When a Child Dies from Drugs

Author: Pat Wittberger
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
ISBN: 9781413439137
Release Date: 2004-08-04
Genre: Self-Help

"When a Child Dies From Drugs" is written by parents to help other parents who are experiencing the ultimate tragedy of their child's death from drugs or alcohol - parents who find themselves isolated in a fathomless dark void wondering whether they will ever resurface into the real world again. This book offers strength, practical advice and an aid in grief recovery for parents and families, gleaned not only from personal experiences but also from meeting with many parents through their out-reach program,"G.R.A.S.P."(Grief Recovery After Substance Passing) Subjects covered range from the emotional trauma of learning of the child's demise and on through the guilt, denial, anger, "what-if's" and, finally, acceptance and to suggestions of how to cope daily and into a future which will never be the same. It is also illuminating to all those who know someone who has lost a loved one through drugs -What to say and do? What NOT to say and do? There is advice here for those who want to support families in grief. With personal insights this book is very much like friends reaching out to friends in compassion and kindness - friends who understand because, quite simply, the writers continue to be on the same journey as those they will comfort.

Devastating Losses

Author: Carol E. Jordan, MS
Publisher: Springer Publishing Company
ISBN: 9780826107473
Release Date: 2012-06-20
Genre: Family & Relationships

This book fills a critical gap in our scientific understanding of the grief response of parents who have lost a child to traumatic death and the psychotherapeutic strategies that best facilitate healing. It is based on the results of the largest study ever conducted of parents surviving a child's traumatic death or suicide. The book was conceived by William and Beverly Feigelman following their own devastating loss of a son, and written from the perspective of their experiences as both suicide-survivor support group participants and facilitators. It intertwines data, insight, and critical learning gathered from research with the voices of the 575 survivors who participated in the study. The text emphasizes the sociological underpinnings of survivors' grief and provides data that vividly documents their critical need for emotional support. It explains how bereavement difficulties can be exacerbated by stigmatization, and by the failure of significant others to provide expected support. Also explored in depth are the ways in which couples adapt to the traumatic loss of a child and how this can bring them closer or render their relationship irreparable. Findings suggest that with time and peer support affiliations, most traumatically bereaved parents ultimately demonstrate resilience and find meaningful new roles for themselves, helping the newly bereaved or engaging in other humanitarian acts. Key Features: Offers researchers, clinicians, and parent-survivors current information on how parents adapt initially and over time after the traumatic loss of a child Presents data culled from the largest survey ever conducted (575 individuals) of parents surviving a child's suicide or other traumatic death Investigates the ways in which stigmatization complicates and prolongs the grieving process Addresses the tremendous value of support groups in the healing process Explores how married couples are affected by the traumatic loss of their child

Healing a Parent s Grieving Heart

Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 9781879651302
Release Date: 2002-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. It offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief, such as writing a letter to the child who has died; spending time with others who will listen to stories of grief; creating a memory book, box, or Web site; and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. The guide also addresses common problems for grieving parents, including dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt. This compassionate resource will aid parents who have been through the death of a child—whether the passing happened recently or many years ago, whether the child was young or an adult.

Life and Loss

Author: Linda Goldman
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 9781136222399
Release Date: 2013-11-20
Genre: Psychology

Many clinicians recognize that denying or ignoring grief issues in children leaves them feeling alone and that acknowledging loss is crucial part of a child’s healthy development. Really dealing with loss in productive ways, however, is sometimes easier said than done. For decades, Life and Loss has been the book clinicians have relied on for a full and nuanced presentation of the many issues with which grieving children grapple as well as an honest exploration of the interrelationship between unresolved grief, educational success, and responsible citizenry. The third edition of Life and Loss brings this exploration firmly into the twenty-first century and makes a convincing case that children’s grief is no longer restricted only to loss-identified children. Children’s grief is now endemic; it is global. Life and Loss is not just the book clinicians need to understand grief in the twenty-first century—it’s the book they need to work with it in constructive ways.

Surviving the Loss of a Child

Author: Elizabeth B. Brown
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 1441207376
Release Date: 2010-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Nothing can steal peace and joy and undermine the very foundation of someone's life like losing a child. It is devastating on a level that most of us can't imagine. Written after the loss of the author's own child, Surviving the Loss of a Child offers encouragement and hope to those who may think they will never be able to live fully after such tragedy. Bereaved parents, as well as friends, counselors, pastors, and caregivers, will find this book a source of comfort and discover coping mechanisms as they move through their grief. Revised and updated, it has short chapters that are easy to take in, perfect for people going through this difficult time.

Life After You

Author: Linda Lajterman
Publisher: Wat-Age Publishing
ISBN: 0692260889
Release Date: 2014-11-14
Genre:

On February 23, 2014, Linda Lajterman's world was shattered when she found her 19 year-old son, Danny, dead in his bedroom. He had overdosed on a drug sold to him by a father in the neighborhood who had been dealing to the local high school students. In the midst of her grief, Linda posted a warning on Facebook, pleading with other parents to resist the "not my son" mentality. The response was overwhelming. She received thousands of messages not only from parents in the U.S., but also from parents in South Africa, Australia, and many countries in Europe and South America. That outpouring encouraged Linda to write, "Life After You: What Your Death from Drugs Leaves Behind," a cautionary tale meant to shock and hopefully deter young people from using drugs.Linda's story resonates with other parents because they can easily identify with her situation. Linda and her husband, Tito, have been happily married for 31 years. They have two older children who were very close to their younger brother. The Lajterman home in New Jersey was a gathering place for relatives and friends and Danny always took part in those activities. "We learned the hard way," Linda said. "We were hit with a triple whammy: we find our son dead in his room, we learn he was using drugs, and we learned that the drug dealer was the father of three living in the next town over. I hoped to wake everyone up. The pain, the shock, the trauma was horrible. If it could happen to Danny, it could very easily happen to other kids."In a "Note to Parents" at the beginning of the book, Linda advises adults "to place this book in the hands of a young adolescent, teen, or young adult who needs to confront the cold, hard facts of drug abuse." Linda's book is not a drug encyclopedia; she does not list the various substances, what they look like, or their effects. Rather, she takes a young person through the aftermath of death, including what happens to the family left behind. As she states in the book: "It's not a pretty picture."Although Linda is a nurse, she is not an expert on substance abuse. Unfortunately, she has now become an expert on what happens when a family member dies of a drug overdose. Writing "Life After You" just two months after Danny's death was her way of coping with tremendous loss. Her mission now is to prevent other families from experiencing that pain.Already Linda's message is being hailed by drug abuse professionals who believe her book could serve as a much needed wake up call for both parents and their children. Here's what they have to say:'`Life After You' challenges the decision-making process of at-risk drug users by having them think and feel-out a myriad of emotional and factual consequences of death. Lajterman offers advice for those struggling with either their own or a friend's drug use or abuse. The human spirit's drive for compassion is captured in her plea -- let not another loved one die nor family suffer." Gregory G. Lomuti, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist ,Alcohol/Drug Counseling Emeritus Status"Finally, someone has tried to take the bull by the horns and gone on the offensive against the addiction epidemic. I would encourage each parent to read this first and then encourage each of their children to do the same."David Ray Co-Founder of Cross Keys Retreat and Number 16"Linda Lajterman has created an incredible cautionary tale that might just save another family a tragic loss to an overdose death. In the midst of this American epidemic where we are losing our loved ones in record numbers, this book is literally a message to the grave without having to lose your life to receive it." Michael Deleon, PresidentSteered Straight, Inc."Linda Lajterman's book is a mandatory read for all parents and for all school districts that are not too risk averse to use it. Better to advise and admonish now, than to offer condolences. We should never have to bury our children."D & MLos Angeles, California

Life After the Death of My Son

Author: Dennis L. Apple
Publisher: Beacon Hill Press
ISBN: 0834123657
Release Date: 2008
Genre: Religion

Shares a glimpse of the unspeakable pain, helplessness, frustration, and eventual healing that the author and his wife experienced since losing their son, offering comfort and connection to those walking similar paths. Original.

I Am Your Disease

Author: Sheryl Letzgus McGinnis
Publisher: Sheryl Letzgus McGinnis
ISBN: 1598006991
Release Date: 2006-10
Genre: Literary Criticism

"Mom, nobody wakes up one day and decides to be an addict." The stories contained in this book are about people from every walk of life, socioeconomic levels, religious and ethnic backgrounds whose lives were intertwined with people who didn't "decide to be an addict."They all share one common bond - living with, and loving an addicted person. Contained within the pages of this book are stories by bereaved parents who have suffered the ultimate loss: The loss of their precious child.Read how addiction, whether it be drugs, alcohol or gambling, destroys not only the addicted person, but their entire circle of friends and family.No one escapes the tentacles of addiction. Like an octopus it reaches its deadly arms around us and squeezes the very life out of all of us. Our society is affected in ways we never imagined.Read excerpts from middle school students on the peer pressures they face today.Read about "pharming" and other code words used by kids.Read the stories of parents who have gone through hell, sacrificing their very sanity trying to save their child.The profiles of these children will change your mind about what kind of people do drugs. GOOD KIDS DO DRUGS TOO! And they're dying by the thousands from high profile celebrities to the boys and girls next door. It isn't always heroin or cocaine that's killing them. Prescription pill abuse is growing at an alarming rate and parents need to know about this.

Gone but Not Lost

Author: David W. Wiersbe
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 9781441214614
Release Date: 2011-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

We all expect our parents to precede us in death. No one expects to have to make their child's funeral arrangements. And the loss of a child brings with it a special and persistent manifestation of grief that can feel "like a stomachache that never ends." Gone but Not Lost is a thoughtful gift for a family that has experienced the death of a child. Each of its brief chapters covers one element of grieving, bringing readers through sorrow and helping them deal with feelings of anger or guilt, as well as the marital strain that may follow the loss of a beloved child.

Healing Your Grieving Heart

Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 9781879651258
Release Date: 2001-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

With sensitivity and insight, this series offers suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors learn to express their grief and mourn naturally. Acknowledging that death is a painful, ongoing part of life, it explains how people need to slow down, turn inward, embrace their feelings of loss, and seek and accept support when a loved one dies. Each book, geared for mourning adults, teens, or children, provides ideas and action-oriented tips that teach the basic principles of grief and healing. These ideas and activities are aimed at reducing the confusion, anxiety, and huge personal void so that living their lives can begin again.

On Grieving the Death of a Father

Author: Harold Ivan Smith
Publisher: Augsburg Books
ISBN: 1451409494
Release Date: 1994-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Smith has combined personal stories from Frederick Buechner, Norman Vincent Peale, Corrie ten Boom, James Dobson, and many other well-known people to help others through their grieving process in dealing with the new reality of a deceased father.

Healing a Parent s Grieving Heart

Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 9781617220463
Release Date: 2002-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. It offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief, such as writing a letter to the child who has died; spending time with others who will listen to stories of grief; creating a memory book, box, or Web site; and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. The guide also addresses common problems for grieving parents, including dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt. This compassionate resource will aid parents who have been through the death of a child—whether the passing happened recently or many years ago, whether the child was young or an adult.