Untangled

Author: Lisa Damour
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780553393071
Release Date: 2017-04-04
Genre: Adolescence

"Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to [propose] the seven distinct--and absolutely normal--developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including parting with childhood, contending with adult authority, entering the romantic world, and caring for herself. Providing ... scenarios and ... advice on how to engage daughters ... [this book] gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions"--Dust jacket flap.

Untangled

Author: Lisa Damour
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780553393064
Release Date: 2016-02-09
Genre: Family & Relationships

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Lisa Damour, Ph.D., director of the internationally renowned Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain on the teenage years and shows why your daughter’s erratic and confusing behavior is actually healthy, necessary, and natural. Untangled explains what’s going on, prepares parents for what’s to come, and lets them know when it’s time to worry. BOOKS FOR A BETTER LIFE AWARD WINNER In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct—and absolutely normal—developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including Parting with Childhood, Contending with Adult Authority, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including • My thirteen-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her, and only does it more when I get angry with her about it. How should I respond? • Do I tell my teen daughter that I’m checking her phone? • My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her? • Where’s the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder? • My teenage daughter wants to know why I’m against pot when it’s legal in some states. What should I say? • My daughter’s friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl’s mother to let her know? Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman. Praise for Untangled “Finally, there’s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news. [Untangled] is the most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I’ve come across in a long time.”—The Washington Post “Anna Freud wrote in 1958, ‘There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter during the attempt to liberate themselves.’ In the intervening decades, the transition doesn’t appear to have gotten any easier which makes Untangled such a welcome new resource.”—The Boston Globe “Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk about—and with—teenage girls. . . . Parents will want this book on their shelves, next to established classics of the genre.”—Publishers Weekly “For years people have been asking me for the ‘girl equivalent of Raising Cain,’ and I haven't known exactly what to recommend. Now I do.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of Raising Cain “An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development.”—Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes “A gem. From the moment I read the last page I’ve been recommending it to my clients (including those with sons!) and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents.”—Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee

Untangled

Author: Lisa Damour
Publisher: Atlantic Books Ltd
ISBN: 9781782395553
Release Date: 2016-04-07
Genre: Family & Relationships

We expect an enormous amount from our teenage girls in a world where they are bombarded with messages about how they should look, behave, succeed. Yet we also speak as though adolescence is a nightmare rollercoaster ride for both parent and child, to be endured rather than enjoyed. In Untangled, world authority and clinical psychologist Lisa Damour provides an accessible, detailed, comprehensive guide to parenting teenage girls. She believes there is a predictable blueprint for how girls grow; seven easily recognisable 'strands' of transition from childhood through adolescence and on to adulthood. Girls naturally develop at different rates, typically on more than one front, and the transition will be unique to every girl. Each chapter describes a phase, such as 'contending with adult authority' and 'entering the romantic world', with hints and tips for parents and daughters, and a 'when to worry' section. Damour writes sympathetically and clearly, providing a practical and helpful guide for any parent, and for teenage girls too.

Parenting a Teen Girl

Author: Lucie Hemmen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781608822157
Release Date: 2012-08-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

It’s not easy to be a teen girl, and it’s definitely not easy parenting one. Parents everywhere struggle to respond appropriately to challenging behavior, hit-or-miss communication, and fluctuating moods commonly exhibited by teenage girls. More than previous generations, today’s teen girls face a daunting range of stressors that put them at risk for a range of serious issues, including self-harming behaviors, substance abuse, eating disorders, anxiety, and depression. Is it any wonder that parents are overwhelmed? Parenting a Teen Girl is a guide for busy parents who want bottom-line information and tips that make sense—and work. It also offers scripts to improve communication, and exercises to navigate stressful interactions with skill and compassion. Whether your teen girl is struggling with academic pressure, social difficulties, physical self-care, or technology overload, this book offers practical advice to help you connect with your teen girl. Parents and teens alike can enjoy a positive connection once common parent-teen pitfalls are replaced with solid understanding and strategies that work. In this book, you will learn how to: •Maximize your teen’s healthy development •Understand what underlies her moods and behavior •Implement strategies for positive results •Communicate effectively about difficult issues •Enjoy and appreciate time with your teen daughter

We Need to Talk

Author: Ian Williamson
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 9781473550445
Release Date: 2017-05-04
Genre: Family & Relationships

'WHAT EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW ... If anyone is qualified to give advice on how to manage this tricky time for parents, it's Ian' - The Times ‘Ian Williamson is a genius ... I couldn’t recommend [this] more highly’ HELEN FIELDING How do you talk to your teen when their only focus is the screen in front of them? How do you help them to build a core of self-esteem in a world obsessed with appearances? In this empathetic, down to earth and eminently practical guide from one of the UK’s leading adolescent psychoanalysts, Ian Williamson will help you through every possible hurdle in the teenage years. - Covering topics from behaviour and relationships to crime and gaming - Featuring top tips and takeaway advice - With realistic solutions that you can put into practice right away We Need to Talk is your new go-to-guide to navigating the often tricky adolescent years, with the endgame being what every parent wants: a healthy, happy and resilient child.

Raising Cain

Author: Dan Kindlon, Ph.D.
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0307569225
Release Date: 2009-08-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

The stunning success of Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher's landmark book, showed a true and pressing need to address the emotional lives of girls. Now, finally, here is the book that answers our equally timely and critical need to understand our boys. In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D., two of the country's leading child psychologists, share what they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined experience working with boys and their families. They reveal a nation of boys who are hurting--sad, afraid, angry, and silent. Statistics point to an alarming number of young boys at high risk for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness. Kindlon and Thompson set out to answer this basic, crucial question: What do boys need that they're not getting? They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys, teaching them to believe that "cool" equals macho strength and stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother blame," "boy biology," and "testosterone," Kindlon and Thompson shed light on the destructive emotional training our boys receive--the emotional miseducation of boys. Through moving case studies and cutting-edge research, Raising Cain paints a portrait of boys systematically steered away from their emotional lives by adults and the peer "culture of cruelty"--boys who receive little encouragement to develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. The good news is that this doesn't have to happen. There is much we can do to prevent it. Kindlon and Thompson make a compelling case that emotional literacy is the most valuable gift we can offer our sons, urging parents to recognize the price boys pay when we hold them to an impossible standard of manhood. They identify the social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and empathy--giving them the vital connections and support they need to navigate the social pressures of youth. Powerfully written and deeply felt, Raising Cain will forever change the way we see our sons and will transform the way we help them to become happy and fulfilled young men. From the Hardcover edition.

Say This Not That To Your Teenage Daughter

Author: Ilana Kukoff
Publisher: Andrews McMeel Publishing
ISBN: 9781449488819
Release Date: 2018-04-10
Genre: Family & Relationships

Say This, Not That (To Your Teenage Daughter) is based on the work of Cognition Builders, a 164-person firm that teaches families all over the globe how to have constructive conversations. The authors have selected the most common and confounding conversational quandaries families face, and solved them for you. Chapters in this little treasure cover a variety of situations familiar to any parent of teenage girls, such as: When She’s In a Mood; When Her Heart Is Broken; When the Phone Becomes an Appendage; and When She’s “Totally Stressed Out.”

How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

Author: Adele Faber
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062046413
Release Date: 2010-09-14
Genre: Family & Relationships

The renowned #1 New York Times bestselling authors share their advice and expertise with parents and teens in this accessible, indispensable guide to surviving adolescence. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish transformed parenting with their breakthrough, bestselling books Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. Now, they return with this essential guide that tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today. Filled with straightforward advice and written in their trademark, down-to-earth style sure to appeal to both parents and teens, this all-new volume offers both innovative, easy-to-implement suggestions and proven techniques to build the foundation for lasting relationships. From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, it gives parents the tools to help their children safely navigate the often stormy years of adolescence.

I m Like SO Fat

Author: Dianne Neumark-Sztainer
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781609189389
Release Date: 2011-12-08
Genre: Psychology

It’s hard to decide which is more frightening--the “food” teenagers enjoy, or the things they say about their bodies. Whether it’s your son’s passion for chips and soda or your daughter’s announcement that she “feels fat,” kids’ attitude about how they look and what they should eat often seem devoid of common sense. In a world where television and school cafeterias push super-sized sandwiches while magazines feature pencil-thin models, many teens feel pressured to starve themselves and others eat way too much. Blending her experience as the mother of four with results from a survey of nearly 5,000 teens, Dr. Diane Neumark-Sztainer shows you how to respond constructively to “fat talk,” counteract negative media messages, and give your kids the straight story about nutrition and calories, the dangers of dieting, and eating right when they’re away from home. Full of examples illustrating the challenges teens face today, this upbeat and insightful book is packed with great ideas that will help kids everywhere feel better about their looks and make healthier choices about eating and exercise.

Time to Parent

Author: Julie Morgenstern
Publisher: Henry Holt and Company
ISBN: 9781627797443
Release Date: 2018-09-04
Genre: Family & Relationships

The bestselling organizational guru takes on the ultimate time-management challenge— parenting, from toddlers to teens—with concrete ways to structure and spend true quality time with your kids. Would you ever take a job without a job description, let alone one that requires a lifetime contract? Parents do this every day, and yet there is no instruction manual that offers achievable methods for containing and organizing the seemingly endless job of parenting. Finding a healthy balance between raising a human and being a human often feels impossible, but Julie Morgenstern shows you how to harness your own strengths and weaknesses to make the job your own. This revolutionary roadmap includes: A unique framework with eight quadrants that separates parenting responsibilities into actionable, manageable tasks—for the whole bumpy ride from cradle to college. Simple strategies to stay truly present and focused, whether you’re playing with your kids, enjoying a meal with your significant other, or getting ahead on that big proposal for work. Clever tips to make the most of in-between time—Just 5-15 minutes of your undivided attention has a huge impact on kids. Permission to take personal time without feeling guilty, and the science and case studies that show how important self-care is and how to make time for it.

The Teenage Brain

Author: Frances E. Jensen
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062067869
Release Date: 2015-01-06
Genre: Psychology

A New York Times Bestseller Renowned neurologist Dr. Frances E. Jensen offers a revolutionary look at the brains of teenagers, dispelling myths and offering practical advice for teens, parents and teachers. Dr. Frances E. Jensen is chair of the department of neurology in the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania. As a mother, teacher, researcher, clinician, and frequent lecturer to parents and teens, she is in a unique position to explain to readers the workings of the teen brain. In The Teenage Brain, Dr. Jensen brings to readers the astonishing findings that previously remained buried in academic journals. The root myth scientists believed for years was that the adolescent brain was essentially an adult one, only with fewer miles on it. Over the last decade, however, the scientific community has learned that the teen years encompass vitally important stages of brain development. Samples of some of the most recent findings include: Teens are better learners than adults because their brain cells more readily "build" memories. But this heightened adaptability can be hijacked by addiction, and the adolescent brain can become addicted more strongly and for a longer duration than the adult brain. Studies show that girls' brains are a full two years more mature than boys' brains in the mid-teens, possibly explaining differences seen in the classroom and in social behavior. Adolescents may not be as resilient to the effects of drugs as we thought. Recent experimental and human studies show that the occasional use of marijuana, for instance, can cause lingering memory problems even days after smoking, and that long-term use of pot impacts later adulthood IQ. Multi-tasking causes divided attention and has been shown to reduce learning ability in the teenage brain. Multi-tasking also has some addictive qualities, which may result in habitual short attention in teenagers. Emotionally stressful situations may impact the adolescent more than it would affect the adult: stress can have permanent effects on mental health and can to lead to higher risk of developing neuropsychiatric disorders such as depression. Dr. Jensen gathers what we’ve discovered about adolescent brain function, wiring, and capacity and explains the science in the contexts of everyday learning and multitasking, stress and memory, sleep, addiction, and decision-making. In this groundbreaking yet accessible book, these findings also yield practical suggestions that will help adults and teenagers negotiate the mysterious world of adolescent development.

Dial Down the Drama

Author: Colleen O'Grady
Publisher: AMACOM
ISBN: 9780814436561
Release Date: 2015-11-11
Genre: Family & Relationships

"The teenage years don't have to be defined by conflict. Dial Down the Drama gives moms practical solutions grounded in neuroscience that transform the eye rolls and one-word answers into healthy relationships with their daughters. I highly recommend it." -Jack Canfield, Co-Author, Chicken Soup for the Mother Daughter Soul (R) One moment your daughter is fun-loving and energetic-a pleasure to be around. The next she's sulking in silence, or worse, screaming and slamming the door. Congratulations, you're the mother of a teenage girl. Your daughter is on an emotional roller coaster. Responding in kind just adds fuel to the fire and erodes your relationship. Teens need a stable anchor-a mom who calmly de-escalates scenes and parents intentionally, even when her child is pushing away. Written by a popular family therapist, Dial Down the Drama reveals how to reclaim your center and reconnect with your teen. It helps you: Regain perspective * Break the cycle of conflict * Tune in to your daughter without drowning in her drama * Foster spontaneous conversations * Understand the developing adolescent brain and how it influences behavior * Appreciate her for who she is now-a wonderful, work in progress * Replace worrying and overreacting with effective communication and action * Forge a healthy and lasting bond together Moodiness, anger, and defiance can stress the best of us. This empowering guide gives you the tools you need to defuse the drama-and dial up the joy.

Mothering and Daughtering

Author: Eliza Reynolds
Publisher: Sounds True
ISBN: 9781604079463
Release Date: 2013-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Mothers and daughters share, and want, a bond for life—one that can remain positive and grow stronger with each passing year. Sil and Eliza Reynolds have designed a set of tools to assist you in nurturing that bond. If you're locked in a clash of wills or fear the prospect of getting into one, with Mothering and Daughtering you can learn how to build the foundation for a deep and lasting relationship that is a source of support, joy, and love throughout your lives. Offering you two breakthrough guides in one, Mothering and Daughtering was created to help you find and protect the unique treasure that is your relationship. For moms, Sil addresses the central task of stopping the cycle of separation and anxiety that plagues so many, drawing on her clinical expertise to nurture the skills of listening, boundary setting, mirroring, containing, and more. Turn the book over, and Eliza shares empowering advice to teens looking to keep it real with Mom while also finding strength in their own intuition, friendships, and dreams. Packed with practical exercises, activities, and lifesaving insights gleaned from Sil and Eliza's workshops, Mothering and Daughtering explores these essential topics and more: Your best friend known as your intuition Navigating the treacherous territories of comparison, performance, and perfectionism Dispelling the rejection myth Sex, positive discipline, and how to prevent a technological take-over Winning the body love battle Healing your emotional legacy Humor, truth, trust, and love—instead of trying to be perfect Repairing ruptures and getting to the bottom of misunderstandings Locating your fundamental bond that always connects you beneath your daily squabbles “No one, nowhere, connects just like you,” write Sil and Eliza. Whether you are already thriving in your relationship or merely surviving, Mothering and Daughtering is an indispensable resource to honor and strengthen that one-of-a-kind connection through the years ahead.

American Girls

Author: Nancy Jo Sales
Publisher: Vintage
ISBN: 9780385353939
Release Date: 2016-02-23
Genre: Family & Relationships

A New York Times Bestseller Instagram. Whisper. Yik Yak. YouTube. Kik. Ask.fm. Tinder. The dominant force in the lives of girls coming of age in America today is social media. What it is doing to an entire generation of young women is the subject of award-winning Vanity Fair writer Nancy Jo Sales’s riveting and explosive American Girls. With extraordinary intimacy and precision, Sales captures what it feels like to be a girl in America today. From Montclair to Manhattan and Los Angeles, from Florida and Arizona to Texas and Kentucky, Sales crisscrossed the country, speaking to more than two hundred girls, ages thirteen to nineteen, and documenting a massive change in the way girls are growing up, a phenomenon that transcends race, geography, and household income. American Girls provides a disturbing portrait of the end of childhood as we know it and of the inexorable and ubiquitous experience of a new kind of adolescence—one dominated by new social and sexual norms, where a girl’s first crushes and experiences of longing and romance occur in an accelerated electronic environment; where issues of identity and self-esteem are magnified and transformed by social platforms that provide instantaneous judgment. What does it mean to be a girl in America in 2016? It means coming of age online in a hypersexualized culture that has normalized extreme behavior, from pornography to the casual exchange of nude photographs; a culture rife with a virulent new strain of sexism and a sometimes self-undermining notion of feminist empowerment; a culture in which teenagers are spending so much time on technology and social media that they are not developing basic communication skills. From beauty gurus to slut-shaming to a disconcerting trend of exhibitionism, Nancy Jo Sales provides a shocking window into the troubling world of today’s teenage girls. Provocative and urgent, American Girls is destined to ignite a much-needed conversation about how we can help our daughters and sons negotiate unprecedented new challenges.

Strong Girls Strong Parents

Author: Robin Axelrod Sabag
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 1542545900
Release Date: 2017-05-23
Genre:

Your teenage daughter hasn't lost her mind, and neither have you. So says Strong Girls, Strong Parents: A Guide to Raising Teenage Girls in a New Era, a handbook written by a clinician with more than fifteen years of experience helping teens and their parents to develop a healthier way of communicating. The growing pains your daughter is experiencing are real-and are complicated by the daily pressure she feels from peers, the social media, and pop culture to conform to a certain standard. This book provides you with a wealth of information to help you to understand how today's culture complicates the natural changes your daughter is experiencing emotionally and physically as she transitions to adulthood. It also includes exercises to equip you with tools you need to help your daughter better manage the sometimes difficult life stage of being a teenage girl. Strong Girls, Strong Parents tackles the following topics: Self-esteem Personal identity Body image Cyberbullying Partying Dating Blended families Self-injury Once you fully understand the challenges your daughter is facing, as she grows up in today's world, you will better understand what makes her tick. And you will be better equipped to help her find her way through these tough years to become a confident and healthy young woman.