Yes Means Yes

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9780786727056
Release Date: 2008-12-02
Genre: Social Science

In this groundbreaking new look at rape edited by writer and activist Jaclyn Freidman and Full Frontal Feminism and He’s A Stud, She’s A Slut author Jessica Valenti, the way we view rape in our culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure. Feminist, political, and activist writers alike will present their ideas for a paradigm shift from the “No Means No” model—an approach that while necessary for where we were in 1974, needs an overhaul today. Yes Means Yes will bring to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently, and ending rape. Yes Means Yes aims to have radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished. With commentary on public sex education, pornography, mass media, Yes Means Yes is a powerful and revolutionary anthology.

Yes Means Yes

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580052573
Release Date: 2008-12-02
Genre: Psychology

Collects essays that provide a variety of perspectives and experiences that will educate and inform readers on the value of female sexuality and its correlation to a rape-free society.

Yes Means Yes

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 9780786727056
Release Date: 2008-12-02
Genre: Social Science

In this groundbreaking new look at rape edited by writer and activist Jaclyn Freidman and Full Frontal Feminism and He’s A Stud, She’s A Slut author Jessica Valenti, the way we view rape in our culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure. Feminist, political, and activist writers alike will present their ideas for a paradigm shift from the “No Means No” model—an approach that while necessary for where we were in 1974, needs an overhaul today. Yes Means Yes will bring to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently, and ending rape. Yes Means Yes aims to have radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished. With commentary on public sex education, pornography, mass media, Yes Means Yes is a powerful and revolutionary anthology.

Unscrewed

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580056427
Release Date: 2017-11-14
Genre: Social Science

An urgent account of sexual politics, feminism, and the rules of power in America-and a potent vision for the way forward As a veteran feminist and agenda-setting sex educator, Jaclyn Friedman is on the frontlines of the war for equity between the sexes. In Unscrewed, Friedman brings her sharp expertise and incisive observations on the state of sexual politics to the fore, sparking a culture-wide rethink about sex, power and what we accept. With reportage and verve, Unscrewed builds a searing investigation into the state of sexual power in America, and outlines how to make real progress toward equality. Friedman reveals that the anxiety and fear women in our country feel around issues of their sexuality are not, in fact, their fault, but instead are side effects of what she calls our "era of fauxpowerment," wherein women have the illusion of sexual power, with no actual power to support it. Exploring the fault lines where media, religion, politics, and education impinge on our intimate lives, Unscrewed breaks down the causes and signs of fauxpowerment, then gives readers tools to take it on themselves.

What You Really Really Want

Author: Jaclyn Friedman
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580054300
Release Date: 2011-10-25
Genre: Health & Fitness

In this empowering, accessible guide, Jaclyn Friedman—co-editor of Yes Means Yes—gives young women the tools to decipher the modern world’s confusing, hypersexualized, sometimes dangerous landscape so they can define their own sexual identity. Friedman decries the hypocrisy and mixed messages of our culture (we’re failures if we don’t act sexy, but we’re sluts if we actually pursue sex; we need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve “whatever we get” if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt), and encourages readers to separate fear from fact, decode the damaging messages all around them, and discover a healthy personal sexuality. Educational and interactive, What You Really Really Want includes revealing quizzes, creative exercises, and reality-based advice about sex and sexuality today. With Friedman’s informed advice to guide them, readers will build new skills for safely expressing their sexuality with lovers and explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friends—and learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone else’s sexuality along the way.

Asking for It

Author: Kate Harding
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 9780738217024
Release Date: 2015-08-25
Genre: Education

Dominique Strauss-Kahn's arrest. Congressman Todd Akin's ?legitimate” gaffe. The alleged rape crew of Steubenville, Ohio. Sexual violence has been so prominent in recent years that the feminist term ?rape culture” has finally entered the mainstream. But what, exactly, is it? And how do we change it? In Asking for It, Kate Harding answers those questions in the same blunt, bullshit-free voice that's made her a powerhouse feminist blogger. Combining in-depth research with practical knowledge, Asking for It makes the case that twenty-first century America—where it's estimated that out of every 100 rapes only 5 result in felony convictions—supports rapists more effectively than victims. Harding offers ideas and suggestions for addressing how we as a culture can take rape much more seriously without compromising the rights of the accused.

Transforming a Rape Culture

Author: Emilie Buchwald
Publisher:
ISBN: UOM:39015060620617
Release Date: 2005
Genre: Social Science

A classic text on rape calls for a fundamental change in attitudes about race, gender, power, and sexuality, collecting the writing of social activists, theologians, pundits, educators, and policymakers on a variety of rape-related topics. Original.

The Purity Myth

Author: Jessica Valenti
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9780786744664
Release Date: 2009-03-24
Genre: Social Science

The United States is obsessed with virginity — from the media to schools to government agencies. In The Purity Myth, Jessica Valenti argues that the country’s intense focus on chastity is damaging to young women. Through in-depth cultural and social analysis, Valenti reveals that powerful messaging on both extremes — ranging from abstinence-only curriculum to "Girls Gone Wild" infomercials — place a young woman's worth entirely on her sexuality. Morals are therefore linked purely to sexual behavior, rather than values like honesty, kindness, and altruism. Valenti sheds light on the value — and hypocrisy — around the notion that girls remain virgins until they’re married by putting into context the historical question of purity, modern abstinence-only education, pornography, and public punishments for those who dare to have sex. The Purity Myth presents a revolutionary argument that girls and women are overly valued for their sexuality, as well as solutions for a future without a damaging emphasis on virginity.

Outdated

Author: Samhita Mukhopadhyay
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580054263
Release Date: 2011-09-27
Genre: Family & Relationships

Romance and love are in a state of crisis: Statistically speaking, young women today are living romantic lives of all kinds—but they’re still feeling bogged down by social, cultural, economic, and familial pressures to love in a certain way. Young women in the modern world have greater flexibility than ever when it comes to who we choose to love and how we choose to love them; but while social circumstances may have changed since our parents’ generation, certain life expectations remain. In Outdated, Samhita Mukhopadhyay addresses the difficulty of negotiating loving relationships within the borderlands of race, culture, class, and sexuality—and of holding true to our convictions and maintaining our independence while we do it. Outdated analyzes how different forms of media, cultural norms, family pressure, and even laws, are produced to scare women into believing that if they don’t devote themselves to finding a man, they’ll be doomed to a life of loneliness and shame. Using interviews with young women that are living around, between, within, and outside of the romantic industrial complex, Mukhopadhyay weaves a narrative of the alternative ways that women today have elected to live their lives, and in doing so offers a fresh, feminist look at an old topic: How do diverse, independent young women date happily and successfully—and outside of the box?

He s a Stud She s a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know

Author: Jessica Valenti
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9780786750498
Release Date: 2009-07-31
Genre: Social Science

Double standards are nothing new. Women deal with them every day. Take the common truism that women who sleep around are sluts while men are studs. Why is it that men grow distinguished and sexily gray as they age while women just get saggy and haggard? Have you ever wondered how a young woman is supposed to both virginal and provocatively enticing at the same time? Isn’t it unfair that working moms are labeled “bad” for focusing on their careers while we shake our heads in disbelief when we hear about the occasional stay-at-home dad? In 50 Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, Jessica Valenti, author of Full Frontal Feminism, calls out the double standards that affect every woman. Whether Jessica is pointing out the wage earning discrepancies between men and women or revealing all of the places that women still aren’t equal to their male counterparts—be it in the workplace, courtroom, bedroom, or home—she maintains her signature wittily sarcastic tone. With sass, humor, and in-your-face facts, this book informs and equips women with the tools they need to combat sexist comments, topple ridiculous stereotypes (girls aren’t good at math?), and end the promotion of lame double standards.

Ask

Author: Kitty Stryker
Publisher: Thorntree Press LLC
ISBN: 9781944934262
Release Date: 2017-10-27
Genre: Social Science

Have you ever heard the phrase "It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission?" Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture—and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.

Yes Means Yes an Introduction to Consent and Boundaries

Author: Christine Babinec
Publisher:
ISBN: 0692830804
Release Date: 2017-02-19
Genre:

This is the book you have been waiting for! Yes Means Yes: An Introduction to Consent and Boundaries is the first book on the market to directly introduce young children and their parents to the important concepts of consent and boundaries in a fun, non-judgmental and natural way. Yes Means Yes takes one of the most basic tasks of childhood - learning to ask for permission - and applies it to consent and healthy boundaries. We teach kids early and often to ask politely for nearly everything. Remember raising your hand in class so you may be excused to go the bathroom? Or someone saying, "No snack right now, dinner is in thirty minutes." Sometimes when a child is truly hungry, we still ask them to wait just a little bit longer until mealtime because we know it won't actually hurt them to wait. We also know how important it is for our little ones to learn to be patient and respectful of others. We even teach them to ask pet owners for permission before reaching out to a friendly dog or cat. However, we often do not teach kids the very basics of consent when it comes to their own bodies or other people's bodies. Most books directed at children about healthy boundaries and safe touch emphasize teaching a child how to protect and defend themselves from unwanted touch or recovering after an incident or abuse has already happened. This can be scary and confusing to children. It can even cause them to believe they are to blame if something bad happens, especially if they were too scared or confused to say "No" or if the person they want to say "No" to is someone they love. Yes Means Yes discusses consent and personal empowerment at the same time because it is possible and preferable! Yes Means Yes will help you establish healthy boundaries in your home, classroom, and communities early and easily. This book addresses the enthusiasm, curiosity, and occasional impulse control problems that can make it difficult for children to keep their hands to themselves. Yes Means Yes celebrates the wonderful and infectious energy of a child, while helping them understand and empathize with others. So don't wait until your little one hits puberty, start the conversation today when it is relaxed and natural! Order this book, put it into your reading rotation, and practice talking about, and asking permission for, a hug or kiss today!

Women Sexuality and the Political Power of Pleasure

Author: Susie Jolly
Publisher: Zed Books Ltd.
ISBN: 9781780325736
Release Date: 2013-06-13
Genre: Social Science

This pioneering collection explores the ways in which positive, pleasure-focused approaches to sexuality can empower women. Gender and development has tended to engage with sexuality only in relation to violence and ill-health. Although this has been hugely important in challenging violence against women, over-emphasizing these negative aspects has dovetailed with conservative ideologies that associate women’s sexualities with danger and fear. On the other hand, the media, the pharmaceutical industry, and pornography more broadly celebrate the pleasures of sex in ways that can be just as oppressive, often implying that only certain types of people - young, heterosexual, able-bodied, HIV-negative - are eligible for sexual pleasure. Women, Sexuality and the Political Power of Pleasure brings together challenges to these strictures and exclusions from both the South and North of the globe, with examples of activism, advocacy and programming which use pleasure as an entry point. It shows how positive approaches to pleasure and sexuality can enhance equality and empowerment for all.

The Coregasm Workout

Author: Debby Herbenick
Publisher: Seal Press
ISBN: 9781580055659
Release Date: 2015-06-09
Genre: Health & Fitness

The Coregasm Workout is a revolutionary new book that provides natural, safe, and effective techniques for enhancing sex through fitness. Developed by leading sex researcher, educator, and columnist Dr. Debby Herbenick, The Coregasm Workout introduces simple, science-backed exercises to make working out more fun and sex lives more satisfying. Debby has developed The Coregasm Workout based on her deep background in health science and unprecedented research on exercise-induced arousal in order to bring fitness and sexuality closer together. Her fact-based methods are specifically designed to improve orgasm and have been tested, refined, and proven by real women, for women. The Coregasm Workout will help improve your sex life—and help you enjoy exercising more often—through four C.O.R.E. principles: Challenge yourself through cardio, reps, and resistance Order matters: it’s not just the kind of exercises you do, but the order in which you do them Relax and receive: be open to the experience of coregasm Engage your lower abs, muscles often strongly linked to coregasm Fun, fascinating, and useful, The Coregasm Workout offers new exercise techniques for women who want to stay sexy, healthy, and fit, and enjoy the benefits of the gym in the bedroom.

Sexual Assault in Context

Author: Christopher Kilmartin
Publisher: Psychology Press
ISBN: 9781135601386
Release Date: 2014-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships

Most North American colleges have programs that help students understand the harm done to victims of sexual violence and, if prosecuted, the potential consequences of their perpetrators. However, only a few programs also address those aspects of masculine culture that surround sexual assault. Sexual Assault in Context addresses the undesirable aspects of masculine culture that sustains the violation of women and girls. It examines several typically overlooked patterns of behavior that provide the basis for sexual assault and provides an overview of masculine psychological development as a context for sexual assault. The book also includes prevention strategies, information on funding and consultation issues, and additional resources for investigating further into male gender awareness and sexual assault. The text's hands-on, practical approach, helps counseling professionals negotiate educational, organizational, and logistical issues in helping college men understand the gendered context of sexual assault and harassment. This resource is intended to help reduce the incidence of sexual assault on college campuses, as well as help men gain a greater understanding of: cultural gender pressures; relationship skills; their impact on others; and the considerable influence male peer cultures have on how women are treated. Sexual Assault in Context provides an easy-to-read synopsis of male gender and sexual assault education strategies. It is intended as a resource for college counseling and/or violence prevention programs, and for those interested in understanding the psychological and social effects of the current culture of masculinity.