Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 9780767929387
Release Date: 2008-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships

We raise our children to be independent and lead fulfilling lives, but when they finally do, staying close becomes more complicated than ever. And for every bewildered mother who wonders why her children don’t call, there is a frustrated son or daughter who just wants to be treated like a grownup. Now, renowned editor Jane Isay delivers the perfect gift to both parents and their adult children—real-life wisdom and advice on how to stay together without falling apart. Using extensive interviews with people from ages twenty-five to seventy, Isay shows that we’re far from alone in our struggles to make this new, adult relationship work. She offers up groundbreaking insights and deeply moving stories that will inspire those in even the toughest situations. Isay’s warmth and wit shine through on every page as she charts an invaluable course through the confusing, and often painful, interactions parents and children can face. Walking on Eggshells is the much-needed road map that will keep you connected to the people you love most.

Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Flying Dolphin Press
ISBN: 9780767920841
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

Using extensive interviews with people ages 25 to 70, editor Isay shows that we're far from alone in our struggles to make this adult relationship work. Isay charts a course through the confusing and often painful interactions parents and children can fac

Walking on Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Flying Dolphin Press
ISBN: 9780767920858
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

Explains how to create and maintain a fulfilling, lifelong bond with one's adult children, offering helpful insights, case studies, wisdom, and inspirational reflections designed to help keep lines of communication open, alleviate strife, cope with often complicated emotional challenges, and enhance family relationships. Reprint. 35,000 first printing.

Don t Bite Your Tongue

Author: Ruth Nemzoff
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 0230614108
Release Date: 2008-08-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Parents make enormous sacrifices helping children become healthy and autonomous adults. And when children are older, popular wisdom advises parents to let go, disconnect, and bite their tongues. But increasing life spans mean that parents and children can spend as many as five or six decades as adults together: actively parenting adult children is a reality for many families. Dr. Ruth Nemzoff--a leading expert in family dynamics--empowers parents to create close relationships with their adult children, while respecting their independence. Based on personal stories as well as advice that she has accrued from years of coaching, this lively and readable book shows parents how to: -communicate at long distances -discuss financial issues without using money as a form of control -speak up when disapproving of an adult child's partner or childrearing practices -handle adult children's career choices or other midlife changes -navigate an adult child's interreligious, interracial or same sex relationships No other book treats the challenges of parent and adult offspring relationships as part and parcel of a healthy family dynamic. This practical lessons of Don't Bite Your Tongue will help parents play a vital and positive role in their children's lives.

How to Really Love Your Adult Child

Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 9780802477903
Release Date: 2011-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

More than 10 years after Parenting Your Adult Child was published, much has changed - including young adults themselves, as well as their parents. Economic upheavals, challenges to traditional values and beliefs, the phenomenon of over-involved "helicopter parenting" - all make relating to grown children more difficult than ever. Yet at the same time, being a parent of an adult child can bring great rewards. This revised and updated version of Dr. Gary Chapman's and Dr. Ross Campbell's message will help today's parents explore how to really love their adult child in today's changing world. The book includes brief sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves with their own stories. An online study guide will also be available.

Now That They Are Grown

Author: Ronald J. Greer
Publisher: Abingdon Press
ISBN: 9781426754685
Release Date: 2012-03-01
Genre: Religion

We don’t stop being parents when our kids are grown...but some things do change. Life is filled with change. As our sons and daughters move into young adulthood, our role of what it means to be loving parents changes dramatically. This book aims to help readers miss as many potholes as possible in making the transition from parenting children to being parents of young adults. Here are ways to nurture our adult children while encouraging their independence and maturity. Learn to have balance. Here is how to respond to them in times of struggle. Readers will see how to be supportive, yet not intrusive, caring without enabling dependency. The questions are important. The answers are not obvious. It is a new day in our relationships with our children. The page has been turned, and we are now writing the new chapter in the life of our family. It is important that we get it right.

I m Still Your Mother

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher:
ISBN: 0595183581
Release Date: 2001-06-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Is there life with your kids once you’ve raised them? In this groundbreaking book, a best-selling author and psychologist (and the mother of grown children, too) shows you how to keep your family together for a lifetime. Dr. Spock didn’t tell you about Postparenthood, but Jane Adams does—in this wise, warm, witty, commonsense guide to creating a close, loving relationship with your grown children. You raised your kids to be independent, strong, and think for themselves. So once they’re grown, why is it so hard to let them do it? Jane Adams interviewed over a hundred mothers and fathers of young adults to learn how they’ve created closer, more authentic relationships with their kids than they had with their own parents. She offers practical wisdom about how to keep families together even when distance tugs at the ties that bind. Sensible tips on holding them close to your hearts while getting them out of your house. Good advice about helping them start their careers. And first-hand strategies on getting along with their mates, giving or lending them money, offering or asking advice, being a great grandparent, coming to terms with their lifestyles, and preparing both generations for the future.

Mother Daughter Duet

Author: Cheri Fuller
Publisher: Multnomah
ISBN: 160142163X
Release Date: 2010-02-16
Genre: Religion

A harmonious relationship is possible When your daughter was born, you had a thousand hopes and dreams for her. . .including that one day you'd be best friends. But as life unfolds, even the best intentions go awry. There are so many challenges on the journey to adult friendship that the reality is fraught with friction and frustration. Thankfully, a harmonious relationship with your daughter is possible. Written by a mother and daughter who have successfully navigated the minefield from distance and tension to acceptance and friendship, Mother-Daughter Duet helps moms open wide the door of communication so that daughters want to walk through it. Filled with personal anecdotes and based on proven principles, each chapter offers timeless wisdom as well as a daughter’s perspective. Often these principles apply to daughters-in-law as well. The relationship between mothers and daughters is intense, personal, complex, and unique. But you can have the loving, authentic bond you always dreamed of—when you learn the mother-daughter duet. From the Trade Paperback edition.

You Never Stop Being a Parent

Author: Jim Newheiser
Publisher: P & R Publishing
ISBN: 1596381744
Release Date: 2010
Genre: Family & Relationships

In the complex social, geographical, vocational and property-valued landscape that we inhabit parenting has never had more challenges to maintain healthy relationships with our adult children. Jim and Elyse will show you how to be the best parent you can to your adult child. --from publisher description

Done with the Crying

Author: Sheri McGregor
Publisher:
ISBN: 0997352205
Release Date: 2016-04-30
Genre: Self-Help

If such a precious relationship can fall apart, then what is safe? Mothers of estranged adult children wonder: What did I do wrong? Who can I trust? Will my other children leave too? Sheri McGregor, M.A., is a loving mother to whom the unthinkable happened. She uses tools, understanding, and the insight from more than 9,000 parents to help.

When Your Children Marry

Author: Deborah M. Merrill
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
ISBN: 9781442210943
Release Date: 2011-05-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Marriage is an important transition in the life of any adult who marries. But often when a son or daughter gets married, their relationships with their natal families changes. It is often said that a 'daughter is a daughter all of her life, but a son is a son 'til he takes him a wife.' This book examines how marriage changes relationships between adult children and their parents and how this differs for sons versus daughters. Merrill considers the process by which men 'get pulled into' their wives' families and the ways in which men are sometimes more connected to their wives' families following marriage than to their own families. But what is it about a relationship with a son that changes when he marries? And why do daughters tend to stay closer? Why do mothers experience greater difficulty in negotiating relationships with married sons than with married daughters? Why do daughters tend to stay closer and maintain stronger ties to their natal families than sons do? This book answers these questions and offers advice for mothers on how to maintain strong ties with their children when they marry, negotiate relationships that may be fraught with new challenges, and accept changes when they happen. Sharing firsthand accounts from mothers, sons, and daughters, the author sheds new light on this neglected topic.

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters

Author: Charney Herst
Publisher: Villard
ISBN: 9780307804532
Release Date: 2011-08-17
Genre: Self-Help

The first mother-daughter book for mothers, featuring a new Afterword and a Reading Group Discussion Guide ¸ Do you long for a better relationship with your daughter? ¸ Do you occasionally feel as though you have failed as a mother? ¸ Do you blame yourself because your relationship with your daughter is strained, faltering, or nonexistent? ¸ Do you feel that the relationship is unchangeable and that there is no chance that it could become a nurturing and deeply satisfying friendship? Dr. Charney Herst knows that there is always more than one side to a story, and in her book, For Mothers of Difficult Daughters, she uses her twenty-five years of experience as counselor and group therapist to provide mothers with solutions that work. In the book she first helps you understand your particular relationship with your grown daughter--untangling the complex web of personal history and intense emotion inherent in any mother-daughter relationship. Then she describes practical, successful, mother-tested steps you can take to repair this all-important bond. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Cutting Loose

Author: Howard Halpern
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439123748
Release Date: 1990-04-15
Genre: Psychology

With more than thirty-five years of experience in psychotherapy, Dr. Halpern enables the adult child to understand his or her parent and foster a positive, healthy adult relationship. In all respects, you appear to be well-adjusted, reasonably successful adult, but in the presence of your parents, you feel vulnerable, dependent, guilty, insecure—childlike. They manipulate you, smother you, demand your attention or elicit your resentment. In clear, nonclinical terms, renowned psychotherapist Dr. Howard Halpern shows you how to break these familiar family routines so that you can build healthy, rewarding parent-child relationships. He teaches you, for example, how to handle martyred mothers, despotic fathers, and moralistic, unloving, or seductive parents. He also addresses the sensitive topics of how to deal with aging, divorced, or dying parents. Resolving conflicts with your parents will enable you, finally, to cut loose—to start being yourself rather than your parent's child. Without guilt, revenge, or fear as your motives, you will be able to make the choices in love, work, and values that do justice to who you are. With more than thirty-five years of experience in psychotherapy, Dr. Halpern enables the adult child to understand his or her parent and foster a positive, healthy adult relationship.

When Your Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Barbara Johnson
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 9780800787752
Release Date: 2008-10-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Beloved author Barbara Johnson offers hope to families facing difficulty coming to terms with a child's decisions in life, sharing how God brought her through the deep waters--and how he will do the same for them.