When your partner betrays, what are the first steps to picking up the pieces of your shattered heart? Many unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person whom they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease-sex addiction. This is a disease shrouded in secrecy and shame. This is your go-to-guide for what to do when you discover your partner is a sex addict. Each chapter is based on frequently asked questions by partners such as: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Is This Going to Get Better? How Do I Set Boundaries and Keep Myself Safe? and What Should I Tell the Kids?
Author: Paldrom Collins
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Release Date: 2011-11-18
Like other psychiatric disorders, sexual addiction is a condition that affects peoples' relationships with others as much as it affects their own mental state. Individuals suffering from sexual addiction typically pursue sex through any means possible and often engage in risky forms of sexual activity such as exhibitionism, promiscuous sex with multiple partners, online sex, etc. It's easy to see how a couple's relationship may be challenged by the manifestations and reality of a disorder like this one. A Couple's Guide to Sexual Addiction discusses common relationship issues within the context of sexual addiction and provides the reader with exercises, information, and advice on the following topics: Trust Communication Healthy sexuality & sexual behaviors Family By understanding the reality of sexual addiction and what it means for a relationship, couples will be able to better relate to each other and plan for a successful future.
Author: Marsha Means
Release Date: 2014-04-08
Genre: Family & Relationships
Using a trauma-model approach, Journey to Healing & Joy: A Workbook for Partners of Sexual Addicts, provides a healing pathway women can follow, either individually or in a support group. Beginning with the raw pain partners of sex addicts experience, this well-researched, soul-searching guide sensitively uses a forward-moving process, enabling women to grieve, grow, and heal. With a balance of educational content and penetrating questions, women review what has happened in their relationship and process it as they journal their answers to the workbooks self-reflective questions. They also learn important new skills and gain new strengths that equip them for the challenges they face, whether their relationship heals, or comes to an end. Chapter by chapter, women learn what it takes to share one's life with a man striving to break free from sex addiction. And as they grow and evaluate their options, they gain new insight and clarity, enabling them to choose the next best step for their own lives.
Author: Meg Wilson
Publisher: Kregel Publications
Release Date: 2018-07-31
Meg is a lantern guiding women through the twists and turns along this pain-filled path. --Lynn Marie Cherry, speaker and author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal Meg Wilson watched her world fall apart when her husband confessed to years of sexual addiction. She has intimate knowledge of the devastation that follows--and she has come through the other side. In her groundbreaking Hope After Betrayal, Meg provides reassuring counsel, compassionate insight, and wise direction. By sharing her story, talking to other women who've been in a similar situation, and turning to Scripture, Wilson has helped countless readers through the steps to recovery--and shows how you can follow that same path out of the darkness. This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons Meg has learned over the last decade. A compelling final chapter by Meg's husband sheds further light on the difficult road to healing from sexual addiction, and a thoughtful new appendix addresses the effect sexual addiction has on children in the home. Hope After Betrayal is a strong and sure lifeline that thousands of women will reach for in a drowning moment. Meg offers careful, clear direction and encouragement in each chapter while unveiling the truth about sexual addiction...This valuable tool should be required reading for every wife and every mother of sons." --Robin Jones Gunn, best-selling author of the Sisterchicks Series
Author: Susan Pease Gadoua
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Release Date: 2008-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
Just as there are right and wrong reasons to marry, there are good and bad reasons to divorce. Some couples are quick to split because they are unwilling to devote the necessary effort to fixing their relationships or to understanding their partners, while others miss out on personal fulfillment by staying too long in unhealthy marriages. This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision. Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on This is a much-needed book. The anxiety in making a life-changing decision is sometimes overwhelming. It is of immense help to have a coach like Susan Pease Gadoua! -John Bradshaw, best-selling author of Homecoming and Creating Love Better than therapy! Pease Gadoua allows the reader who is contemplating any great change to process the pros and cons in the confines of his or her own heart and mind, leaving no chance for those on the fence to skip out on the truth. A must-read for any transition. -Joan Anderson, bestselling author of A Year by the Sea, An Unfinished Marriage, A Walk on the Beach, and The Second Journey Making an appointment to see a divorce lawyer doesn't mean that the person I am advising necessarily needs or wants a divorce. With Pease Gadoua's wise, thorough, and accessible book, Contemplating Divorce, at last there is a resource I can give to confused and unhappy clients who think the marriage may be over but can't decide whether the embers are truly dead or not. -Pauline H. Tesler, author of Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Law An exceptional and outstanding book for all those considering making the life-altering decision to divorce. Pease Gadoua offers profound personal insight and practical guidance that empowers adults to find clarity, overcome hurdles, and make the best choices for the future of their relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend Contemplating Divorce to men and women alike. -Helene Taylor, Esq., president and founder of TheModernWomansDivorceGuide.com
"How grateful I am for Francoise, Richard and their hearts to help partners of sex addicts heal from the trauma they experience! I am even more grateful that they have felt the call to share their gifts, insights, and encouragement for partners through this workbook, Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey. As you read through this workbook and start applying the wisdom and helpful exercises to your own experience, I hope you will know, as I do, that this book comes from their hearts, experience, and spiritual strength. The pages of this workbook are filled with appropriate and helpful information and opportunities for you to apply the materials to your experience, which will help you in your journey of healing. May you find in these pages a path for yourself as you join the journey of healing along with so many other wounded spouses. Those of us who are a little further along in the journey hold you in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers. You are not alone. Blessings and hope to you." - Dr. Barbara Steffens PhD, LPCC, BCC, CCSAS. President, Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), Co-author, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal
Author: Claudia Black
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Release Date: 2009-07-30
Renowned lecturer, author, and trainer Claudia Black offers a comprehensive guide to healing and recovery for women whose partners are acting out sexually. Pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, multiple affairs. No matter their "drug" of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, incredible shame, and isolation.But there is hope.In Deceived, bestselling author Claudia Black offers women in relationships plagued by sexual betrayal the care and guidance to create a new path of clarity, direction, and confidence. Black uses stories of real women who have been through a wide variety of experiences to help readers develop the understanding and skills to:confront their partnersheighten their personal security by setting nonnegotiable boundariesavoid preoccupation with their partners' problemspractice forgivenesslet go of the uncontrollabletalk to their childrenmake positive changes derived from esteem and integrityDeceived teaches women how to proactively emerge from emotional isolation, shed secrets and shame, and discover their power to incite positive change in their relationships
Partners experience dire consequences as a result of being in a relationship with someone suffering from compulsive sexual behavior. Their emotional well-being requires developing new skill sets for self-care and self-protection as they confront the difficult and painful process of discovery, disclosure, and beyond. In other words—they need boundaries. This is the first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Moving Beyond Betrayal guides partners to define the current problem(s); identify needs that aren't being met; find where they have the power to effect change; take action; and evaluate the results to determine if their goal has been accomplished. The author examines all aspects of effective boundary work, including what to do when boundaries are violated. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will: Gain clarity Reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction Feel more empowered and in control of their lives Discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is the author of the blog for partners Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts.
Author: Douglas Weiss
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
Release Date: 2005-07
Genre: Family & Relationships
Did one or both of your parents: Become emotionally distant and unloving to their spouse? Talk about sex or sexuality in an inappropriate way? Spend a lot of time away from home or form unusually close platonic relationships? Continue their destructive behavior, even when confronted by the damage it was causing? If so, you are an adult child of a sex addict. Sex addiction is not about parents who cheat on each other or have multiple partners, although it does manifest itself that way. It is about any sexual dysfunction between people in a long-term relationship: sexual withholding, emotional detachment, bullying or demeaning behavior, etc. These relationship problems form subconscious impressions on children and lead to unfulfilling relationships in later life. This book, for the first time, identifies 'sexual addiction' as a root cause of many of the dysfunctions in relationships. It helps readers analyze their parents' relationships. It then shows them the possible dysfunctions these problems caused in their own relationships, giving both general guidance and personal anecdotes from a select group of children of sex addicts. Finally, it gives readers several specific exercises to help free them from their past, heal their relationship with your parents (especially the 'victim partner'—often the wife—who is subconsciously blamed for not stopping the spouse's disruptive behavior), and repair any damage in their current relationships. This book is not just about cheating or abuse. It is about finding the way back to the loving relationships you want...and that those around you deserve.