You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Large Print Publishing
ISBN: 9780739326022
Release Date: 2006
Genre: Family & Relationships

A study of the mother-daughter relationship examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other's point of view.

You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 1588365212
Release Date: 2006-01-24
Genre: Family & Relationships

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives. “Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle From the Hardcover edition.

You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Large Print Publishing
ISBN: 0739326023
Release Date: 2006
Genre: Family & Relationships

A study of the mother-daughter relationship examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other's point of view.

You Were Always Mom s Favorite

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Digital, Inc.
ISBN: 9780345496973
Release Date: 2010
Genre: Family & Relationships

Explores the connections among sisters throughout their childhood years into adulthood, including competitiveness, age differences, and lifelong friendships.

You Don t Really Know Me Why Mothers and Daughters Fight and How Both Can Win

Author: Terri Apter
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN: 9780393285741
Release Date: 2005-08-17
Genre: Family & Relationships

Understand what your teenage daughter really means—and learn to use your arguments to strengthen your bond with her. Mothers and teenage daughters argue more than any other child-parent pair—on average every two-and-a-half days. These quarrels, Terri Apter shows, are attempts to negotiate changes in a relationship that is valued by both mothers and daughters. A daughter often feels her mother doesn't know or understand her, and by fighting hopes to force her mother into a new awareness of who she really is, how she has changed, and what she is now capable of doing and understanding. But mothers often misinterpret their daughter's outbursts as signs of rejection, and they may pull back feeling hurt and confused. Through case studies and conversations between mothers and daughters, Apter shows mothers how to interpret the meanings behind a daughter's angry words and how to emerge from arguments with a new closeness.

I Only Say This Because I Love You

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Digital, Inc.
ISBN: 9780345407528
Release Date: 2002
Genre: Family & Relationships

A guide to communicating better within families explains how to untie the knots that often hamper important discussions and how to enhance personal relationships among family members by understanding the art of conversation and listening.

You Just Don t Understand

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 9780062210098
Release Date: 2013-04-23
Genre: Psychology

From the author of New York Times bestseller You're Wearing That? this bestselling classic work draws upon groundbreaking research by an acclaimed sociolinguist to show that women and men live in different worlds, made of different words. Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

I m Not Mad I Just Hate You

Author: Roni Cohen-Sandler
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9781101076989
Release Date: 2000-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.

You re the Only One I Can Tell

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9781101885819
Release Date: 2017-05-02
Genre: Family & Relationships

This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships. A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOK Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains • the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen • how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete • how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships • how social media is reshaping communication and relationships Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better. “Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity.”—The Atlantic “At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”—The Washington Post

The Mother Daughter Connection

Author: Susie Shellenberger
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
ISBN: 9781418516437
Release Date: 2000-03-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

The Mother Daughter Connection is a book designed to help mothers form intimate, working relationships with their daughters by giving mothers an insider's view of their daughters' thoughts and feelings. The editor of Brio magazine for girls and a veteran youth expert, Susie Shellenberger helps mothers understand the angst and confusion teen girls feel when coping with such issues as body image, fashion envy, dating, fear of failure, and sharing one's faith. With creative questions, conversation starters, and diary entries, mothers are given the tools to not only help their daughters, but also to learn the "stuff they gotta know" to help their daughters survive the teenage years.

Ties that Bind

Author: Kristin Armstrong
Publisher: FaithWords
ISBN: 9781455529001
Release Date: 2013-11-05
Genre: Religion

"A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." --Ecclesiastes 4:12 A mother and daughter relationship is one of the most important and defining relationships in life. Just like when we braid our daughter's hair, as we raise our girls we weave three strands together: our faith and their faith, together with God's love. If we can do this well, the cord is not easily broken. In this weekly devotional there are common themes supported by scripture, with one reading specifically for mothers, the other for daughters. Each week is intended to generate connection and conversation, with questions included to spark discussion. Topics include: Gossip Body Image Forgiveness Contentment Relationships Purity Comparison Perfection Healthy Friendships and many more! This year long journey together will deepen your faith, and your relationship in addition to offering introspection and personal growth for women of every age.

My Mother My Self

Author: Nancy Friday
Publisher: Delta
ISBN: 9780307763730
Release Date: 2010-09-01
Genre: Self-Help

When Nancy Friday began her research for My Mother/My Self in the early 1970’s no work existed that explored the unique interaction between mother and daughter. Today psychotherapists throughout the world acknowledge that if women are to be able to love without possessing, to find work that fulfills them, and to discover their full sexuality, they must first acknowledge their identity as separate from their mother’s. Nancy Friday’s book played a major role in that acceptance. The greatest gift a good mother can give remains unquestioning love planted deep in the first year of life, so deep and anassailable that the tiny child grown to womanhood is never held back by the fear of losing that love, no matter what her own choice in love, sexuality, or work may be. Through candid self-disclosure and hundreds of interviews, Friday investigates a generational legacy and reveals the conflicting feelings of anger, hate, and love the daughter’s hold for their mothers–and why they so often “become” that mother themselves. From the Trade Paperback edition.

How To Manage Your Mother

Author: Alyce-Faye Cleese
Publisher: Skyscraper Publications
ISBN: 9781911072140
Release Date: 2016-12-21
Genre: Psychology

This book explores how different people have dealt with the issues related to getting on with their mothers. Psychotherapist Alyce-Faye Cleese interviewed a wide range of people to get an in-depth understanding of the different questions that arise in our relationships with our mother. From a New York taxi driver to her former husband John Cleese, and a computer consultant to General Colin Powell, the interviews show a remarkable similarity between the problems different people have with their mothers both alive and dead, and Alyce-Faye Cleese suggests a range of ways of dealing with problems that many of us share in one way or another.

A Cup of Comfort Devotional for Mothers and Daughters

Author: James Stuart Bell
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781440520198
Release Date: 2009-02-18
Genre: Family & Relationships

Few bonds are more blessed than that of mother and daughter. Encompassing all of life itself, this special relationship colors every womanÆs past, present, and future. This moving new collection shows how GodÆs love and compassion for mothers and daughters is at work in their lives every day of the year. Featuring a touching essay for each month, biblical passages, and real-life accounts of mother/daughter miracles large and small, this devotional is a daily dose of grace and goodness for Christians everywhere.

Here for You

Author: Susie Shellenberger
Publisher: Bethany House Pub
ISBN: 0764203746
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

"Encouragement and advice for building and strengthening a lifelong bond between moms and their teen daughters. Draws from biblical examples and the authors' own experience in working with teen girls"--Provided by publisher.