and proven--to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you’ll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you’ll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future. Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Book of Merit

Unlocking Your Family Patterns

Author: David M. Carder
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 9781575675244
Release Date: 2011-04-01
Genre: Religion

Revised and updated from the original, this honest and forthwright look at families of all shapes and sizes will help you down the path of healing (whether you know you need it or whether yo're just not sure). Unlocking Your Family Patterns combines decades worth of counseling wisdom and pastoral care insights into this one practical resource. Your past may hurt, and your family's patterns may have left emotional scars, but your future has not been laid in stone yet. There is hope for healing, there are lessons to learn, and there are paths toward family health. Using clinical, biblical and practical examples to help you uncover the patterns your family has lived in, this book might lead you toward the family u-turn you've been looking for.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken

Author: Cindy Beall
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736943161
Release Date: 2011-08-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

A few days after an ordinary Valentine’s Day, Cindy Beall’s life changed forever. She listened with disbelief to her husband, Chris, a respected pastor, confess to pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the startling news that a woman was pregnant with his child. With raw honesty and intimate knowledge of pain and of God’s power to resurrect something new out of the debris of betrayal, Cindy reveals how to: seek guidance, counseling, and prayer support when deceptions surface help the family heal from the grief and humiliation rebuild trust after porn, sex, and other addictions undermine a relationship protect a marriage from lies and unfaithfulness rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises Cindy’s compassion, grasp of God’s Word, and the Bealls’ remarkable story will help wives and husbands trust God with their broken hearts and follow His leading, hope, and redemption. Foreword by Craig Groeschel, bestselling author and senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv.

NOT Just Friends

Author: Shirley Glass
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781416586401
Release Date: 2007-11-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Preventing Ministry Failure

Author: Michael Todd Wilson
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
ISBN: 9780830896868
Release Date: 2014-01-16
Genre: Religion

Great ministers don't just happen. Great falls from ministry don't just happen either. A complex mix of factors both internal and external test the limits of your ability to minister wholeheartedly over the long haul. Senior pastor Brad Hoffmann and licensed professional counselor Michael Todd Wilson work with pastors removed from their place of service. The common experiences of these pastors revealed patterns that consistently contributed to burnout, ineffectiveness and moral failure. If such patterns can be predicted, the authors reasoned, can they be prevented? Preventing Ministry Failure is a personal guidebook for pastors and other caregivers to prepare them to withstand common pressures and to flourish in the ministry God has called them to. Work through the exercises and reflections individually or in conversation with your peers, and you'll find yourself better equipped for the challenges of vocational ministry, and more conscious of the presence of God leading you on and restoring your soul.

Surviving an Affair

Author: Willard F. Jr. Harley
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 9781441242945
Release Date: 2013-07-01
Genre: Religion

Infidelity is common, occurring in over half of all marriages. And it is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and wayward spouse. With all that sadness, why do people have affairs? And once trust is broken, how can a couple reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers describe the most common types of affairs, the reasons they begin and end, the best way to end them, and the best way to restore a marriage after an affair. But most importantly, they help readers survive the ordeal by providing them with step-by-step guidance that minimizes suffering and offers hope for rebuilding a loving and trusting marital relationship.

This Momentary Marriage

Author: John Piper
Publisher: Crossway
ISBN: 9781433520594
Release Date: 2009-04-03
Genre: Religion

Reflecting on forty years of matrimony, John Piper exalts the biblical meaning of marriage over its emotion, exhorting couples to keep their covenant for all the best reasons. Even in the days when people commonly stayed married "'til death do us part," there has never been a generation whose view of marriage was high enough, says Pastor John Piper. That is all the more true in our casual times. Though personal selfishness and cultural bondage obstruct the wonder of God's purpose, it is found in God's Word, where his design can awaken a glorious vision capable of freeing every person from small, Christ-ignoring, romance-intoxicated views. As Piper explains in reflecting on forty years of matrimony: "Most foundationally, marriage is the doing of God. And ultimately, marriage is the display of God. It displays the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his people to the world in a way that no other event or institution does. Marriage, therefore, is not mainly about being in love. It's mainly about telling the truth with our lives. And staying married is not about staying in love. It is about keeping covenant and putting the glory of Christ's covenant-keeping love on display." This Momentary Marriage unpacks the biblical vision, its unexpected contours, and its weighty implications for married, single, divorced, and remarried alike.

When the One You Love Wants to Leave

Author: Donald R. Harvey
Publisher: Fleming H Revell Company
ISBN: 0800787226
Release Date: 2004-12
Genre: Family & Relationships

Written from a counselor's point of view, this practical guide offers comfort for those experiencing a divorce, separation, or other marital challenges. The text helps readers establish practical boundaries and expectations for coping and surviving a marital upheaval.