Will I Ever be Good Enough

Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781416551324
Release Date: 2008
Genre: Family & Relationships

A resource for daughters of mothers with narcissistic personality disorder explains how to manage feelings of inadequacy and abandonment in the face of inappropriate maternal expectations and conditional love, in a step-by-step guide that shares recommendations for creating a personalized program for self-protection and recovery. 50,000 first printing.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough

Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781439123232
Release Date: 2008-09-23
Genre: Self-Help

The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery. An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration. Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the control you want. Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to: (1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter. Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough

Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Atria Books
ISBN: 1439129436
Release Date: 2009-09-08
Genre: Self-Help

The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women’s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery. Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride’s step-by-step program will enable you to: (1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage (3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

Will I Ever Be Free of You

Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781476755724
Release Date: 2016-03-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

The first book for the millions of daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, "Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" provides the expert advice readers need to overcome debilitating histories and reclaim their lives.

You re Not Crazy It s Your Mother

Author: Danu Morrigan
Publisher: Darton Longman and Todd
ISBN: 0232529299
Release Date: 2012
Genre: Mother and infant

Do you find yourself feeling emotionally bruised, upset and confused after being in contact with your mother? It is possible that your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). You're Not Crazy... explains what NPD is, and what it means to you in your life. It will help you to undertake a journey of recognition and recovery: of moving on, healing, and claiming your own self as the wonderful, vibrant woman you really are.

Mothers Who Can t Love

Author: Susan Forward
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062204356
Release Date: 2013-10-01
Genre: Self-Help

With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy. In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love. Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests. Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.

It s My Turn

Author: Tina Fuller
Publisher: Lulu.com
ISBN: 9781300653783
Release Date: 2013-01-19
Genre: Self-Help

Want to gain freedom from your manipulative and self-centered parent? This book gives you the tools and coping strategies needed to break free from the grip of narcissism, by using my 4-step program P.A.C.E. The only person who should be controlling your life is you!

The Narcissistic Family

Author: Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman
Publisher: Jossey-Bass
ISBN: 0787908703
Release Date: 1997-07-09
Genre: Psychology

In this compelling book, the authors present an innovative therapeutic model for understanding and treating adults from emotionally abusive or neglectful families? families the authors call narcissistic. Narcissistic families have a parental system that is, for whatever reason (job stress, alcoholism, drug abuse, mental illness, physical disability, lack of parenting skills, self-centered immaturity), primarily involved in getting its own needs met. The children in such narcissistic family systems try to earn love, attention and approval by satisfying their parents' needs, thus never developing the ability to recognize their own needs or create strategies for getting them met. By outlining the theoretical framework of their model and using dozens of illustrative clinical examples, the authors clearly illuminate specific practice guidelines for treating these individuals. Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman is a therapist, consultant, and trainer. She is known for her work with dysfunctional families, particularly with survivors of incest. Robert M. Pressman is the editor-in-chief and president of the Joint Commission for the Development of the Treatment and Statistical Manual for Behavioral and Mental Disorders.

Difficult Mothers Adult Daughters

Author: Karen C.L. Anderson
Publisher: Mango Media Inc.
ISBN: 9781633537163
Release Date: 2018-03-13
Genre: Family & Relationships

Transform your relationship with your mother The best news on the planet is that your mother doesn't have to change in order for you to be happy. In fact, author Karen C.L. Anderson will take it a step further and say, your mother doesn't have to change in order for you to be free, peaceful, contented, and joyful. You can emotionally separate without guilt: Inspired by her own journey, Anderson's Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration shows women how to emotionally separate from their mothers without guilt and anxiety so they can finally create a life based on their own values, desires, needs, and preferences. Not to mention being able to like and respect themselves during the process. Learn through the experiences of others: Through personal stories and experiences, practical tools that can used right away to feel better, and journal prompts, Anderson compassionately leads women who struggle in their relationships with their mothers through a process of self-awareness and understanding. Anderson's work with hundreds of women and her own personal work have resulted in profound growth and transformation. Anderson knows the results are nothing short of miraculous. Funny and compassionate: This book is about Anderson discovering and accepting the whole of who she is (separate from her mother), and making her discoveries accessible to women struggling to redefine their challenging relationships with their mothers. Her writing is relatable, real, funny, and compassionate. What you'll learn inside this book: • Why mothers and daughters tend to have difficult relationships • How to heal and transform your mother "wounds" from sources of pain into sources of creativity and wisdom • How to tell your stories in a way that empowers you, rather than making you powerless • How to handle the uncomfortable emotions that seem inevitable when it comes to your relationship with your mother • The art of creating, articulating, and maintaining impeccable boundaries • How to stop "shoulding" when it comes to yourself and your mother • How to "re-mother" yourself and acknowledge, honor, and meet your own preferences and needs • And much, much more

Why Can t I Ever Be Good Enough

Author: Joan Rubin-Deutsch
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
ISBN: 1572243147
Release Date: 2003
Genre: Self-Help

A therapist offers a simple yet profound tool that can lead to healthier relationships and shows how to rewrite or create brand-new "contracts" for changing internalized behaviors learned in childhood.

Difficult Mothers Understanding and Overcoming Their Power

Author: Terri Apter
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN: 9780393081022
Release Date: 2012-05-07
Genre: Family & Relationships

Describes the five different types of difficult mothers, explains how adults can still suffer from negative relationships with their mothers, and how people can overcome the challenges of their complex feelings.

Healing The

Author: Gita Aravamudan
Publisher:
ISBN: 817223757X
Release Date: 2008
Genre:

A Novel That Spans Several Generations And Seven Tumultuous Decades, The Healing Is Remarkable For The Disarming Simplicity With Which It Signposts The Changing Ways Of Contemporary India. The Babri Masjid Falls On The Day Ramanujam, Patriarch And Freedom Fighter, Is Rushed Into Hospital After Suffering A Cardiac Arrest. As His Wife And Family Stand Vigil By His Bedside, A Second Demolition Is Waiting To Throw Their Lives Out Of Gear- Shanti Nivas, The Sprawling Family Property They Have Lived In For Over Seventy Years, Is To Be Transformed Into Modern Apartments Where All The Members Of The Family Find Individual Homes And Possibly, An Entirely Different Way Of Life. Told From The Perspective Of Ramanujam'S Younger Daughter Bharati, This Evocative Novel Set In Chennai Maps The Memories Of Shanti Nivas And Its Residents. Past Loves And Unresolved Conflicts War With The Reality Of Present-Day Relationships As Bharati And Her Husband Krishna Confront Their Old Nemesis, Doctor And Sometime Friend Manohar. The Situation Is Further Complicated When Their Older Daughter Jayanti Declares Her Intention To Marry A Colleague- A Man Who Is Not Part Of Their Community, Or Caste, Or Even Religion.

Trapped in the Mirror

Author: Elan Golomb, PhD
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062227027
Release Date: 2012-06-19
Genre: Family & Relationships

In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist—offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters—share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist. The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us. With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores. the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs why do many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the past how one's body image can be formed by faulty parenting how anger must be acknowledge to be overcome and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed. Rooted in a profoundly humanist traditional approach, and suffused with the benefit of the latest knowledge about intrafamily relationships, Trapped in the Mirror offers more than the average self-help book; it is truly the first self-heal book for millions.

Toxic Parents

Author: Susan Forward
Publisher: Bantam
ISBN: 9780307575326
Release Date: 2009-12-16
Genre: Self-Help

BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.