Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 9780767929387
Release Date: 2008-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships

We raise our children to be independent and lead fulfilling lives, but when they finally do, staying close becomes more complicated than ever. And for every bewildered mother who wonders why her children don’t call, there is a frustrated son or daughter who just wants to be treated like a grownup. Now, renowned editor Jane Isay delivers the perfect gift to both parents and their adult children—real-life wisdom and advice on how to stay together without falling apart. Using extensive interviews with people from ages twenty-five to seventy, Isay shows that we’re far from alone in our struggles to make this new, adult relationship work. She offers up groundbreaking insights and deeply moving stories that will inspire those in even the toughest situations. Isay’s warmth and wit shine through on every page as she charts an invaluable course through the confusing, and often painful, interactions parents and children can face. Walking on Eggshells is the much-needed road map that will keep you connected to the people you love most.

Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Flying Dolphin Press
ISBN: 9780767920841
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

Using extensive interviews with people ages 25 to 70, editor Isay shows that we're far from alone in our struggles to make this adult relationship work. Isay charts a course through the confusing and often painful interactions parents and children can fac

Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Flying Dolphin Press
ISBN: 9780767920858
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

Explains how to create and maintain a fulfilling, lifelong bond with one's adult children, offering helpful insights, case studies, wisdom, and inspirational reflections designed to help keep lines of communication open, alleviate strife, cope with often complicated emotional challenges, and enhance family relationships. Reprint. 35,000 first printing.

How to Really Love Your Adult Child

Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 9780802477903
Release Date: 2011-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

More than 10 years after Parenting Your Adult Child was published, much has changed - including young adults themselves, as well as their parents. Economic upheavals, challenges to traditional values and beliefs, the phenomenon of over-involved "helicopter parenting" - all make relating to grown children more difficult than ever. Yet at the same time, being a parent of an adult child can bring great rewards. This revised and updated version of Dr. Gary Chapman's and Dr. Ross Campbell's message will help today's parents explore how to really love their adult child in today's changing world. The book includes brief sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves with their own stories. An online study guide will also be available.

Don t Bite Your Tongue

Author: Ruth Nemzoff
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 0230614108
Release Date: 2008-08-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Parents make enormous sacrifices helping children become healthy and autonomous adults. And when children are older, popular wisdom advises parents to let go, disconnect, and bite their tongues. But increasing life spans mean that parents and children can spend as many as five or six decades as adults together: actively parenting adult children is a reality for many families. Dr. Ruth Nemzoff--a leading expert in family dynamics--empowers parents to create close relationships with their adult children, while respecting their independence. Based on personal stories as well as advice that she has accrued from years of coaching, this lively and readable book shows parents how to: -communicate at long distances -discuss financial issues without using money as a form of control -speak up when disapproving of an adult child's partner or childrearing practices -handle adult children's career choices or other midlife changes -navigate an adult child's interreligious, interracial or same sex relationships No other book treats the challenges of parent and adult offspring relationships as part and parcel of a healthy family dynamic. This practical lessons of Don't Bite Your Tongue will help parents play a vital and positive role in their children's lives.

Now That They Are Grown

Author: Ronald J. Greer
Publisher: Abingdon Press
ISBN: 9781426754685
Release Date: 2012-03-01
Genre: Religion

We don’t stop being parents when our kids are grown...but some things do change. Life is filled with change. As our sons and daughters move into young adulthood, our role of what it means to be loving parents changes dramatically. This book aims to help readers miss as many potholes as possible in making the transition from parenting children to being parents of young adults. Here are ways to nurture our adult children while encouraging their independence and maturity. Learn to have balance. Here is how to respond to them in times of struggle. Readers will see how to be supportive, yet not intrusive, caring without enabling dependency. The questions are important. The answers are not obvious. It is a new day in our relationships with our children. The page has been turned, and we are now writing the new chapter in the life of our family. It is important that we get it right.

How to Really Love Your Adult Child

Author: Gary D. Chapman
Publisher: Northfield Pub
ISBN: 0802468519
Release Date: 2011
Genre: Family & Relationships

Explores how to really love an adult child in today's changing world, with sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves.

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters

Author: Charney Herst
Publisher: Villard
ISBN: 9780307804532
Release Date: 2011-08-17
Genre: Self-Help

The first mother-daughter book for mothers, featuring a new Afterword and a Reading Group Discussion Guide ¸ Do you long for a better relationship with your daughter? ¸ Do you occasionally feel as though you have failed as a mother? ¸ Do you blame yourself because your relationship with your daughter is strained, faltering, or nonexistent? ¸ Do you feel that the relationship is unchangeable and that there is no chance that it could become a nurturing and deeply satisfying friendship? Dr. Charney Herst knows that there is always more than one side to a story, and in her book, For Mothers of Difficult Daughters, she uses her twenty-five years of experience as counselor and group therapist to provide mothers with solutions that work. In the book she first helps you understand your particular relationship with your grown daughter--untangling the complex web of personal history and intense emotion inherent in any mother-daughter relationship. Then she describes practical, successful, mother-tested steps you can take to repair this all-important bond. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Unconditional Love

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 9780062427175
Release Date: 2018-03-06
Genre: Family & Relationships

A beautiful meditation on the joys of being a grandparent and a practical guide to help you and your adult children make the most of your relationship with a grandchild. For many grandparents, a grandchild offers a second chance to become the parent they didn’t have the time or the energy to be when raising their own children. Being a grandparent, family relationships expert Jane Isay argues, is the opportunity to turn missed opportunities into delight. Drawing on her personal experience, dozens of interviews, and the latest findings in psychology, Isay shows how a grandparent can use his or her unique perspective and experience to create a deep and lasting bond that will echo throughout a grandchild’s life. She explores the realities of today’s multigenerational families, identifying problems and offering solutions to enhance love, trust, and understanding between grandparents, parents, and grandchildren. She also offers a wealth of practical advice, from when to get involved, when to stay away, and how to foster a strong relationship when you’re separated by long distance. Unconditional Love advocates for honest conversation, thinking in the long run and healing breaches in order to be together, understanding that most of us try to do our best and need to be forgiven if we fail. Isay argues that secrets and surprises may tilt the boat but won’t necessarily sink it and that grandparents and their grown children are happier when they give each other the benefit of the doubt. Most importantly, she writes, the advent of grandchildren offers families the opportunity for healing and redemption—if we seize the moment. In lovely prose and through delightful stories, Isay shows us how we can. A great gift for grandparents-to-be and a wonderful resource for all, Unconditional Love is a beautiful and psychologically astute look at what it means to be an engaged grandparent.

We Don t Talk Anymore

Author: Kathy McCoy
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
ISBN: 9781492651147
Release Date: 2017-10-03
Genre: Family & Relationships

Break the silence and heal the rift Estrangement or partial estrangement from an adult son or daughter is one of a parent's worst nightmares. It can mean angry silences and anguished days and nights wondering what went wrong. Becoming estranged from a parent can be equally painful for an adult child, who may miss the relationship they once shared. Written by Kathy McCoy, one of the nation's more revered experts on family relationships, We Don't Talk Anymore is a tender and practical new exploration of estrangement for both parents and adult children. Each chapter also provides compassionate, practical insights focused on what both parents and adult children can do, including: • Finding courage to reach out to your loved one • Understanding the conflict and discovering a new and fulfilling connection • Letting go and rebuilding your life Families deserve clarity and understanding. We Don't Talk Anymore will show you those first steps toward healing.

Blessing Your Grown Children

Author: Debra Evans
Publisher: Focus on the Family Pub
ISBN: 1589974794
Release Date: 2012
Genre: Family & Relationships

Being a parent of an adult child is a delicate balance of loving and accepting the child while maintaining healthy boundaries. Many parents find releasing their grown children a challenge, and while parents usually want to be supportive, the choices adult children make are sometimes unacceptable to them, leading to disappointment, anger, and guilt feelings. Both parents and grown kids have many adjustments to make as the child separates from the parents’ control. With this book, parents will learn to move forward into a new type of relationship with their kids.

Getting to 30

Author: Jeffrey Jensen Arnett
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 9780761179665
Release Date: 2014
Genre: Family & Relationships

Helps parents to understand what their kids in their twenties are experiencing, and offers support to parents so they can guide their children through various challenges they may be faced with.

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106827
Release Date: 2008-06-20
Genre: Family & Relationships

How do today's parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who can't seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who can't get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? What's the right strategy when our smart, capable "adultolescents" won't leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids aren't all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed? In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist who's been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that "did everything right" and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they haven't, at least, not yet -- and meanwhile, we're letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to "fix" their adult children -- Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of I'm Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!

Making Peace with Your Adult Children

Author: Kathy McCoy
Publisher: Willow Press
ISBN: 1629213721
Release Date: 2013-11-12
Genre: Adult children

This is a book for parents who are shocked, grief-stricken and stressed because their relationships with their adult children are not what they had hoped for after the storms and stony silences of adolescence passed. For some, the storms have yet to pass as their adult children become strangers who move on and exclude parents from their lives or who become perpetual adolescents refusing to leave the nest. Making Peace With Your Adult Children is a guide through the minefields of money issues, conflict over adult childrens' lovers, spouses and lifestyles, clashing expectations, communications barriers, struggles over grandchildren and more. Written by a licensed marriage/family therapist who is also an award-winning author, Making Peace With Your Adult Children gives practical tips on ways to find peace with adult children and also how to find peace within.